Lighten up, this is about fun. Can't have a playbook, go with the flow. Less is more with serious info. Fun, light, everything is great is the vibe you should be going for. Ha ha, he he, etc. Shits and giggles..
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Thanks for all of the great advice on my initial post. Here are a few more questions for you experienced guys with this "interview"process.
I have 2 meetings scheduled for tomorrow. First, is a coffee meeting at 10am and the 2nd is a lunch date at Noon about 15min drive away from 1st meeting.
How LONG is the average meeting for coffee when things are going great or going bad? What if I know within 5min that she isn't going to workout for me. Do I just say "thank you for meeting me, but I'm not interested in meeting again" and just leave or do I have to sit there and finish the "date" and message her later saying "No thanks".
On the other hand, what if she Wows me and she wants to go walk around and talk more or whatever, do I text date #2 and say sorry I can't make it and probably burn that bridge? Or tell her that I had a great time, but I need to go and that I'll contact her later?
Do you ever let the girls know that you are also meeting 1 or 2 others to see how compatible you are with all of them because you're looking to make a monthly arrangement for just 1 of them? Even if that's not true, but tell them that to see if they are offended or do they step up their "interview" process to try and impress you?
Any insight or experiences with this would be greatly appreciated. Thank
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The key is to be fun rather than conducting the Spanish Inquisition while meeting a POT SB, that is if you intend to get laid!!! Look here (pun intended) this is really not a job interview but for you to demonstrate to her that she may indeed have some fun when with you and also as a bonus pick up some fund$. The more you conduct an interview style "date" the less likely you will get anything other than P4P which is fine if that's what you want and all that she is willing to offer.
Other than that, the less info you put other there the better. Why would you even wish to venture down the road of telling # 1 about a POT # 2 and so forth? Women tend to go more BSC than some men and I hasten to warn you that if you rub some of the less stable type the wrong way, you may suffer some BSC consequences! If you are not interested in someone, do NOT tell them to their face and just go the route of radio silence (they do this to many other SDs) or if you are a more caring Gent, just let them know via a txt communication that you are going to be looking at some other options. However, I strongly suggest that you "unshare" your private photos at the very least (if you do not show your mug on the public photos) or even block that POT SB whom you have no interest in pursuing. I block, block, block and even if I get some nasty messages, I block that too!
Now onto the POTs you are interested in:
I keep repeating myself time and time again that the narrative ought to be working toward longer term with stability and reliability on the part of both parties. Tell them that if there's connect and that you both mesh well together, you will seriously consider exclusivity. This onto itself will signal those with half a brain that she will not be the only rodeo for you at the present time.
Lastly, I would not flake on a POT, because I am a man and I do not do the sort of sh*t which they do! Very unlikely that a none P4P POT SB is going to take a roll in the sack with you right after a coffee meet but I must admit that I never do coffee meets.
Good luck.
principium has given good tips. I would second that there is no need to share too much information with POT SB, #1 should not know you are meeting #2, try to make one feel as if she is the one you really would like to hang out with even though you have additional options if she explicitly asks, no need to mention anything otherwise.
Lunch/Coffee meetings usually last anything between an hour and two so you should be done by noon. Recently I had a SB who had time to hang around even though she had her period, we took a drive around and sat in the car to chat and just kissed each other to explore chemistry. Of course these initial dates are just to avoid any freaks or ugly men on their part, if they like you and you have a place then the POT SB may just get in bed with you right away. But by putting two dates so close together you have messed that option up for #1.
I wouldn't say I have another meeting. How would you like to hear from her she needs to go to meet another guy. If you're going to set up two, make one at noon an the other at 7 or so at night. Or just tell her as much as you'd like to stay you've got to leave at a certain time. As far as wanting to leave in 5 minutes. Suck it up. Two people can at least talk for an hour an be cordial to one another.
Lighten up, this is about fun. Can't have a playbook, go with the flow. Less is more with serious info. Fun, light, everything is great is the vibe you should be going for. Ha ha, he he, etc. Shits and giggles..
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Just because I have advocated never lying to a SB I see no reason to tell her about others you are intrviewing.
If so, I can understand why you needed to find hookerland as that type of "honesty" will ensure you NEVER get laid. lol
There are no averages that I have found with SB dates. Some first dates have lasted 24 hours. Some 10-15 minutes.
The chances of a POT SB "stepping up her game" because of the implied competition are about as good as me getting into a "bidding war" for an SB after she tells me she has other interested guys. ZERO.
Personally, I prepare for success, not failure. I would never book two dates so close together. As for telling a woman who doesn't cut it "no thanks" I usually am civil, polite and "nice" during the date, unless she's horrid or a cunt, in which case I reserve the right to be a dick in return, but if I have simply been catfished, I will usually stay for a couple of drinks or a shared meal. I might be (Ok, I AM) kind of blunt in hookerland, but I rarely have the heart to just blow off an unattractive girl and be mean about it. Even I am not THAT mean.
I have always done drinks and/or dinner. Last week I met a 20 YO SB for drinks, that turned into dinner that lead to sex. I love those.
So, the restaurant she picked was closed and she was running late. I saw her arrive and noticed that she was bigger than I expected. I could have split without her knowing, but I'm not a dick so I walked over and said hi. We found another place for lunch. We had a nice lunch and got to know each other. Not terms were discussed, just general sorts of arrangement terms. I tell them I only have time for twice a month or so.
We left and she gave me a nice hug. If she had been game I was ready to play today. Now that I have time to reconsider, I'm not sure I'll see her again. If I don't I'm not saying anything, I'll just let the deal die.
I have a dinner date with the 20 YO tomorrow and a new dinner date with a 37 YO Thursday. I have had about 75% success rate with sex on the first date with drinks and dinner. The booze definitely helps and I have a convertible that ladies all want to take a ride in. When I ask where to, they just smile.