First come close to her ever so slowly so as to lightly brush her lips with yours. Just touch her lightly to feel the texture of her lips. Feel the amount of her natural firmness as well as the skin of her lips. The less firm her lips are the easier she may become tender quickly. Gently place your lips on hers and brush back and forth. Now do it using a figure eight motion. Allow her to be the one to come to you rather than press overly firmly.

Part your lips while your are rubbing her lips with yours, but, not too far. When she opens her mouth inhale her breath lightly. This is not as weird as it sounds. Remember your lips are not completely sealed yet. (This is NOT a vapor lock.) Exhale through your nose. The breath coming across her tongue and mouth will affect her the same way as a gossamer touch. You can actually "touch" areas that you would not otherwise be able to stimulate. Allow her to do the same to you if she chooses. It takes some practice to be gentle enough with this technique.

Take in her scent and allow her to do so with yours if she chooses. Wander over and plant teeny pecks on the upper corners of the mouth where the lips come together. Brush that area with your lower lip. Three or four times and move back to the center.

Gently feel her lower lip with the barest edges of your teeth. Draw her lower lip into your mouth and suck on about a quarter inch depth, no deeper. Place your mouth over the vermilion border of her lips and suck her entire mouth gently, gently, just a few times. Tease the other corner of her lips for awhile. Make sure to tip your head to one side and the other to drag your mouth across hers.

Now is the time you test her to see if she likes the texture of your tongue. Swallow with your mouth closed a couple of times so you don't put your slimy saliva on her. (Not yet anyway.) Brush the barest tip of your tongue across her lower lip then across the place where her lips meet.

Introduction to tongue play is like ringing the door bell at her house. Don't just haul ass up the sidewalk , kick the door down and barge in! Listen for her to absorb the sound of your ringing the bell. Some ladies have the buzzer, some have lovely chimes, some play the tune from Buckingham Palace, some have great knockers. (Sorry, I couldn't resist!) Wait for her to hear you and decide to invite you in. If she likes the way you feel and is ready for you she will answer you affirmatively by responding with her tongue.

While gently sucking on her lips use the tip of your tongue to caress hers. Not everyone likes their tongue sucked on because it is IMNHO even more intimate that bbbj, but, some ladies love it. Draw your tongue back out and use the flat of it on her lips and even the face outside the lips in a circular motion while gently sucking including the lips at the same time. "Rub " her lips with the FLAT of your tongue while sucking on the same place.

Important things to remember:

Deep throat done well is a wonderful thing. With the PENIS not the TONGUE.

Immobilize your neck. Do not use your head to dart back and forth pecking at her like a turkey eating ground corn. This will only bruise her mouth and scare her.

Do not use the weight of your head pressing down to bend her neck backward by accident. Go ahead and cradle her head in your hand(s) so she can rest in your hands if she has to look up but, don't grasp her head and hold it in place. Again scary.

Only stay covering her mouth for a few seconds at a time (maybe 20-30) and allow her to come up for air.

Swallow often. Especially if you are the one on top.

The initial touch is the most intense so be sure to recreate it as many times as possible.

Don't forget to involve stroking with your hands on her face, head and body. Long, slow strokes are calming and help build an intimate mood.

If you two just can't agree on what is gentle and what is not just sit still and allow HER to kiss YOU. No harm, no foul. As long as the end result is good.

Switch what your are doing every few seconds. Then you can be gentle and still be intense. The reason I said to be so gentle is that you are feeling for her lips to engorge indicating sexual excitement. Listen for her soft moans telling you she likes what you are doing and tell her when she does something you like. Moan softly or tell her, "Oh, that is lovely. Can you do it again? Yes, THAT!"