Hi Fish! I've been retired about a year and a half so far and am SERIOUSLY loving it. I realize many people fear they won't know what to do with themselves, but for me the problem is the opposite. I'm so busy and have so much more energy for stuff that I can't figure out how I ever managed to live while working. Here's one example of how wonderfully transformative retirement has been. Last May I met a Sugar Baby. We hit it off big time. She's just a baby at 23, but incredibly talented and accomplished. One of her attributes is that she is a serious health nut, athlete, nationally recognized competitor, personal trainer, etc. Well I felt kinda outa shape compared to her and have used that feeling to motivate me to get in shape for the first time in my life. I've lost 18 pounds, lost 5 inches from my waistline, added noticeable amounts of muscle all over my body, and love what I see in the mirror. She loves it too! In a few days I'm leaving for a 10 day sailing trip out to Catalina Island. I've been to Mexico, Los Angeles, Florida, south Texas, San Diego and the Adirondacks this year. I work on investment management every day. Spend lots of time with my awesome wife, riding motorcycles, puttering in my workshop, reading, trolling websites like TER for pussy, etc. Just too damn busy for words!
I'm not quite 60 yet, but I'm close enough that I believe I'm entitled to a special dispensation for purposes of this post.
A number of recent threads on this board have involved the question of whether hobbyists prefer younger or older providers. I fall into the former camp. Nothing gets my juices flowing like a petite, nubile babe riding me like a latter day Dale Evans.
I don't think of myself as "old." In my mind's eye, at least, I'm still in my early 20s. I realize, however, that others perceive me as old. Although I am fit, there isn't much I can (or want to) do about my thinning gray hair, crows feet, or absence of tatoos and piercings.
No provider has even hinted at it, but sometimes I do get to wondering if they think that there's something a little creepy about this old guy who, like Aqualung, is clearly eyeing little girls with bad intent.
I'm fairly certain these feelings are the result of my straight laced upbringing and are the product of my somewhat fevered imagination, but they still nag at me for some reason. Although I must say that I'm not bothered by them remotely enough to make me stop engaging in these delightful activities.
So, here are my questions. Do other hobbyists ever have these kind of feelings? Can any providers reassure me that all of this mishegoss* is in my head?
* Yiddish for craziness
and your behavior is that of a gentleman, then go for it. Lastly, the assumption is made you are not misrepresenting yourself when you are seeking your encounters. "Hi Babe, my name is Jean and I'm a 29 years old and a self-made millionaire."
I too enjoy the nubiles. I think my gray beard is quite at home between the thighs of a 20 something. We celebrate youth culture. Every alluring ad features young women. We as a society sexualize them. Is it any surprise your attracted? I don't think so. Have confidence. Remember, guys get more distinguished with age.
A tush is a tush, but a young tush is a site to behold.
I am attracted to young curvy ladies, but if a mature lady
is still in good shape and sexy, I'll take her any day. Not say
that I have not been with 20somethings, but I do have a daughter
37yo. So I feel as if I am their Grandfather(only sometimes). Some of the
young ladies like me. Us older guys appreciate them much more then
a young man, who is really out to get off. At my age, I am only interested
in the intimacy. I am a sucker for DFK, long DATY sessions, lots of caressing,
fondling, then if time allows.....me. But I love the LADIES!!! OY VAY....
When I was not quite 60 yet, I regularly enjoyed the company of a provider who was a young 30's something petite woman. She was about 5'3", maybe 100 lbs soaking wet, and to me, smoking hot. I'd say at the time she could have easily passed for young 20's, and possibly even teens. I was not shy with the compliments regards her nubile appearance, to which one time she says something to the effect of "you like little girls, don't you?" That instantly shrunk my wood and I responded that for me there was a huge difference between an attraction to a petite woman who was an adult and being attracted to a child. That comment from her still sticks with me to this day and was a reality check that to me was perhaps pretty telling of what she deep down thought about this old guy.
Truth is of course, that all of my provider dates are with younger women, 30 somethings, 40 somethings, 50 somethings, and once in while an older 20's something. Most all of them have made me feel much younger than I am, and most were not at all icky about my age. But one never knows what lurks in the minds of others.
Don't let you mind be uneasy... (With apologies to Ian Anderson).
Think of it as role play. As previous posters mentioned, you are OK as long as she is not a minor...
My first provider was a couple months short of her 19th birthday and I was 58. 10 years later, I tend to go for ladies in their 30's and 40's, but I still see the occasional 20-something.
Like you, I do not feel like I am my current age (except for the aches and pains), I still like to do the same stuff I did in years past. Relax and enjoy.
LLAP,
Swim
as long as the envelope is full..you have no need to worry..
I just look past the gawkers and hum this little ditty:
Very nicely articulated, jeandeaux! You asked: "Do other hobbyists ever have these kind of feelings?" Yes, absolutely!
always remember that they have pre-selected themselves. They are dating you for the money, of course. But also they very often are the ones who no kidding prefer older men and are turned on by them. As much as the fantasy of being with a young petite girl may appeal to us, the fantasy of playing with a kind Grandpa appeals to them.
Age is just a number, so I'm often told by younger providers. I'll turn 60 in 6 months and my current ATF is in her late 20's. Most of the younger providers that I've seen tend to prefer older gents, so it's all good. Some even have age requirements and they won't see younger hobbyists.
You want to shtup an alta kocker maybe? Who is paying whom?
Have a gentler touch & knowledge of the female anatomy better then younger hobbyists... Just my 2 cent,..
I am very thankful to younger ladies will see me, as I am definitely over the 60 threshold. The creep factor has been occurring to me on and off, usually when I am appreciatively kissing my date tenderly on the forehead while at the same time, Mr. Happy is working away down below looking for her cervix.
On a certain level, we have to admit if the creep factor has already occurred to us, it is not unique. I am taking some refuge in the thought that providers around 40 can deal with this, and the really young ones are maybe not self aware enough to have this fully register.
A number of recent threads on this board have involved the question of whether hobbyists prefer younger or older providers. I fall into the former camp. Nothing gets my juices flowing like a petite, nubile babe riding me like a latter day Dale Evans.
I don't think of myself as "old." In my mind's eye, at least, I'm still in my early 20s. I realize, however, that others perceive me as old. Although I am fit, there isn't much I can (or want to) do about my thinning gray hair, crows feet, or absence of tatoos and piercings.
No provider has even hinted at it, but sometimes I do get to wondering if they think that there's something a little creepy about this old guy who, like Aqualung, is clearly eyeing little girls with bad intent.
I'm fairly certain these feelings are the result of my straight laced upbringing and are the product of my somewhat fevered imagination, but they still nag at me for some reason. Although I must say that I'm not bothered by them remotely enough to make me stop engaging in these delightful activities.
So, here are my questions. Do other hobbyists ever have these kind of feelings? Can any providers reassure me that all of this mishegoss* is in my head?
* Yiddish for craziness.
Perhaps the antidote to feeling creepy, self conscious, or immoral, for the older man paying a young woman for sexual pleasure, is to recognize the benefits that accrue to the young woman as a result of your patronage.
In a world were a young woman is often unable to earn a living wage, sex work provides an opportunity. When a young sex worker surveys the consumers of her service an appealing market is older men.
In my experience, the erotic nature of old-young interaction is greatly enhanced when the sex worker is entrepreneurial, devoted to her product, and financially independent.
Ez men est khazer zol rinen ariber der bord!
(If you're going to eat pork, eat the best kind!)
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is the age range of the providers I have sessioned with.....
raise that to age 84 on the civilian side.
Life has been good...
and now that I am collecting social security, it has been even better.
I'm curious: What is the most attractive element of retirement?
I'd be at sixes and sevens trying to figure out what to do with all the time on my hands.
Hi Fish! I've been retired about a year and a half so far and am SERIOUSLY loving it. I realize many people fear they won't know what to do with themselves, but for me the problem is the opposite. I'm so busy and have so much more energy for stuff that I can't figure out how I ever managed to live while working. Here's one example of how wonderfully transformative retirement has been. Last May I met a Sugar Baby. We hit it off big time. She's just a baby at 23, but incredibly talented and accomplished. One of her attributes is that she is a serious health nut, athlete, nationally recognized competitor, personal trainer, etc. Well I felt kinda outa shape compared to her and have used that feeling to motivate me to get in shape for the first time in my life. I've lost 18 pounds, lost 5 inches from my waistline, added noticeable amounts of muscle all over my body, and love what I see in the mirror. She loves it too! In a few days I'm leaving for a 10 day sailing trip out to Catalina Island. I've been to Mexico, Los Angeles, Florida, south Texas, San Diego and the Adirondacks this year. I work on investment management every day. Spend lots of time with my awesome wife, riding motorcycles, puttering in my workshop, reading, trolling websites like TER for pussy, etc. Just too damn busy for words!
I am 48 but like to go on the board so I can learn and prepare for when I retire. It is just around the corner. At any rate, as I observe people that retire, I think the "I don't know what I will do with myself when I retire" mantra is a face saving way of saying "I don't have enough money to retire, or to retire and support my current lifestyle so I will keep my nose to the grind stone."
EVERYONE I talk to that is retired that has a decent nest egg loves it. And, people like that can work when they want to keep themselves mentally sharp or just because, but not because they need the $$$$
I still have the self-doubts about being 65 and seeing women their 20's. I read the reviews of providers I've seen and ask myself why they didn't text me afterward to thank me as they did other guys, or why they didn't come on to me as strongly as they did to other guys, etc, etc. I've thought all along it's my age, and haven't been able to shake that.
One absolutely top--shelf provider changed that, though. I was treated like I was the last man on earth, and everything she did--from setting up the appointment to her attire to her performance--was as good as I suspect it gets for any guy who sees her. My conclusion is that she's just more professional than the others I've seen. If she visited more often, I'd be broke. 
Some young girls have no issue being with guys old enough to be Dad or Grandpa. Some put up with it for the money...well hookers hook for the money so that is not hard to get.
I am sure a myriad of things go through a hookers mind but do you really want to know? I suggest you live in ignorance as too much truth might spoil the illusion for you.
Dear Hbyist+truth:
Just wondering the range of thoughts you might have. Would it be from is he socially incompatible to interact with the opposite sex to now I see why he sees us because no one will put up with him in real life. I am just wondering, would those be some of the thoughts that would be underneath you mask of a smiling face?
I completely enjoy older men...they are usually very kind and very kinky along with totally appreciating a lovely lady no matter what the age is. At your age, the connection and sensuality is more than just a number on the sun dial. However attraction and shopping choice is yours of course and if that sexy 20 and under thing has your attention du jour then by all means you should play and explore. Afterall that is the coolest thing about the Internet search...you look and see and fish for what attracts you.
Of course there are younger ladies that want the older man just from their own desires; however, more don't. I have conversed with your providers who absolutely will take an older hobbiest but usually chat with me to help them cope with the experience. Some develop with these tastes with time...and some don't. So take care to find the ones that have had previous positive experiences so that you do not get one that is going to just bring a 'bear it' Attitude to your date
I'm in the same boat... 60ish but very fit, libido at least as strong as when I was 30, and overall "young at heart"... but with the life lessons and maturity and manners of a 60-something man. I've had great times with 20-something providers, who didn't seem put off at all by my greying hair and a few laugh lines. I wonder if how young we FEEL is a factor as to whether younger providers will gladly see us oldsters, or will sigh and think, "hey, it's some Benjamins, grin and bear it"?
But as I've said before, while I've seen some providers in their 20s I tend to go for providers 35-50+. It seems to work better, "connection"-wise.
....to know that a gentleman older than I is so attracted to me.
There is something about knowing I am a young, attractive, confident college girl with a secret bad-girl side... and knowing that gentleman of all ages are attracted to me..... that is a TOTAL, genuine turn on.
I notice that, for some reason, it's the gentleman between ages 50-70 who turn me on the most. There is just something about being someone's "muse" and/or sex-kitten that is just so enticing.
While I realize that I am probably "strange" in this sense and that it may not be the typical experience for most young ladies... this is definitely my experience, and I wouldn't have it any other way.
Thanks for an interesting thread....
With Gratitude,
Mia
Dale Evans = CG
I don't think of myself as "old." ...
(nothing personal, i know who she was, and i feel the same way about not thinking myself as old and loving 20 soemthing babes riding me... just never thought of dale evans at the time!)