Communication is a two way street, so it isn't only what I prefer that matters - if the provider isn't much of an emailer than we aren't going to get very far very fast.
In general I prefer email for initial contact. I can be succinct and give the provider all of the information she needs to assess whether to follow-up with me or not (i.e., the sort of data I'm looking for (sans all the specifics you DON'T mention), the preferred venuue, and availability of references, and a pointer to a web page that provides them with a backgrounder on me specific to the hobby -- anonymous, but sufficiently revealing to help the provider get to know me). I find that most providers (who are comforatable with email) respond well to this.
For those providers that just aren't proficient at email I give them a call.
So how do you discern if a provider is not an email person? Sometimes they say so in their ads. Pay attention to that and honor it. (unless you use email proficiency as a screening factor). Also, if I don't get an email reply in a few days I give them a call (I usually try to schedule a week or two in advance).
happy hobbying
Question. Do you like to call a provider or use E-mail to make first contact with a provider? I like to hear the pros & cons with both. I have been with 4 providers. Most of my contact has been through e-mail.I just feel safe doing it by e mail. If a women does not respond within 2 days. I just take her off my list. But if you use a cell phone I fell kind of awakward asking questions & get real nervous on the phone. Which in turn makes the women nervous Too. I like to hear other peoples input on this. CC
I'm not much of a phone person anyways.
Over half the time you don't get to talk to the person but get their voice mail instead.
With email, you don't have to worry about the return phone call coming when it is inconvenient.
Phone calls are good for after the appointment is set up and you can chat and get comfortable with each other; also when I'm on my way to an appointment I like to call and just double check that everything is OK.
I like email. You can say everything you want to say, ask all your questions, and not get your thoughts derailed as you can on the phone.
I agree with you CC on the awkardness of the phone sometimes.
The lady can view and respond at her liesure. If I don't receive a response in a few days, I move on.
Convienent, safe (relatively). I'm nowhere near as nervous sending email as I am on the phone, though once we've emailed, the phone isn't as intimidating. Around Reno, if a girl won't answer emails, she's likely not worth booking, and the ones who do answer are generally more professional.
Email is my fave for my first contact also, for same reasons as wanderineyes12 states. To me, email is easier to express thoughts because if I don't like what I wrote, I can go back and change before sending. Can't change what you said when on phone.
E-mails are very convenient so the person can view and respond at their leisure.
But I can tell in a girl's voice if they are going to be attentive, responsive and fun when talking on the phone. In an e-mail, you can't tell what type of person they are.
I'm judging girls on not only their looks but how playful they will be on the phone.
I've saved myself a lot of time and money by calling and talking to many girls who got great reviews here and found out later, they were fake reviews and on the phone, I found them to be rather un-responsive or have a bad attitude.
You can't judge bad attitude in an e-mail. Also, I've gotten some really lousy e-mails from girls, some just don't type or write well but are better on the phone and GREAT in person. Voice intonations and inflections are important clues when talking to a girl on the phone.
If she answers your questions but doesn't elaborate or sound enthused:
a) she might have just woke up
b) she may be on drugs
c) she may not be in the business very long and doesn't care or give a damn about you or anyone else and you're in for a lousy time
d) she's just one of those people with a poor attitude towards life.
e) all the above
I work hard for my money and don't want to throw it away on a mediocre experience so I use several factors to judge if I want to see a girl or not and if I'll have a good to great time with her.
Reading reviews on this site or even a word of mouth review by a friend won't be a 100% guaranteed good time but it's a start.
RH
I like both-- email for intial contact (through my website, preferably) and then phone, so I, too, can hear the voice, the diction, the attitude and the general level of politeness and respect.
I use a lot of methods to decide who I want to spend time with-- my clients' demeanor on the phone is a huge one!
Communication is a two way street, so it isn't only what I prefer that matters - if the provider isn't much of an emailer than we aren't going to get very far very fast.
In general I prefer email for initial contact. I can be succinct and give the provider all of the information she needs to assess whether to follow-up with me or not (i.e., the sort of data I'm looking for (sans all the specifics you DON'T mention), the preferred venuue, and availability of references, and a pointer to a web page that provides them with a backgrounder on me specific to the hobby -- anonymous, but sufficiently revealing to help the provider get to know me). I find that most providers (who are comforatable with email) respond well to this.
For those providers that just aren't proficient at email I give them a call.
So how do you discern if a provider is not an email person? Sometimes they say so in their ads. Pay attention to that and honor it. (unless you use email proficiency as a screening factor). Also, if I don't get an email reply in a few days I give them a call (I usually try to schedule a week or two in advance).
happy hobbying