...trying to return to "regular" dating after getting your first sweet taste of sugar. It's like crack, people.
TL;DR: Now I'm a believer about sugar dating and SA in particular.
So I'm not a frequent hobbyist, maybe once every couple months on average. I decided to check out the sugar scene a few years ago through SA. I found the whole process too much of a pain and would just let my membership lapse and then sign back on when the whim hit me. So I dabbled but had only 2 ever progressing further than a first meet, and never really found anyone that totally checked my boxes. I occasionally found myself nodding to every post or article calling SA a scam.
Holy hell did that ever change a few weeks ago.
Saw a profile, started chatting. Shortly after, with no high expectations, I found myself, stunned and slack-jawed, having coffee with a young brunette Diane Kruger. We had an amazing conversation and later had a couple meetings I would call real dates under any other circumstance. In fact, once when I handed her an allowance she even looked surprised and said she wasn't expecting anything. As things progressed I found out she really was just looking for someone who would take care of her and who she could devote herself to pleasing. Needless to say, I'm pretty happy with how things are going.
So for anyone wondering, there are good- no, amazing- women into sugar dating and on SA in particular. It may take a long time to connect with them, but if you're lucky and patient the reward can be mind-blowingly good. It's a shame- I have friends who are good guys that might find what they're looking for in the sugar dating world, but I'm not comfortable talking about that aspect of my life with them. Hopefully one of them hobbies in secret as well, reads this forum, and decides to check out the sugar scene as well.
...trying to return to "regular" dating after getting your first sweet taste of sugar. It's like crack, people.
After discovering Sugar Dating I rarely date pro escorts any more.
I look forward to my next session with a pro.
To CageBoy and alike who have had terrible ROI vis a vis sugar bowl, SA and similar:
This method takes a lot of work and effort plus literally a tremendous amount of leg work before it pays off and then again, it will NEVER pay off for some. Without getting into to the reasons as to why and how at the expense of ruffling some feathers, it is suffice to just state that some guys really ought to stick to the Pros and just beeline to that place of Nirvana. However for those who have the grasp of some basic "game" fundamentals, are willing initially to part with say 500 (give or take), are honest in their intentions, are fortunate to be in fertile and large SB market and are prepared to put in the required time, this method will pay back handsome dividends!
People like GaGa, SftD and I are akin to SA unicorns in our own unique ways because we are single, detached and pretty much carefree which can not be said about a good portion of the SA patrons. If I was a person of extremely high net worth, married with a family who stood to lose MUCH, I would be terrified to use a medium such as SA as there are so many grey and blurred lines but to each his own!
This method takes a lot of work and effort plus literally a tremendous amount of leg work before it pays off and then again, it will NEVER pay off for some. Without getting into to the reasons as to why and how at the expense of ruffling some feathers, it is suffice to just state that some guys really ought to stick to the Pros and just beeline to that place of Nirvana. However for those who have the grasp of some basic "game" fundamentals, are willing initially to part with say 500 (give or take), are honest in their intentions, are fortunate to be in fertile and large SB market and are prepared to put in the required time, this method will pay back handsome dividends!
People like GaGa, SftD and I are akin to SA unicorns in our own unique ways because we are single, detached and pretty much carefree which can not be said about a good portion of the SA patrons. If I was a person of extremely high net worth, married with a family who stood to lose MUCH, I would be terrified to use a medium such as SA as there are so many grey and blurred lines but to each his own!
2. I can part with $500 to see a nice SB. The part I disagree with is parting with a lot of money just to join these sites with no guarantees. Paying hard earned money to open credits to message potential SBs and receiving zero in return.
3. Honest intentions? That counts for squat in these SB/SD sites.
4. Prepared to put in the required time? Some people have to get up early in the morning and go to work all day.
5. I wasn't prepared for the amount of trash and elephant dung that went my way when joining these sites: heavyset disgusting women, con artists, hookers, and time wasting flakes.
I won't bother by delving too much into your post, but I've got to summarize by telling you that your attitude is all wrong starting with your first line!
Here are some cliff notes for this who are interested to learn rather than perpetual arguments back and forth:
To know some fundamentals of wooing women or a game which you play in the dating scene is not necessarily tantamount to being a BS artist. I was not referring to The Game all Pick Up Artists (PUA) and crap like that, although if some PUA instructors teach men to be a MAN and self improve, there's nothing wrong with that but then again I digress. Also note that I had said be earnest and honest in your intentions so clearly I was not advocating BS'ing women!
Seriously any kind of courtship requires some effort on the part of the man. Just don't be a supplicating doormat allowing women to walk all over you! Be a man who has his own interests, passion and his "own" time so you don't fall into the trap of being avail for that one girl who gives you the runaround. I personally have no problem holding a younger flowers hands and giving her gentle kisses on her soft skin so much as I have no problem retorting to another young flower who acts up in public and wants (the wrong kind of) attention, to quit that sh*t or else she'd have to call her own Uber!
The Pro game spoils some of you guys because you fall mostly for their BS facade and platitudes! But then again, that tempo wasn't for me and this method is exactly up my alley, so bite me!
Nothing wrong with teaching a man how to be a bullshit artist?
It is difficult to maintain the (right?) attitude when faced with heavyset disgusting women, con artists, flakes, weirdoes, and time wasting morons.
It is difficult to maintain a bright outlook when money is going down the drain while this tidal wave of fetidness keeps pouring through the dam.
When I visit a pro, I'm there for fun. I'm not interested in her platitudes and BS façade. I would caution you Principium to be aware of your own delusions when your Unicorn SB throws her brand of BS at you to keep the money flowing. I defy you to close your wallet. Let's see how much she really likes you.
Bite you? Are still in high school? I haven't heard that line since high school.
First and foremost, my intention was not to offend you so I would feel a bit badly if I did. I was also not insinuating that you have no "game" but was merely expressing that even though nit as much as IRL dating, sugar dating still requires some level of "wooing" a woman because women are not like most guys who have an on/off switch when it comes to their sexual desires as they need to be dialed up to that level and hence why I take my hat off to hookers who are such great actresses to be able to fake and mimic how men are turned on.
As for my Unicorn: I am under no decision that she could be fucking some other SD as I am writing this and whoever said anything about me wanting to shut my wallet to her to find out her true feelings toward me? I am not in this to get all touchy and feely when I am apart from an SB! But in my opinion, the experience has been much more "GFE" for me with an SB than any hooker whom I've been with.
None of the above negates the negatives which you have brought up, delusional women, homely looking, fat, overweight, scammers, pros, pros Pro, etc... It takes time and effort plus the right attitude and I respectfully stated that I had detected the wrong attitude exuding from you. Therefore I still maintain that this game is most probably not for you as the pro game was not so good for me. I don't see anything wrong with the essence of my original statement!
And neither do I see anything wrong with my reply as well. Funny, it seems to me that the SBs I have encountered on these sites have the wrong attitude. A number of them expect George Clooney or some other comparable film star to contact them at any moment. You bet.
I also disagree about the GFE experience. I have had more GFE from providers than any SB I have encountered on these sites. More like "assholish" behavior than GFE
No need to send f u PMs. You aren't having the success you want on SA or some other site, then move on or go back to providers. I've been playing both sides (SBs and escorts) this last month. My hit ratio on SBs ain't great but I'm figuring it out. Not sure SB is for me but that would be my decision based on what effort I'm willing to put into it.
BTW: same to you on the advice in your PM.
Hey "cunty boy" Go Fuck Yourself!!!
If you don't like the Sugar Bowl, get the fuck out.
I give the same advice for guys who seem not to like hookers, but can't seem to help themselves from posting on GD. No one is forcing you to be here, I am not here to convince you about how great the Sugar Bowl is, quite frankly I disagree with Princess when he says he doesn't want to offend you, I most definitely want to offend you, as I find your whining here fucking pathetic. Don't even bother sending me a PM, I guarantee you I will be even less polite in private as I hate fucking whiners. Don't let the door hit you on the ass on the way out.
If you don't like the Sugar Bowl, get the fuck out.
I give the same advice for guys who seem not to like hookers, but can't seem to help themselves from posting on GD. No one is forcing you to be here, I am not here to convince you about how great the Sugar Bowl is, quite frankly I disagree with Princess when he says he doesn't want to offend you, I most definitely want to offend you, as I find your whining here fucking pathetic. Don't even bother sending me a PM, I guarantee you I will be even less polite in private as I hate fucking whiners. Don't let the door hit you on the ass on the way out.
Now I didn't say I was compared "favorably" to Al Pacino, just that I was compared.
and what the fuck are you still doing here anyhow? You don't like us, you don't like SB's and both they and us certainly don't like you, so why don't you piss off?
and what the fuck are you still doing here anyhow? You don't like us, you don't like SB's and both they and us certainly don't like you, so why don't you piss off?
Piss off? Gambler--you are one uncivilized seedy dude: Driving around college campuses with your shirt collar open just like Al Pacino in Scarface. The pleasure rug--with a few grey hairs--sticking out? Your wrinkled neck weighed down by all that gold bling--presumably genuine gold. God help that chick who gets in the car with you.
Gambler--put your wrinkled mushy red nose close to your computer screen. That's my middle finger you see behind your reading glasses...
Cageyboy is a douche. I think he thought I was calling him princess. Sent me a f u PM.
Bassrat--I sent you another f u PM.
TL;DR: Sugar dating can actually be quite close to real dating. And just like real dating, getting the most out of it depends on timing and luck, probably much more than your own efforts.
Completely agreed with you there was a LOT of wading through crap and even some disappointment after promising meetings went nowhere, and my stomach probably has an ulcer from all the coffee I've had. I'd been on there for at least 3 years and hadn't found anything so believe me I get what you're saying. It probably is similar to panning for gold lol.
I read in another thread someone describing sugar dating as not quite dating, not quite escorting, but something entirely new given most people's previous lack of access to what is probably quite an old but uncommon social dynamic. I have to agree with that, and I now see sites like SA as much more similar to other dating sites like Match.com, meaning that, as Principium said, some might not ever get anything out of the site. Kind of sucks since their marketing sells the idea that sugar dating reverses the usual "guy chases girl" dynamic, whereas in reality I believe the best non-working girls will have their pick of suitors, and if they're not really interested in getting as many SDs as possible, then it will again come to who can impress them the most. It just won't work like finding a pro, where you can generally know what you're getting for your contribution and can even go to sites like this one to confirm your expectations.
Ultimately, in my experience with SA, just like with real dating it seems like you and your SB have to be on at the same time, and have to have been lucky enough to connect, then find each other attractive enough to give it a chance to see where it goes. Also like real dating one's efforts may not be directly proportional to one's results lol. In my situation, I'm pretty average looking for my age, and I'm probably better off than most my age but not NBA baller. What I can do well is make a girl smile and laugh and feel good about herself, which may cause some to roll their eyes here, but I wouldn't ever consider myself good at game. In fact, I bought hook line and sinker into the whole "girl chases guy" marketing message because I suck at game. I can't tell you how many times I've been friend-zoned lol.
Anyway, thanks for reading. I don't have anyone IRL to talk about this with so it's good to be able to chat with others, even if they don't agree.