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So first, Alyssa, great question! Second, apologies that it hasn't received proper treatment from the board. With due respect to those men who at least posted something, the answer is not a BOGO coupon for time. I probably rank in the bottom quartile for salary on this board and could really use a good deal, but I still disagree that it is the best way to for a provider to show unexpected generosity.

I get that if a provider showed affection by lowering their rates just for us, or were to see us OTC, that it would make us feel more loved and appreciated. But this is not a lasting solution.  How would they show their generosity in the future? Cutting their rates by another $100? A whole day of OTC time? Eventually they would end up paying us and then some of you would have to start faking orgasms just to make them happy and keep the money coming in.  

The truth, ladies, is that most of us have an incurable case of PADDs - Penis Attention Deficit Disorder. We don't get the attention we want so we wander off to find it somewhere else. Most of us are married to women who are would probably rate a 7 and who are willing to give a 5-6 level performance.  Their hourly rates are generally pretty low (and we've prepaid for them anyway) and they will go out for a drink OTC almost any time we ask. And yet, here we are, taking considerable risks to find something different. Every other review touts their new ATF, but 2 or 3 dates later and they are off to find something new. Yes, there is a minority group of monogamous mongers out there who are regulars and giving them a $50 discount is a nice gesture and a reasonable business practice.  But they are not the target for this thread.

Alyssa was right in that what we are seeking is the unexpected. PADDs is incurable and we will inevitably move on to some new cure with bigger implants or a tighter ass or a raunchier kink - but it doesn't have to be terminal. You can, however, slow the progression and make sure that customers swing back by every once in awhile through injections of creativity. If you are the shy teen virgin the first date, be the aggressive naughty nurse on the next one. If you spent the first 20 minutes in a slow steamy makeout session last time, then the next time push him up against the wall, grab his crotch and tell him you will kiss later but right now you need a good hard fuck. Be the obedient submissive one day, and the next sit him in a chair and give him a "no-touch" lap dance with a DFK finish.  Can't dance? -  straddle him and use a vibrator on yourself and tell him how wet you're getting (Bonus points if you take it all the way to a real orgasm). My personal favorite roleplays for a first meeting is "food delivery guy meets woman in towel".  Ask your customer to bring you something and meet him a towel that "acccidentally falls off when he comes in. As a bonus I usually score a little OTC time when we eat the food after we play together.  

The truth is, even when we think we know what we want, we don't. Nobody really wants a Victoria's Secret model in lingerie every single time.  If we don't explicitly ask you to dress a certain way then mix it up. One of my top 5 best fucks was a provider who was running late on a hot day. She texted me apologizing and said she would need to take a quick shower and get ready and, of course, would not count it against our time. She came in wearing workout clothes and full of sweat and looked so sexy I practically threw her on the bed and (consensually) ripped into her. It was a hot sweaty bondagy mess of tangled sports bra and running shorts and one side of my dick got rubbed raw against her lace thong that I had just shoved to the side (how do you wear those things?!). Afterward we showered together and cuddled. I'll never know what "sexy outfit" she brought with and I couldn't care less.  

My answer is already so long nobody will read it, but I think you get my point. Even if your attempt at creativity is an epic fail you will be able to laugh about it and that is pretty sexy too. The fact that you cared enough to try something new speaks volumes. If you're running dry for ideas PM me and I'll happily offer my personal coaching services at a very reasonable price or we can just trade services. LOL

-- Modified on 2/17/2017 7:38:00 PM

I've thought of a few things myself but they only tend to work with gentlemen I know well. This thread is open to honesty and creativity.  Give us ladies some insight to making your time just a tad more special.  

Xoxo
Alyssa

I know Courtney does a cheese platter to rave reviews.  I tried a few times- it was never touched.
Maybe I should've unwrapped the slices?  Ha!

Ha Unfortunately I'm not sure how long a cheese plate would make it in my place maybe a meat plate I wouldn't eat like thinly sliced Italian meats. Meaty man Foods lol.

I'm basically the den mom of my racing crew, and the only snacks they gobble up are almonds and beef jerky. Full pass on candy and chips.  Sometimes they'll eat a veggie tray.

So logically, that would probably transfer, but I just...can't bring myself to seductively offer an array of exotic...jerky. Lol

Lol maybe you can put the jerky on a fancy looking platter with some flowers, and put some tea candles around the tray. I would be in the mood for romance if I saw that.  

But truly, I am a sucker for for jerky in any presentation, and I am a provider not a client so :/

... costs nothing and doesn't have to be refrigerated (you wouldn't want to!), and you always have it with you. So, see, I'm an easy date.  :-)

In addition to the obvious....  i.e. non-rushed, discrete location, on time, one of the things that takes an experience from good to great for me is the intimacy between "rounds" one and two.   I much prefer when a woman snuggles up and lays right next to me.  Occasionally I've been with women who sit over toward the edge of the bed which is a bit of a buzzkill for me.  
I would prefer just a bottle of water over a cheese plate.  Although I would appreciate the time that she took to prepare something for me.
I'm not sure that I'm even answering the question!!!  It's never happened to me, but I would really enjoy if a woman suggested we eat a quick lunch or have a drink OTC after our time together----probably not what you wanted to hear!!

From my main girl. We also go out to eat OTC half the time. Her idea,  I won't let pay but she does leave the TIP. She's a keeper.

For me, roughly in this order:
1.  Extra time, assuming we're still into it
2.  Humor and playfulness
3.  Saying what turns you on the most (and then doing it)
4.  Music
5.  Candles

Posted By: AlyssaTantra
I've thought of a few things myself but they only tend to work with gentlemen I know well. This thread is open to honesty and creativity.  Give us ladies some insight to making your time just a tad more special.  
   
 Xoxo  
 Alyssa

I'll take all these suggestions into mind. I do already have a wonderful playlist with Lianne Las Havas, Corinne Rae Bailey, and Solange and a lovely peony candle that brings you back to Hong Kong.

I'd like extra time and/or after 8 or so visits with a provider a freebie or discount

So first, Alyssa, great question! Second, apologies that it hasn't received proper treatment from the board. With due respect to those men who at least posted something, the answer is not a BOGO coupon for time. I probably rank in the bottom quartile for salary on this board and could really use a good deal, but I still disagree that it is the best way to for a provider to show unexpected generosity.

I get that if a provider showed affection by lowering their rates just for us, or were to see us OTC, that it would make us feel more loved and appreciated. But this is not a lasting solution.  How would they show their generosity in the future? Cutting their rates by another $100? A whole day of OTC time? Eventually they would end up paying us and then some of you would have to start faking orgasms just to make them happy and keep the money coming in.  

The truth, ladies, is that most of us have an incurable case of PADDs - Penis Attention Deficit Disorder. We don't get the attention we want so we wander off to find it somewhere else. Most of us are married to women who are would probably rate a 7 and who are willing to give a 5-6 level performance.  Their hourly rates are generally pretty low (and we've prepaid for them anyway) and they will go out for a drink OTC almost any time we ask. And yet, here we are, taking considerable risks to find something different. Every other review touts their new ATF, but 2 or 3 dates later and they are off to find something new. Yes, there is a minority group of monogamous mongers out there who are regulars and giving them a $50 discount is a nice gesture and a reasonable business practice.  But they are not the target for this thread.

Alyssa was right in that what we are seeking is the unexpected. PADDs is incurable and we will inevitably move on to some new cure with bigger implants or a tighter ass or a raunchier kink - but it doesn't have to be terminal. You can, however, slow the progression and make sure that customers swing back by every once in awhile through injections of creativity. If you are the shy teen virgin the first date, be the aggressive naughty nurse on the next one. If you spent the first 20 minutes in a slow steamy makeout session last time, then the next time push him up against the wall, grab his crotch and tell him you will kiss later but right now you need a good hard fuck. Be the obedient submissive one day, and the next sit him in a chair and give him a "no-touch" lap dance with a DFK finish.  Can't dance? -  straddle him and use a vibrator on yourself and tell him how wet you're getting (Bonus points if you take it all the way to a real orgasm). My personal favorite roleplays for a first meeting is "food delivery guy meets woman in towel".  Ask your customer to bring you something and meet him a towel that "acccidentally falls off when he comes in. As a bonus I usually score a little OTC time when we eat the food after we play together.  

The truth is, even when we think we know what we want, we don't. Nobody really wants a Victoria's Secret model in lingerie every single time.  If we don't explicitly ask you to dress a certain way then mix it up. One of my top 5 best fucks was a provider who was running late on a hot day. She texted me apologizing and said she would need to take a quick shower and get ready and, of course, would not count it against our time. She came in wearing workout clothes and full of sweat and looked so sexy I practically threw her on the bed and (consensually) ripped into her. It was a hot sweaty bondagy mess of tangled sports bra and running shorts and one side of my dick got rubbed raw against her lace thong that I had just shoved to the side (how do you wear those things?!). Afterward we showered together and cuddled. I'll never know what "sexy outfit" she brought with and I couldn't care less.  

My answer is already so long nobody will read it, but I think you get my point. Even if your attempt at creativity is an epic fail you will be able to laugh about it and that is pretty sexy too. The fact that you cared enough to try something new speaks volumes. If you're running dry for ideas PM me and I'll happily offer my personal coaching services at a very reasonable price or we can just trade services. LOL

-- Modified on 2/17/2017 7:38:00 PM

Surprise me with a vibrator we could both use. The subject of "toys" isn't always easy to bring up.

This could be a whole thread of its own. I think most providers are pretty open minded with the subject of toys some guys are really into it and some just are not.  Hum I definitely have a few good ideas that will fit toys & massage together pretty well.

well since you asked, here are some things that felt generous to me and were very pleasant surprises. one time a girl surprised me by being already in the shower when i arrived. after i called to say i'm here, she said the door would be unlocked and to just walk in. when i did, she was already in the shower and she invited me in. that was a lot of fun, and totally unexpected. another thing that a provider could do is to surprise me and join me in the shower while i am already in there, you know just peek in and say "room for one more?" some playful stuff like that makes it feel that you are having fun too and want to be here as much as i do.  

another girl always offers me a beer when i arrive, sometimes i take and sometimes i don't but it's a very nice offer nonetheless.  one time i was standing in her kitchen drinking it and she just dropped to her knees... well u get the idea. again, a very welcomed surprised.  

aside from the obvious suggestions like free time and discounts, i'm assuming  you're asking for ideas for what to do within the allotted timeframe. something as simple as a glass of water or soda is real nice. a simple gesture that would be cool to me is having one of those small bottles of water already sitting on the nightstand and point out that it's there for me if i need a drink later. that way i can just help myself and i don't have to ask you later and have you get up and go the kitchen and fetch me something. another cool idea, if there's time, is fixing a cocktail. it could be something simple like a gin & tonic or something more involved that requires a shaker such as a margarita, an old fashioned, a mojito or whatever. it's pretty hot to see a  hot girl fix a cool drink. i may not want to waste all that time if we only have an hour, but if we have 2 or more then hey let's have good time. some might want that drink before playtime, but i would like it afterwards...  you know instead of that cliche cigarette. if you're 1 of those people that likes a smoke after a meal, try a beer after an orgasm LOL
i'm sure there are many girls who aren't bartenders that also enjoys to make drinks, unfortunately i don't  get to meet them.  

hope that helps

I really like the idea of serving cocktails, maybe I'll have mojitos for spring or have whiskey sours as an all season cocktail. Thanks so much for your input!

I also don't like me getting up right away and fetch things.  Lol

Enthusiasm is probably the nicest "extra special" you can provide.

I have a few friends who allow pictures.   I understand why not everybody does this, but goodness, it is so enticing to begin a date with a hot photo session.  Even if we delete them all before the session ends.    

I really enjoy when a new friend tells me her real name.   I don't ask, because I understand the reasons for not revealing, but it does make the date real for me.

I also like it when she shares her hobby experiences.   It's hot, a turn on, and I feel closer to her when she reveals more of herself.  

Maybe this is a given but - dressing up.  You would be surprised how many top notch providers make little or no effort to dress up at all.   I recently had one answer the door in (not sexy) pajamas.

I also like it when she will talk dirty, although I prefer to call it speaking the language of erotica.    

I am certain to return when some combination of these behaviors are present.  

This is a fun thread...a couple of years ago I had a date tell me that she only swallows her favorite clients. After that I noticed that most of her reviews said she spit.

I've read through everyone's response a few times and I've come up up with a few little perks for my Gents.  
Alyssa Tantra

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