I will not give a reference to a client I haven't seen in the last 6 months in my home city and 9 months on tour.  I had one guy try to use me as a reference 5 times after one appointment. That was a bit much and I wondered why he wasn't able to use any of the other girls he booked as a reference now instead of continuing to come back to me without booking another date.  

I've had one guy who I had a terrible date with try to use me as a reference. Not a good look for him.  

Be thoughtful when using ladies as a reference.

answering my own emails because of it, and yes it has happened.

there are even alot of things that can happen in a year but I am fairly confident that if a guest didn't short me, beat me, or try something unsafe with me that a year later they still will be of the same mindset.  However over a year and I start to feel less confident so I decline to give reference over the year.

The other is when I get so many reference requests from a single gent that litterally they outweight my own emails/requessts.  For example and this is many years ago I would get 4-5emails within a day with all of the ladies requesting reference on the same guy.  the 1st got the he's good, 2nd got he's good but I just gave a reference on him 2mins ago and so on.  A few days later i would get another influx of 4-5 email requests, again same guy.  This happened about a month after a visit and continued a few weeks and more the 20 requests later that I called him private and let him know that while I was glad he was confident in me to provide a reference the excessive nature was becoming a problem and he would need to use a new reference as I did not have time to deal with his requests anymore.  He understood and just said he got excited especially since the ladies who had previously declined now would meet because I now knew him.  

So, for me that is what I am ready to give my guests.  If they would like another reference after a year, they need to come back and refresh my memory BCD or use a new reference.

I wish more guests would email to let us know who they will be using us as a reference for, I spend alot of time looking up these ladies to make sure they are safe to share a reference with.  It would cut that time out since I would know in advance they wished me to give this lady an ok, and that she is not a crazy wife/GF trying to garner info or LE trying to entrap me with saying I have seen people and trying to get details.  There is so much more to an ok then just saying he is ok.

Overuse, I just say no and ask them to use one of the newer ladies they had to have seen in the last 20 requests I answered.  Just because I might be more well known or trusted doesn't mean you should abuse the privilege, we do it to help you and the other provider without exception of anything in return....

I will not give a reference to a client I haven't seen in the last 6 months in my home city and 9 months on tour.  I had one guy try to use me as a reference 5 times after one appointment. That was a bit much and I wondered why he wasn't able to use any of the other girls he booked as a reference now instead of continuing to come back to me without booking another date.  

I've had one guy who I had a terrible date with try to use me as a reference. Not a good look for him.  

Be thoughtful when using ladies as a reference.

I try an give a reply to an inquiry as soon as possible.  This could be anywhere from 2 minutes to an hour+...for....obvious reasons.  I wouldn't feel comfortable on giving any kind of a review for anyone I haven't seen recently, as far back as maybe say.. 6 months? as well.  Any longer and details could be muddled on either side of the fence.  

I don't feel put out or otherwise inconvenienced if a reference request comes my way unannounced, though I do usually prefer they come through verifiable sources such as a TER, P411 or other system based messages, same as asking any new potential guest to message me initially through them to start the official "Hello"s.  

Otherwise, he has to ask me/give me a heads up first.  Confirming I've seen someone is a risk for him and me.

 
So... 30 seconds or never.  Well, 30 seconds from when I see my phone.  So a couple/few hours or never.

I can see how this would be a safe way to know a new client from a provider that's seen him before. Aren't the ones giving the references get a little jealous knowing their client is going to see another provider? Jealous in terms of the client going to another provider for business. I'm just asking. I've never had a provider reference me to another provider I was meeting.  

I always ask that a gentleman or lady (lady clients are great), let me know ahead of time that they will be seeking a reference. Once, I got a random reference request from a provider when I was out of the country. I'm adamant about keeping our community safe, so I scrambled all over the DR to find wi-fi to shoot the email off. Ended up just using my data. I digress.  

Personally, this is how my process tends to go...

1. Gent shoots an email/twitter DM/text asking if they may use me for a reference.  
2. I email the Gent back affirming that they can use me or not. If in the affirmative...
3. Receive Provider email
4. I email the Provider the information they request
5. May or may not get a thank you note. I always send one because I really am thankful they are keeping us safe. However, I'm not going to get mad if I don't get one.

The way I know my long time provider if I asked her for a reference to see another provider, she would get upset. Then she'll think I'm going to stop seeing her for a new provider. I'm not going to ask her for a reference. I don't want to deal with her Jealousy. She's a sweetheart and treats me very well.  

... he can use as a ref. Whichever comes first.
I'm ref friendly giving and receiving but I have those "restrictions" if you will to nip a bud in "ref abuse".
I prefer gents reach out to me just to be sure he's not doing that (I've had guys try to use me 2 yrs after last seeing them which is crazy to me) AND to also make sure I actually remember him.

Provider References

I provide references as long as I have seen a gentlemen within the past 12 months. That's as far as my phone goes back with details. I have no problem sharing and being a good sport as there are plenty of gentlemen to go around.  

You know, it's funny but it hasn't come up yet. I know inevitably it will. I'm seeing increasing more providers asking for references, especially for new clients, and eventually there will be one I want to see who will require it. So far I've been trying to avoid it. It's nothing personal, it's just I don't know if I even have enough regulars providers to do that. There's one high class escort who I could ask, and another occasional local provider, but beyond that I haven't been doing as much mongering lately, and most of my regular providers are massage parlor women (two of whom have since retired). I see pregnant providers when I get a chance, but that's only an occasional delight. I don't know if I have enough contacts for them. I suppose I've got to get back out there and find more regulars.