(That's what they say in the insurance world anyway.)
There's been a couple of times when it seemed as if the Universe was conspiring against my meeting a provider for an initial date. Something would come up in her life, or sometimes mine; the date kept getting postponed for weeks, then months. Each time it was with a very-well-reviewed provider, someone I thought I would really enjoy meeting. So I kept trying, as did she, and eventually the stars and planets aligned and each time the outcome was well worth the wait.Guys or gals!
If you set an appointment and it gets cancelled with proper notice, how many times would it take before you gave up or thought it was something more than just bad luck? Or maybe it is just bad luck and you move on to more of a sure thing? What say you?
I have had a lady cancel in proper time as many as 4 times before we finally got together. I am pretty persistent and forgiving as long as notice is given.
It would be a long time before I would try again if she canceled two times in a row without a very good and believable excuse.
...Here's one; "I've got my period", no problem. Next time; "I just got scheduled for a porno scene in LA but here's a friend of mine you can call" Cool babe, can't wait to see the clip. Or, with another, first time is a NCNS, I send her an email hoping everything' OK and tell her I'm not upset and would like to try again. She later apologizes but drops off of the scene for a while. She resurfaces and I again schedule a session. With plenty of notice, she cancels because 2 of her 3 kids have the crud and need to be cared for. Except for the NCNS, all three of those excuses are credible but I won't chance a third time with a rejection from them. I have oodles and oodles of meticulously researched alternatives to choose from. I just figure that there's something about me that they don't care for and this is an easier way for them to say no to me indirectly.
So, takingmytime, you really need to take the hint that if you're cancelled on that many times, she really doesn't want to see you and you should just move on.
I have had a lady cancel in PROPER time AS MANY AS 4 times BEFORE we finally met. So in my case I have seen ALL the ladies I have wanted to see cancellation or not. I did say also I happen to be very forgiving and patient and was just wondering if MY thought of being VERY patient was true or if most guys in the hobby were just as forgiving and patient as me.
Now in regards to your comments of "you really need to take the hint" I did actually back off as I had made the 4 attempts in a matter of 6 days. I was going to wait and try again at a later date. Well later came sooner as the lady contacted me and assured me that it was not the case of her not wanting to see me, things had really cropped up whenever I tried to schedule. I even tried to shy away and see if her apology was just a gesture to save reputation. Her offer to make up the PROPER cancellations was unmistakably genuine!
Believe me I took it!
I'm pretty forgiving as well but at some point you have to conclude she's either disorganized or has something else going on that makes her unreliable.
(That's what they say in the insurance world anyway.)
There's been a couple of times when it seemed as if the Universe was conspiring against my meeting a provider for an initial date. Something would come up in her life, or sometimes mine; the date kept getting postponed for weeks, then months. Each time it was with a very-well-reviewed provider, someone I thought I would really enjoy meeting. So I kept trying, as did she, and eventually the stars and planets aligned and each time the outcome was well worth the wait.
As long as I get canceled prior to hitting the road to the appointment, I really don't care. I do not believe I am owed an explanation (shit happens). Since I am then "in the mood", I look for another provider to scratch my itch. That costs the canceler business so the "penalty" to her is built in.
Is there some number of cancels at which point I would no longer see her, that really becomes when I am no longer interested. That might be two times, it might be one, it might be ten.
I agree totally word for word
Probably the first and last time one of my posts is considered reasonable.
...I like to think of an axiom to whom I'll attribute to hobbyist hiddenhills; " I may beg for sex; I may pay for sex, but I will not beg to pay for sex!". Ten cancellations??!! Really?? You've never met her, you've only seen her blurred images but have read her fantastic reviews and you are willing to endure 10 humiliating cancellations? Wow! That's some kind of new fetish, methinks 
. Just kidding. Does that fall under a 'tease and denial' fetish? I get horny extremely easy so it's easy for me to switch gears and move on to the next young thang with little or no angst.
including providers I see on a regular basis. If I was seeing the same provider 7 or 8 times and year on got canceled on 10 times over a period of 3 or 4 years, no biggie in my book.
The credit actually belongs to my ex co moderator on the GD board, who must remain nameless.
I will agree, they are words to live by.
...when he uses it in a post, he often attributes it to someone else, likely your co moderator.
"Is there some number of cancels at which point I would no longer see her, that really becomes when I am no longer interested. That might be two times, it might be one, it might be ten. "
I think if she made me horny enough to set 10 appointments, I may have burnt up all of my fantasies of what she would be like while I was jerking off in thought after each cancellation!
Last fall I tried to set up an appt. with a well reviewed provider, who was getting some consistent good reviews. I set one appt, and ended up waiting in a parking lot for quite some time. Tried texting, calling, and even an email. Heard from her later on with what seemed like a legit excuse, however I was still frustrated that she didn't let me know before, or soon after the scheduled time.
Tried to connect with her some weeks later, and found almost the exact same situation. I wrote it off, but won't lie, I'd still love to see her at some point. Reviews were good, pictures were good, but haven't seen an ad from her since earlier this year.
So, I have basically given up, but who knows, 3rd time might be the charm!
Is the way a normal hobby guy would. Providers from unknown to well reviewed flake out. It's part of the hobby. Sounds like you kept your head on and didn't get butthurt and post a bitch rant so kudos to you.
for getting stood up by a provider prior to seeing her was four.
When I finally did see her, the experience was a disappointment and I have never sought to see her again.
that even patient men start to back off or wonder.
In many respects I find canceling with proper notice more acceptable than being late. If I have seen someone where the reviews continually say late in most cases the session was below par. I feel that after two trips to her in call she should know the problems with traffic or parking to allow for issues. It just shows a lack of professionalism before the session starts.
I have not read all the reviews of the top twenty but would make book most to none have time issues except for getting lost
For an out all of sudden bad weather.
If you set an appointment and it gets cancelled with proper notice, how many times would it take before you gave up or thought it was something more than just bad luck? Or maybe it is just bad luck and you move on to more of a sure thing? What say you?
I have had a lady cancel in proper time as many as 4 times before we finally got together. I am pretty persistent and forgiving as long as notice is given.
Whether it's a cancellation, or even a last minute no-show, for me it really depends on the provider. There is a world of difference between these two text messages or voicemail messages:
Provider A: "Sorry, something came up and I can't make it. Have a great week."
or
Provider B: "Sorry, something came up, and I don't think I can make tomorrow morning work after all. I am hoping we can reschedule for early afternoon, but if not, can we maybe try for Wednesday?"
I am unlikely to try A again, and almost certain to try B again. Shit happens all the time. The difference, for both the guys and the gals, is how gracious you are with the person your shit happened to. That goes both ways, for boys and girls. The nature of partnerships, even momentary ones, is when shit happens, your shit is also happening to someone else too.