this is a hobby for us clients and a business for the ladies. Do you really think the provider, who makes her living in this hobby, would tell you anything else than your were great and fun to be with and she would love to have you return?
Get some mileage on yourself - while an email or call is nice, just as in any other endeavor where others are involved, you are going to run into those who are appreciative, and those who are really not.
Based on fact that the lady did not reply - move on and find another rather than being turned into her little lap dog.
Is it generally acceptable to send an email to a provider after the session to give much thanks for a great time (or by phone even)? I did this for my first and she answered my email next day in a nice way. For this next one, I emailed her an hour later (ok I was still on a high from it and wanted her to know) with lots of flattery and thanks. She did not answer me. I then sent another short email a few days later just to say one more thanks and to check that she got my first email. No answer. It's been over a week since the session.
Did I scare her or something? In the session she told me she liked me and wanted me to come back, and said that several times. So I figured she would enjoy my email to her. And no I did not refer specifically to any sex act, I believe I was using proper discretion as to what can go in an email. Is she afraid that I might be too personally attached to her? Or does she just think it's not expected of her to answer or am I violating some kind of etiquette here? I understand providers have to stay at a distance in some respects, but honestly I am confused. I know she's there online because she posted on here since after my first email.
I guess if it was a phone-only provider I wouldn't have called her just to thank her, that seems like too much... or is it? Do providers like that, or they get freaked out by it? I just want to do the right thing, and even though these sessions aren't "real", I still feel compelled to try to make them feel good too, like they made me feel good; it almost seems to give me a feeling of closure from the experience. Plus I thought it helps since I want to see her again sometime. Maybe I'm just too much of a sentimental guy for this..lol.
I'm so confoozed! (yes I'm posting under an alias, mainly to protect the amazing provider since I did review her, and I do want to see her again)
A polite post visit email is a nice gesture, and helps to establish you as a nice, memorable guy. If no reply comes, don't worry, and don't loose the provider's name. I wouldn't send a 2nd message of thanks if there was no response to the 1st, and I wouldn't call her to express gratitude.
I often send a simple "hey, had a great time last night, let's do it again sometime" the day after. Usually, I receive something along the lines of "thanks, me too!" A couple of time there hasn't been a reply. Simply write it off, you didn't do anything wrong.
Think about it, a popular provider receives a TON of email. The great ones, the true professionals find a way to deal with all of them appropriately. Some others only respond to messages that seem to be leading to a visit.
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this is a hobby for us clients and a business for the ladies. Do you really think the provider, who makes her living in this hobby, would tell you anything else than your were great and fun to be with and she would love to have you return?
Get some mileage on yourself - while an email or call is nice, just as in any other endeavor where others are involved, you are going to run into those who are appreciative, and those who are really not.
Based on fact that the lady did not reply - move on and find another rather than being turned into her little lap dog.
I guess she did the GFE act really well and I maybe let myself get too caught up in it. But that's what we expect of them I suppose, to make us feel good and wanted, etc.
Next time I'll send one short email. I have to learn in this hobby that as you say it is primarily a business for them and if they are busy enough that they don't need you back, they won't make the effort. And thus I should let it be, don't take it personally, and move on. It kinda sucks though because wow, she could suck! LOL.
Thanks.
An E-mail of thanks to a lady is a nice gesture. I'll write one if I know I want to see her again. I dont worry about it, however, if I do not get a reply in return.
I agree it's a nice gesture which I usually do, and for the most part I get some form of acknowledgement. One time the provider actually sent me a thank you email an hour and half after the session ended before I could send mine...I still have it.... "Thank you for a wonderful evening. I hated to see you go. Please come back soon. You exceeded not only all of my expectations, but also my hopes."....talk about a smart business woman!!!
wow! That's almost a mirror statement of what I wrote her! That said to me would very likely get me back there if I liked her, business move or not!!