You can simply say that this is your first time "using a service" or "seeing a provider". When I mentioned this to an agency operator, she spoke to me more softly than she normally does, explained things a newbie might not know, and even gave me words of encouragement. As for my references, I had an RS2K membership, so the agency used that.
When I met the provider, she already knew I was a first-time hobbyist (the agency told her, presumably). She spelled out the rules in a respectful way, and never judged me. After me and her got "comfortable", she asked me if I was a virgin. I told her yes. In response, she said, in a joking way: "well, not for much longer."
By the way, a lot of providers consider it an honor (and a bragging right, to an extent) to take a client's virginity. So by all means, tell her and give her the benefit. Now, if the 40-Year-Old Virgin knew about TER and providers, the movie would have been a whole lot shorter.
I've decided (for various reasons) to use the services of a provider to lose my virginity. I've been doing my homework reading reviews and web sites of providers in my area (PA\MD\VA\NC) and have searched the ER boards finding some helpful posts from others in this situation.
I've decided that it's probably best for all concerned for me to be honest about my reason for the appointment. However, I have a question about making the initial contact. Doesn't the mention of the word virgin (or similar wording) imply the expectation of sex (which is obviously a red flag to providers)? I understand that I'll have to jump through some extra hoops (and skip some providers altogether) due to not having references, but is stating that I'm a virgin going to make it more difficult to get an appointment? Should I tone it down to something more generic like "unexperienced"?
Sounds like you have researched well - yes, do tone it down, but let the lady know once session begins - you will be giving her a nice surprise and am sure, with most providers, something special.
Have a great session.
multiple shots on goal (MSOG)
If you're anything like I was the first time, you'll be needing about four or five.
Yes, tone it down. You are correct to realize that the term virgin, virginity, etc. implies an expectation of sex, which of course you can not mention. I would just tell the lady up front, when you first make contact, that this is your first time seeing a provider. They will be able to lead you through the entire experience (remember, every hobbyist has a first visit). I would only mention you are a virgin once you are both comfortable during the session...you'll know when the time is right. Good luck.
The advice you have recieved so far is right on. Definitely do not mention anything related to being a virgin in your first contact. When you have met her though, once you have had some time to break the ice, then definitely tell her. She will appreciate knowing that up front, and will respond accordingly.
I have met several gentlemen for whome I was their first hobbying experience, and have had the honor of gently deflowering one very sweet gentleman. I offer no details, but can only say it was a very memorable experience on many levels, and I am very glad that I knew before the first kiss that I was his first. It made it very special for both of us.
Good luck and please let us know how it goes!
You can simply say that this is your first time "using a service" or "seeing a provider". When I mentioned this to an agency operator, she spoke to me more softly than she normally does, explained things a newbie might not know, and even gave me words of encouragement. As for my references, I had an RS2K membership, so the agency used that.
When I met the provider, she already knew I was a first-time hobbyist (the agency told her, presumably). She spelled out the rules in a respectful way, and never judged me. After me and her got "comfortable", she asked me if I was a virgin. I told her yes. In response, she said, in a joking way: "well, not for much longer."
By the way, a lot of providers consider it an honor (and a bragging right, to an extent) to take a client's virginity. So by all means, tell her and give her the benefit. Now, if the 40-Year-Old Virgin knew about TER and providers, the movie would have been a whole lot shorter.