I meant to ask ...
Does the hobby actually save or wreck marriages - as an objective question, not as a sarcastic question "does it actually save marriages?'Recently, I was visiting Boston and contacted my ATF from a couple years back. She told me she is now retired as a provider and is happily married. But she invited me for lunch.
So we had lunch (on Newbury Street no less, and SHE insisted on paying!).
During lunch, she said something very interesting. She said she had always wanted to get married, but did not meet the right person. Instead she felt satisfaction in how many marriages she helped to save. "I never saw single guys, and my first screening question was if the guy was married?" (which is true as I vaguely remember).
My question to both providers and hobbyists: based on your experience and instinct, does the hobby wreck or save marriages?
-- Modified on 10/24/2016 4:47:08 PM
I meant to ask ...
Does the hobby actually save or wreck marriages - as an objective question, not as a sarcastic question "does it actually save marriages?'
I bet it depends on whether your wife finds out.....lol
was that since married men were seeing her, they weren't out trolling for drunk hook ups at a bar that can come haunting them later. For whatever reason married men seek outside companionship, occasionally they find a single, (free) girl at a bar, hook up and thinking it was mutually a one night stand only to realize it wasn't. ( Girls can be sneaky this way ) This girl ends up pregnant, stalking or wants more than sex or you continue you see her because it's free and to the point yet feelings develop. Maybe one sided, maybe both of you. This can have severe consequences when trying to hide it from your significant other.
When you choose to see a working girl in a mutually beneficial relationship ( you get attention, she gets cash)boundaries are kept between the two of you so that when you go home, you don't have to look over your shoulder. You're refreshed and ready to continue on as a respectable family man.
Personally, I have met many guys who said their wives weren't interested in sex. But after spending time with these men I could see why. They were reserved, shy and afraid to ask what a lady wants. Bringing them out of their shell to please their wives is another way she could have meant.
On the flip side, YES it can reek havoc just like any affair can. I've had many angry and sometimes tearful wives calling me. I usually just change my number and hope she doesn't come knocking.
Never underestimate a woman that she isn't snooping and save both of you some pain and keep your stuff locked tight.
Just my 10 cents....
XOXO
RHR