I have at least once ended up doing a threesome that was designed to make one or both of the providers more comfortable, and the sex was lame as a result.
On the other hand, there was this incredible woman and friend who excited the desire of men and women alike. One of the beautiful women who desired her, but had not yet had her, asked me to join in because she thought that might tip the balance. I said no. That scenario still plays in my head most nights. I don't think the sex would have been lame.
My curiosity is on how it affects comforts regarding menus.
Its is best to find two ladies with almost identical menu offerings?
The reason I ask is does anyone feel weird, obligated to perform differently under peer pressure?
If one lady offs BBBJ and one CBJ do both ladies conform to cbj or does one feel she has to change to bbbj under peer pressure? This goes for things that one may offer that the other does not like DFK or greek tours.
I like the idea of trying a 2 lady experience but i would hate for tension to run high and affect the session.
Guys that have done 3-some, what has been your experience specific to this?
Ladies...do you feel pressure or agree to conform to one set of menu items?
Feel free to use aliases, I am looking for thoughts on the subject.
Feel free to PM me, but realize I do not have VIP at the moment, but will respond when I get Vip once again.
... and there was no problem whatsoever wrt the menu differences. There was no pressure to act outside one's menu and comfort zone... for the ladies, or for me.
I think the most important thing in a threesome is for the two women to know each other beforehand to be sure they'll enjoy each other. Also for the client to know at least one of the ladies (i.e. prior session(s)) and to either know the other one or do thorough research as would be done before the first session with any provider.
And... they're LOTS of fun. In fact I had a great time yesterday with two wonderful women--with different menus. I'm pretty sure they'd agree with me that those differences weren't a problem. 
Every time I've done a threesome where there were differences in menus, each lady did what she usually did. The one thing you need to be particularly aware of is if the ladies offer a genuine three way experience or will it be focused just on you with no interaction between the ladies.
In my opinion, the best way to approach matters is with two ladies you have seen before and that know each other and are comfortable with the idea of doing a threesome. Even better is if they already have good reviews of the two of them together.
Menu options almost never come into play in my experiences but compatibility most certainly does.
As knots and vorlon stated, it is a good idea to have seen at least one of the ladies before. I've often found that the ladies know other ladies well and I often go by their suggest. Sometimes I have said "no, thanks, she's not my type" but usually not. Why not ask Karley who she likes???
One think I will add is that I've found it very beneficial to let lady #1 know what YOUR intentions are...and subsequently #2.
For example, I might want #1 to DATY on #2 (simple example I know lol) but #2 does not like 69...or one is comfortable with a strap-on in either case whereas the other wants to only wear one. Way too many possibilities to go into here...but if the ladies are comfortable with each other, new horizons can be explored.
Go for it
I have at least once ended up doing a threesome that was designed to make one or both of the providers more comfortable, and the sex was lame as a result.
On the other hand, there was this incredible woman and friend who excited the desire of men and women alike. One of the beautiful women who desired her, but had not yet had her, asked me to join in because she thought that might tip the balance. I said no. That scenario still plays in my head most nights. I don't think the sex would have been lame.
My suggestion is pick a lady you know that is Bi and ask her for a recommendation to join you both. If the ladies are friend you'll have more fun. I could get more specific, PM when you can.
ladies seem to have that really Bi section checked on their profiles and I know that many of them do not REALLY enjoy it, it is checked to allow for better scores during reviews. There are those that talk openly on the boards about such things and probably more if I do some research.
Thanks for the input!
I am hoping a few ladies do chime in on their thoughts as well.
First I always had the impression that quit a few ladies are really Bi,
I guess I've just been lucky, 
tho I have been w/one that was only simulating the Bi part...it was actaully not so bad because I really like the men I met with her.
Anyway about menus: I've never had a problem and have been in this very situation, when one girly did her CBJ I still went ahead with my BBJ except reverse that as she did her part after me & helped along the next step of activities....
It truly helps when us women really get into each other it helps with the flow, the chemistry...the hotness.... everything...
I do think if a man is trying something on the menu that the other doesn't offer it's only polite to mention it before hand that way a gal can really get her "seating" right to watch some hot action or maybe she will plan for some solo time, but at least she gets the "heads up"
Something that makes all sex good whether it be two, 3, or more is good communication, & I'm not talking just the b4 hand...
I mean the "oooo's aaah's yes baby, that's right, right there, your beautiful, so hot, OMG,"....ect. All are very encouraging sounds and sounds with sex is a very, very nice thing.
Finally -yes make sure you let the gals know what kind of play you would prefer, you as center star (king) then the chemistry w/the ladies doesn't have to be so strong,
or are you looking to really enjoy watching them with each other for a time,
that makes it very important that you get real Bi & real friends, that part & time frame is very important when planning a
"3some"
Or "doubles" (discretion)
Fun topic thanks, gets my "dirty" mind going.....
Thanks for the input!
I am hoping a few ladies do chime in on their thoughts as well.
Really working on my communication skills. great post Mindy!!
the public sector where shh and giggles are of the norm and not fuck me harder, yeah right there, oh yeah you hit the spot, are not so plentiful! LOL
Thanks Mindy for the input, you have my mind wandering as well!
Are you saying you don't like the idea of some "ooo-ing & ahing" ect.
I mean of course there's always room for giggles, chatting & down to earth fun- but IMHO honestly feedback is important & goes a long way so everyone feels great about things
I guess I don't understand did it sound like pressure to be unnatural?
That's the last thing I think it should ever be...anyway it's all just fun & sexy play....stay mute then WTH
happy seeking
I'm also surprised to learn about the not really Bi thing, hmm you learn something new everyday
Do what feels good & happy Sunday..
Thanks Mindy for the input, you have my mind wandering as well!
I was fishing and my boat sunk...!!
I was hoping you would respond saying something like...OH you like public sex, where do I sign up!
I like the communication during playtime, I'd be lost without it! Fake or not at least I know something is happening!
...... Her hot, sexy communication during playtime is legendary!!!
With TERs scoring requirements to receive a score over 7 many providers list Really Bi among other menu items to better fit the 8,9,& 10 scoring requirements. From my experience, as expressed by a couple Bi ladies I have shared many WMW dates with, only a select few are really Bi.
I have found that the "Other Details for" section on P411 to be accurate as the lady chooses the items she enjoys without a ratings penalty. You do have to be a verified member to see these.
... but there was a relatively recent change in how the "plus" menu items like "really bi" factor into scoring. Before, a provider's profile could simply include some/all of the "plus" menu items and the provider was thus eligible for Performance scores above 7. It didn't matter for scoring purposes if she actually offered those services in a session or not. But now, there has to be some substantiation for the "plus" items in the profile, e.g. mention in review(s) or in the provider's advertising (web site, P411 etc.).
Perhaps that change was made due to the issue that was mentioned above... some providers were listing "plus" menu items like "really bi" in their profiles only to be eligible for higher scores.
P.S. I believe providers who had already received Performance scores above 7 based on what's in their profiles were "grandfathered" wrt the new policy.
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I have read many reviews talking about girl- girl action where I know at least one girl is acting. Having been with a few myself I know it is very hard to tell. Remember these sessions are fantasy so it may not even matter.
That's terrible! Here I thought every provider was always completely honest in her reactions! Does that mean, contrary to some reviews, some providers don't actually have ten Os in a an hour?
Acting or not, at least there has to be some basis now for the extra points, besides a tick mark on a profile.
That today's rules make the menu more accurate, I simply pointed out that it in fact does not make any difference. The acting has and will always be involved in this hobby.
Now at least there has to be some evidence that it is a real option where as before all that was needed was for the first reviewer to select that she is. Hardly foolproof but a step in the right direction.
Why wouldn't TER use "Offers Threesomes" as the menu item if that what was the point? Instead they offer; No, Yes, not really into it, and Yes, Really Bi as options under the Two Girl action tab. Non of thes 3 options would include or exclude a girl from offering threeways, they only refer to the amount of girl-girl participation during the appointment.
The section says Actual Services Provided but many of the questions and answers imply that it is about what is available even if it doesn't happen in the session. After all, how can you answer any of the question "Don't know" if it is actually about what happened during the session?
My first encounter with this was late summer/early fall where I brought it up to one of my fave massage girls (1). I found out she knew another provider (2) who was basically the top of the top doubles providers although neither were actually fs. Well (1) basically straight up and told me wasn't fully sexual attracted to (2) and it probably wouldn't go well so she thought of another bi friend not even in the business. We talked about it alot but it hasn't actually happened yet. Not sure if fs would actually be involved and it would most likely be on a small massage table to that could kind of suck.
Fast forward a few months as on a whim I saw another provider (1) and found out she was very very good friends with one of my old faves (2). Well (2) came back and it was go time. Got out of both of there cramped massage rooms at the time and got the 3some all of these 2 girls favorite customers deserve. Found out once you get (1) out of her normal setting it makes it 1000x better. Really helps if the girls have been friends for years and basically do it all the time.
Not really sure why guys would do a doubles with a provider that is not fs or cbj but it happens all the time. Just my opinion but if you do not have sex with both girls it really is not a 3some.
I have been with several women. Some are really bi, but many aren't as much into it as I am probably because pussy licking may make them nervous. This has never been a problem with me, because I am usually the one with my face in a pussy. That's the way I like it. I have been with several women providers, as well, and it has been great. Most of them do BBBJ, and I don't. This has never been a problem, because we are well prepared for wherever the flow takes us. I have never done anything I am uncomfortable with except for one time being told right before the gent showed up that she fakes everything. That was a Debby Downer for me. But that was only once in a sea of pussy bliss!
Love my ladies!
TL
I had always wanted to try a threesome and when I got the chance. It disappointed. It was a hot provider and her step sister she was getting into hie biz. Even though they were both hot it turns into a twosome and a one some. Someone is kind of left out and was less than I imagined it would be. At least I got a better idea of what I enjoy.