If you want to see him again you can just send him an email saying "hi I haven't heard from you in a while, let's get together..." or something like that. I never mind getting an email from a provider. For me if I haven't gotten in touch with a provider it's not that I never want to see her again, it's that I'm busy or there might be another provider that's caught my eye. Let's face it, there's a lot of competition so sometimes a guy might need a little nudge. If he doesn't reply to your nudge though, it's time to move on.
Regarding honesty, why does a client need to lie to a provider? If I don't want to answer a question I won't answer it but why lie? This is a casual relationship.How do you know? What did you do？ how did it unfold？
Why do you ask? Have you fallen for a provider and can't get up?
I do get harmless little crushes on providers (and strippers) every now and then when they are both beautiful and have a good personality. But those little crushes usually wear off fairly quickly. The providers spin a nice little fantasy GFE illusion for us. Sometimes it's hard for us to dispel that illusion when the clock strikes midnight. We're human, after all. We want to believe the fantasy, even when we know somewhere deep down that it is not real. But I know from my own experience that those crushes will die 99.99% of the time once they hit the harsh light of reality.
As one example, I went home with a stripper crush one night. Sounds like a fantasy experience, right? Sure, until I watched in horror as she snorted coke and popped painkiller pills in front of her 4-5 year old son. That cold wet bucket of reality killed that crush and killed it hard. On average, you're just better off enjoying the fantasy and not peeking behind the green curtain.
But maybe I'm wrong ... maybe it was a relationship based on lust rather than love. Or maybe that first love of Kate spoiled you and taught you to avoid ever having a similar relationship and other Providers after her
Thanks for the Big Nose Kate post, impposter. That gave me a good chuckle. I think the scene from Tombstone sums it up best...
Kate: I've been good to you, I've taken care of you. If you die, where does that leave me?
Doc Holliday: Without a meal ticket I suppose.
[Doc rides horse out of barn into stable area, Kate runs out after him punching him in anger]
Kate: You bastard!
Doc Holliday: Why Kate, have you no kind words for me as I ride away?
[pause]
Doc Holliday: I calculate not.
[rides off]
Joanna Pacula made a great Big Nose Kate.
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With just about every companion I meet. That haze usually clears from my eyes in a day or two. As for deeper love, there is someone with whom I believe a genuine mutual attachment has formed, and if circumstances were slightly different we might try pursue that and sees where it leads. But for now we are satisfied with being a little in love and deep in lust.
If you have, you are most certainly not the first, and definitely won't be the last. Saw a recent post in the newbies board and someone left quite a good comment, so check it out if you have a chance.
But I don't think it is not uncommon for a hobbyist to have crush on a provider. First of all, the ladies are beautiful and more often than not, we chose to meet them because they are our ideal type (body, look, hair color, eyes color, etc). We already like them in one way or another before the session begins. Then, there is the GFE - and the Doc covered it pretty well. Our feeling is not a light switch, we could train it to be, but it is not easy. We are not robot. Finally, if the lady has an amazing personality, it would be impossible to not like, have a crush or maybe even fall in love with them. I don't know about fallen deeply for a lady, but I have my fair share of crushes on companions.
Do I think this is wrong or I'm crazy? No. I'm not looking for a cold, emotionless transaction. I'm looking to connect with a lovely lady that I know I'd enjoy spending time with. Sometime it takes me a day or two to gather myself, but at the end, it is still a p4p. Instead of avoiding to admit it, just accept the fact that we are all human and it is ok to have a feeling for someone. Admit that you shared an exceptional experience with a lady, then move on.
I had a client I was meeting at least twice a month, and did fall for him quite a bit! I never let him know my feelings and was crushed when he just stopped contacting me completely...
He let me into his personal home and was completely honest with me about everything. I think I found his trust and honesty to be sexy. To be honest it helped build a great bond.
Farewell my silver fox! You are greatly missed!
If you want to see him again you can just send him an email saying "hi I haven't heard from you in a while, let's get together..." or something like that. I never mind getting an email from a provider. For me if I haven't gotten in touch with a provider it's not that I never want to see her again, it's that I'm busy or there might be another provider that's caught my eye. Let's face it, there's a lot of competition so sometimes a guy might need a little nudge. If he doesn't reply to your nudge though, it's time to move on.
Regarding honesty, why does a client need to lie to a provider? If I don't want to answer a question I won't answer it but why lie? This is a casual relationship.
One of our top providers from a few years ago married a client. She was the most beautiful bride in the world.
It's best to keep feelings out of this. It's very rare that feelings are reciprocated and awkward to bring up. But you're a true gentleman--the knightliest of them all--so you would always respect a lady.
Let's celebrate that love is great and to be shared unmarred by possession!! I love you all!! (At very reasonable rates too.)
Too funny!! LMAO!!
Let's celebrate that love is great and to be shared unmarred by possession!! I love you all!! (At very reasonable rates too.)
No.
I've always been curious about what it would be like to actually date a provider. I've always assumed that they would want way more sex than I could provide by myself. A couple have even told me this was the case in their real life relationships. Was this a problem for you and if so what did you do about it? Thanks!
Fallen deeply? No Had major crushes on? Yes, twice. The first was a super beautiful visiting girl. She came to Boston for a day or two every couple of months and I would see her for 6 hours each time, 4 hours one day, then two hours the next morning. We would talk more than than anything, she was very high end and brutally expensive. I began to cut back how many hours I would see her because I didn't want to pay that much just to talk and finally she came to town and I made an appointment for two hours but cancelled (more than a week ahead of time) and she hasn't been back since.
One of the reasons I cancelled was I had met a local girl who I saw once or twice or even three times a week. I loved it, obviously. I'd pay for two hours but she usually gave me three. I lost interest in seeing other girls. She was my favorite, she told me I was her favorite. We were very compatible. I brought champagne sometimes, we had fun. I told her once there was nobody on the planet I'd rather be with. How did it unfold? One day out of the blue she emailed me and told me she couldn't see me anymore because she didn't like getting too attached. Done. Hasn't emailed me since. That left a mark... I've racked my brain trying to figure out what went wrong. This is just my theory but I think she's someone who's terrified of getting too attached just like she said. So she dumped me. I think some providers are providers because they like intimacy but fear attachment. So for now I've taken solace with seeing lots of different girls once or twice. It's been fun but there's no emotional connection. It's probably better that way though it's really nice to get to know someone special well and have that connection.
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I can't say I've fallen in love, but I've become very close friends (currently) with a provider. We hang out when we can. Text or talk almost daily. Even met each other's friends and families.
Interestingly, as drop dead gorgeous as she is, I don't even finding myself sneaking a peek. It's a lot like a little sister. At first blush, you'd think there'd have to be something in it for her. But, she doesn't ask for anything... And there is no sugar daddy going on. Just close friends
So, it just goes to show, when you meet the right people, it doesn't matter how you met. It just works. I'm thankful we met. But I could never have sx with her
and it wouldn't have to be LOVE .... more like let's TRY.
I've been hurt outside the hobby a few times as we all have, but
I'm aware of the implications of being the only one that wants something he can't have.
But I do really like my current flame ... a lot. lol