It's bound to be difficult at times to keep everything in sync between what the provider has done herself and what her assistant has done.
It's been years since I have seen anyone... This winter I decided to treat myself. I had been looking for that special someone and think/thought I found her. I'm not saying her name yet in fear I might wreck the date. I'm looking for some advice on what just happened....
So I found what to me would be the one for me...I wanted to get approved so I sent her an email with the info she required about a month ago and telling her it would be after the 1st of the year... She responded within hours "yes" from the same address I sent it to... I then replied thank you and I will be in touch when the time becomes closer... So yesterday I sent her an email asking if we could start planning... About 20 minutes later I received an email from"the assistants" asking for all my info again...? I responded " I already provided it"... I have not heard anything back!
So? Should I run???
You don't say what info you gave initially, but having given it once, where's the harm in giving it again?
My experience is that even a firm booking made a month in advance can be a bit fraught. If I book that early, I make sure to follow up periodically to reassure her I'm serious. Even more, an open ended "I'll be in touch" is something they probably weren't giving much credence (guys do flake sometimes) and if they didn't keep your info stored on a computer just in case, well, that's what we want, isn't it? That the ladies don't keep a permanent record of the info we give them? If she is an established provider, if you still want to see her, and if you were comfortable giving the info once, I'd say give it again. Don't expect they will book you just on your say-so that you gave them stuff a month ago that they then discarded.
I wouldn't run from the situation you just described. I don't think many providers want to keep your information that long and remember you.
To receive better intelligence from this community, I would reveal the name of the provider. You haven't said anything derogatory so there shouldn't be any repercussions.
I should be more clear... The 1st email conversation was thru a gmail address... This time I emailed her at the same address and the response came from a different address... I suppose she could've hired an assistant since the last time we talked... does this address look familiar to anyone? The Assistants "[email protected]"? That is not who I sent my message to... I'm just trying to protect myself...
... if you're not comfortable, walk away.
It still doesn't raise big red flags to me. Assistants to seem to be a coming thing, so she may well have gone that route, though it seems a bit clumsy to have handled things the way you describe. You could try sending another email to her original address, explain your concern, and ask her to confirm The Assistants are acting for her. If she does, then you have to decide if you are willing to give information to someone other than the provider. It's not a decision anyone else can make for you, really. There is a certain irreducible amount of risk in the hobby and you have to decide what you can bear.
It's bound to be difficult at times to keep everything in sync between what the provider has done herself and what her assistant has done.