Do not see her again. At least not now.
It's romantic because "it" didn't happen. And, indeed, it won't. Developing feelings for her will end up seriously crazy and hurtful for you both. Cherish what you have. Don't delude yourself it can go farther. One reason I see my ATF less often than I could is because she seems so terrific. I could easily develop feelings for her and that would be BAD. So if my feelings are a little too strong right now I'm off to see someone else. She's sure seeing someone else. And someone else. And someone else. That's the way it has to be. You've been warned.Have met many wonderful ladies in the TER community (more than I would have ever expected when I first started). Have made many a lasting memory. But guys, what do you do when you have a "lingering" memory, one that is different than all the rest, one you can't quite shake? Anyone else have had this experience?
If she's still active of course.
I felt like I hit it off particularly well with one escort I saw just as she was about to retire.
And there's the torment of the beauty who looks perfect on her website, lives nearby, but for some unknown reason is largely unresponsive to my requests to meet.
A theme common to both: unavailability, which may be what makes both seem extra special.
and make her your ATF. take a break from the others and see her exclusively for a while and then see how you feel. heck you can even try seeing her more than once/week. sounds like you're developing a mini-crush. that's what i think i would do
I am and have been there. She sees others and so do you, deal with it. I have a close relationship but realize it's not just me.
Cherish what you have while you have it. But be realistic...
Do not see her again. At least not now.
It's romantic because "it" didn't happen. And, indeed, it won't. Developing feelings for her will end up seriously crazy and hurtful for you both.
Cherish what you have. Don't delude yourself it can go farther.
One reason I see my ATF less often than I could is because she seems so terrific. I could easily develop feelings for her and that would be BAD. So if my feelings are a little too strong right now I'm off to see someone else. She's sure seeing someone else. And someone else. And someone else. That's the way it has to be.
You've been warned.
fair point, and a fair warning.
i was just thinking he could keep seeing her until he eventually gets over the infatuation. i think it eventually fades away and gets out of his system... just my theory. can't speak from experience.
yes be realistic. i'm reminded by those guys that fall in love w/ strippers. she doesn't feel the same way about you so get over it. yes she enjoys your company cuz you're cool and nice compared to the weirdos she comes across... but at the end of the day you are a client and she has a life. oh wait, maybe it'll be different for you (sarcasm)
I am being realistic in one sense, I am in touch with some feelings that are different than toward any others, and I have certainly met and been with many others. The lingering memory is the only provider I have never reviewed. She and I have spoken about that fact and she is quite ok with my reasons and is doing just fine without it.
Now as for the infatuation as you call it, I first saw her several times three years ago and then my travels to Chicago ended and we didn't see each other for a couple years. We would email occasionally as friends, share a bit about life and tell each other we would love to reconnect someday. She has always occupied a special place in my experiences and memories and recently my business brought me back to Chicago. Several dates later the special feelings I hold were reaffirmed.
I don't live in the same city as she and there is an age difference that would certainly short circuit any relationship outside the hobby, but a guy can fantasize. And if the opportunity presents itself I would love to keep seeing her. I don' t think I will ever really "get over" my feelings, rather go on living with them and savoring the lingering memories!
Yes, I've been there before, living that situation right now. But first I would ask what do you want or "fantasize" about this "relationship" becoming? Are you thinking it might turn into a real relationship, not just a professional relationship? Circumstances vary, but I would pay attention to those who have been there. I'm living that situation right now literally, although with a "former" provider. It's very early (3 mos in) but she has left the business and has moved in with me. I can tell you it's not everything that you might expect - not saying it's bad because it isn't. But you have to remember, regardless of what you are told, she is playing a role when she sees you as a provider. And what you experience there is not guaranteed to manifest itself in a relationship. In my situation, she is also much younger, 16 years younger and that does present some challenges. Best advice is "eyes wide open."
agreed - she his playing a role. this is supposed to be a fantasy.
OP, after so many dates... if she feels the same way u would think she'd give u a freebie, although that is a slippery slope. but i'm assuming she hasn't b/c after all it's still a biz. keep fantasizing. too bad she's not in ur city so you can see her more regularly. maybe the distance is making it worse.
like this other guy said... it's not everything you might expect.