We have same deal with swing friends. 
it is very common.
What would someone make of you if they found out that you were involved in the hobby?
A dear hobbyist and friend of mine had bought up the question, and to be honest, I've never thought much of it. Personally, I am "out" to my friends, family, and every civiee guy that I've dated in RL. I am very fortunate to have a supportive friends and family who understand my decision to go into sex work.
Nonetheless, I have no intention of writing wills at the age of 24. However, If I was to pass unexpectedly, I would like to think that my phone/laptop would be destroyed therefore to protect the identities, lives, and families of my clients - You never know what could happen if my laptop got into the wrong hands.
So, for the ones who live double lives for safety and security purposes, have you ever thought who might be looking through your phone/email after you die
In case of death, we have explicit instructions to enter our favorite "lifestyle friends" home and confiscate two drawers worth of stuff before the kids get there. They will do the same for us, although my daughter is currently living in New Zealand. It will take her a while to get home.
A dear hobbyist and friend of mine had bought up the question, and to be honest, I've never thought much of it. Personally, I am "out" to my friends, family, and every civiee guy that I've dated in RL. I am very fortunate to have a supportive friends and family who understand my decision to go into sex work.
Nonetheless, I have no intention of writing wills at the age of 24. However, If I was to pass unexpectedly, I would like to think that my phone/laptop would be destroyed therefore to protect the identities, lives, and families of my clients - You never know what could happen if my laptop got into the wrong hands.
So, for the ones who live double lives for safety and security purposes, have you ever thought who might be looking through your phone/email after you die?
We have same deal with swing friends. it is very common.
been dead three times already. Don't think I'm worried about my phone or contacts. I have secrets, not two lives. It's all one really. People will think what they think. Besides, if you try to get in my phone,or computer to many times all the info will be erased.
Password protected phone with password protected software that's encrypted. But I am worried about that when I am alive. When I dead they can say he got some hot looking pussy
Haha! Now that's funny. It would be interesting discovery indeed.
Your dead.
At some point in the far future someone might find my hobby phone. Probably someone doing demo and since it's old tech it'll get trashed without much thought. Even if I got outed, I'm dead... I'm either going to be dust in the wind, or facing my maker. Hope he/she liked hot women as well..
Well, let's see.
A few of my friends know I hobby and heard my stories (retold very generically for discretion purposes), so they wouldn't be surprised to see 11 years of reviews, punctuated by hiatus breaks.
The rest of my friends would be shocked, but probably not that surprised by me hobbying. Especially considering that my pick-up game isn't that great and that I told them about not wanting to get married.
My family, I don't know. I've been hobbying for 11 years, and they're still none the wiser. They probably believe I'm either seeing a civvie without telling them or have zero sex drive (and never questioned me about the latter).
Either way, it doesn't matter. I won't be around to feel the aftermath. My ghost can deal with it himself, for all I care 
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And say that sneaky slutty bitch I knew it! lol. My family doubtful they would find the email ( they are the most un tech savy people I've ever known) and any thing else would be assumed to my regular profession of clients or just friends. My family would be in for a generous check & pieces of real estate and most importantly they and all of my friends know I'm very happy and have lived a really great life doing everything I've ever wanted.
Surprise, surprise, surprise!
I've never told any of my civvie friends and relatives about my "hobby" which I got into over 15 yrs ago. If they did happen to find out about my hobby, I'm sure a few would probably say that I will burn in Hell, some would be in shock, and maybe my closest friends would be giving me the "Thumbs Up!" LOL
Anyways, it would be pretty difficult for them to gain access to the hobby data on my phone and computers, since they are all password protected and encrypted. As far as I know, I haven't left any paper trails. LOL
I am lucky to have friends and s/o who are very supportive in my decision to work in the sex industry. My family on the other hand is not so knowledgeable and would not likely be so accepting. If I were to pass unexpectedly, I would hope that one of those close to me would know to remove certain things, just in case, for their discretion. While I am proud to be in the industry, and stay active on boards and fighting for our rights...I would not want to shock my parents into an early grave with me either lol.
but it's an interesting question. Most people in my life know about what I do so I don't think it would be a surprise.
thought about this but it's an interesting question. Most people in my life know about what I do so I don't think it would be a surprise.
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(I guess we just have to have that one friend we trust until this is a thing)