Thanks DMC. Not too many times does someone get me right away. I'm pretty used to people reacting that way. People kinda fear what they don't understand. Different people react to their fear/misunderstanding differently. Some choose to see if they can challenge, some try to outsmart. More often people become sarcastic, belligerent, condescending, rude, and cruel. I've observed this behavior since I was a adolescent and am very seldom surprised by that ignorant behavior.
You seem like a sweetheart, are you here in Chicago?If your feelings are easily hurt, you will be bullied everywhere you go.
This is sound advice. Nobody wants to manage your feelings in the simple exchange of information, questions asked, and questions answered.
Know what they say about those who assume?
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Visiting the OHare area again this evening, and my Chicago area ATF is not available. Searching for an exceptional, orally inclined GFE to make this trip more enjoyable. Any recommendations? I'm whitelisted, and also can be contacted directly at [email protected] if preferred.
Thanks in advance...
no recommendations. You ask a lot for help and give nothing back.
How about ask him the question of what you need to know in order to help him, otherwise say nothing at all because you don't know how to help him. He's not here looking for your sarcasm, Would it be so hard to tell him information you need to know?
Shouldn't you be on match.com looking for someone to tolerate your needy ego.
As soon as you go back to 1st grade to learn the social skill of asking questions when you don't understand something.
Know what they say about those who assume?
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Because you are sensitive, you will be continually trolled in a business where (personal) time is money. Especially if you come across as sensitive, or easily hurt.
If your feelings are easily hurt, you will be bullied everywhere you go.
This is sound advice. Nobody wants to manage your feelings in the simple exchange of information, questions asked, and questions answered.
Know what they say about those who assume?
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Thanks DMC. Not too many times does someone get me right away. I'm pretty used to people reacting that way. People kinda fear what they don't understand. Different people react to their fear/misunderstanding differently. Some choose to see if they can challenge, some try to outsmart. More often people become sarcastic, belligerent, condescending, rude, and cruel. I've observed this behavior since I was a adolescent and am very seldom surprised by that ignorant behavior.
You seem like a sweetheart, are you here in Chicago?
If your feelings are easily hurt, you will be bullied everywhere you go.
This is sound advice. Nobody wants to manage your feelings in the simple exchange of information, questions asked, and questions answered.
Know what they say about those who assume?
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Well you need to get over your childhood then. The definition of insanity they say.
You can't change the world if the only world view you have is the world view of your adolescence.
You seem like a sweetheart, are you here in Chicago?
If your feelings are easily hurt, you will be bullied everywhere you go.
This is sound advice. Nobody wants to manage your feelings in the simple exchange of information, questions asked, and questions answered.
Know what they say about those who assume?
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Umm I guess I agree with this DMC. The way to stop a bully is to show them that they cannot hurt you. They will eventually run out of options and run out of things to say. I guess you can charge me with the crime of being cocky some say arrogant because all I'm really doing is showing that I won't become offended by these petty insults. And eventually they will run out of steam and give up.
I define this as finding a newfound respect/understanding. Because if they know they cannot hurt you then they have no choice but to leave you alone because their options were limited from the beginning when they chose to behave that way.
Ironically you are kinda favoring that a little here. You first compliment me by saying I'm a decent guy, but then you take the approach to insult me by suggesting that I am being an adolescent. My response to that is that I am sorry that I must use a strategy that seems to be equal to one used on 5th grade bullies, but if the shoe fits.
P.S. you should have nothing further to say from here. At least anything that makes any type of sense at least.
Thank you sljackson. Certainly not my intent to create drama on the board - seemingly a simple request, and am a bit put back by the reaction.
Best of the day to all - even spotyjudge...
Many with unfavorable intentions fish for info so after a while someone catches on and calls them out. No offense to the OP because he could just be a nervous newbie. Which understandably would make contributing men offended. Some men contribute by paying for VIP and doing research alone, some men write reviews. Both keep this place worth it for the owners.
Asking & Asking & Asking does not.
It's rather obvious that he's limited his research to men who post on the public boards because once you get VIP access it's not hard to figure out which men can be trusted to follow for advice. It's also rather addictive and I often hear from guys that they don't even read anything on the site, but ads & reviews.
If everyone were friendly here can you imagine how easy it'd be for unwanted goals to succeed? Everyone has to protect everyone hence the tough crowd. This is nothing like Disney World.
You absolutely get it. Too bad sljackson and hardwood469 don't.
Yeah and what does his ISO post have to do with these "unwanted goals" you speak of? That's a rhetorical question by the way. Nobody buys it except those that are considered followers. Followers follow because they don't know anything else. A horse will run off a cliff if you steer home there.
Sometimes people are just being snarky because they can, not that they are trying to protect anything. I'm sure he found his date.
If everyone were friendly here can you imagine how easy it'd be for unwanted goals to succeed? Everyone has to protect everyone hence the tough crowd. This is nothing like Disney World.
Yet ye assume the position of board policeman.
I think *this* is what's triggering people's spidey sense. We on TER rely on people with long review histories, and that goes for both hobbyists and providers. When someone with no review history starts asking for information, we start to get wary. I did too, despite not saying anything. Because it could be someone looking for insider information for the wrong reasons or simply due to laziness.
In this case, perhaps it helps to say what actions you already took to find your ISO target, and what results you got, before asking for information outright. Kind of like going to your boss at work to request assistance for putting together the TPS Reports cover sheets.
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At least someone gets it, unlike Hardwood469.
Badgering someone who is asking for help while using an ALIAS.
Spotyjudge clearly has communication issues. No way is it necessary to meet a criteria to ASK a simple question. Simply answer his question or not. Sarcasm is not helping him at all and it's not necessary.
SPOTYjudge was too cowardly to use his real handle in making his snippy remarks in holier-than-thou fashion.
Sage is a well known Provider. She has a place in the Schaumburg area. She's awesome, actually a little aggressive. You get the impression she is enjoying you as much as you are enjoying her.
I've met her some years ago. She's good for a first-timer, although her screening is pretty strict. Takes charge during the session, but also accommodates your preferences.
Don't let snarky remarks get to you!!!
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Thanks in advance...
With all the responses that you have gotten! But, I'd like to say hello... And if you have already found someone I hope you have a wonderful time during your time here. 
are you only looking for tonight? I do believe I'm what you are looking for but I'm not sure about getting there tonight 
You can contact me by email or my website
Hope to here from you!
Suz
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