Dang, I am one of those newbies you will be seeing on your visit...so now I know what you may be wearing .....Regardless I will be more focused on you than on the room surroundings so as long as the room is clean/neat, my eyes and other senses will be directed to you. Your appearance -- your smile, your voice - your ability to place me at ease, etc will be my focus....Can't wait to meet you!!! Lance.

Hi Anik...I'm sorry we can't meet up this trip.  Maybe another time soon.

For me, I think the sexiest thing is to seeing a woman change the mood for me, to a more intimate level.  I like that she prepares the set-up for me, say with dimmed lights and candles.  But it's when I arrive, and she makes it even more intimate--say by turning off the light and lighting a few more--that makes me feel like she's been waiting for me, to make it more special.  On a practical note, this would help conserve some candles.  

Also, you may want to consider the time of day when you set up your boudaire.  If I've been driving for an hour on a bright sunny day, re-adjusting to a dim room can be uncomfortable.  During the day, I might suggest starting with a brighter set-up in meeting a gentleman (or lady).

Regarding music, I think everyone has a different definition of sexy...but generally we're in the same ballpark.  I, for one, would personally like to hear what songs you think is sexy, Anik.  I have my own mix that I use with women, and I do it based on my musical preferences.  It lets them know a little about me...instead of me trying to guess what they might like (and they are all different in their favs).  Well...at least until I get to know them better then yeah, I'm not above picking up a new CD or two.

I suggest something like the obvious like Barry White, Luther Vandross (sp?), Al Green and songs similar to this. Also slow and relaxing music is great like Enya and Dido.


I love when girls have something nice playing on their radio. I am a romantic as well This is why my one time with Angelina (from sexy girls of DC) was so hot. She had a Marc Anthony CD on and although I don't like him that much, the songs were perfect. Also when I saw Sofia (from MC) she had her own CD player and the music was right too.



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I love candles and a romantic atmosphere.
For music I recommend electronic chill-out music like:
Airlock, Faithless, Mandalay, Jazzanova, Kelli Ali
You can usually find a compilation CD with most of these artists.
It goes a long way to set the mood.  

Your extra efforts to make the rendezvous more memorable and exciting are definitely appreciated!!  Its why I've enjoyed our meetings before and am very much looking forward to future encounters......soon I hope.  Personally, I vote for the candle ambience but with the lights dimmed and not totally out as I like my experience to be very sensory and the visual aspect is just as important as the rest.....and would be minimized if its too dark.  As far as the music choices go, I agree with Guz's inputs......slow, relaxing, romantic, and rythmic are all excellent choices!!

It is always more pleasurable when a provider takes the time to set the mood. All that has been said so far works for me. As for the music - well, the last time music was playing it was actually techno dance music - and to be honest - it set the pace for our performance. The music stopped and I insisted she turn the same back on again. It was a great experience for me - what a workout - LOL.

As for Jeop - he has a point - many men don't look for the romantic mood setting environments. As long as the place is neat and clean, sheet are fresh - it's all in how well the two mix it up for the session.

To each his own.

...to create atmosphere/mood is going to make the experience that much nicer for me.

I've always wondered what I could do -- as the visiting team -- to likewise help with the mood.

One provider I saw a few months back had the most recent Rod Stewart CD (American standards)playing and that wasn't half bad. The best sexual experience of my life came with Pink Floyd playing in the background. Not exactly what you would call romantic music but whenever I hear Dark Side of the Moon ............  >=0

It wipes the "business" like atmosphere...it makes a guy more receptive and at easy in my presence.
One important thing when lightining candles is...to make sure you air the room after each session. I open the windows (or balcony doors) and I make sure there is a lot of fresh air to take the overpowering candle smell away.
When inside a room all day, without ventilation, candles are not very kind to sinuses and I get allergy like symptoms...most guys I see also get that too.
I never lit the candles without asking my client first...I welcome them to my hotel suite with dimmed lights, I offer a drink and ask what kind of music they like to listen too.
Some guys do no like the candles or music, some help me lit the candles and choose their CD...Remember, everyone is different and is not just the mood for us...but for both.

Enigma is an excellent choice for background music. Also, replacing the light bulbs in the lamps with red light bulbs, which creates very nice soft lighting.  A few couple of candles can also be nice, but too many candles can cause problems for the sinuses of some.