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Re: Double standard?
jillianthemilf See my TER Reviews 779 reads
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We post photos of ourselves on P411. Gentlemen also have the option to post photos of themselves on P411, but rarely do.

thumper69692487 reads

She wanted this information as part of her screening:

Age,  
height,  
weight
ethnicity:

If you are a guy thinking about seeing this one, what would you think about giving her this info, and why would she need it or want it.  

Gals- this seems unusual- what do you think?

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TheProfessor1019 reads

Can we answer in provider years, weight, etc?  If so I'm

45
6'2"
185lbs
Mixed (Irish and Scot)

It sound like she's screening for a civie date, if I looked like George, Tom, or Matt I wouldn't be cruising this site. Let's face it, there is a reason I'm paying 350-400 an hour for her time.

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Could care less what a gent looks like, it's part of my screening simple as that. If something went south there's already a description. I don't see a issue and have read other girl's site's whom ask as well, we all have our reasonings. Some simply ask for a pic. No one I've ever seen has had a issue or even questioned it. ;)

 
Piece of cake

thumper69691002 reads

not too many guys giving up their pic either. and not too many ask for it that's for sure

Posted By: RaynaParis
Could care less what a gent looks like, it's part of my screening simple as that. If something went south there's already a description. I don't see a issue and have read other girl's site's whom ask as well, we all have our reasonings. Some simply ask for a pic. No one I've ever seen has had a issue or even questioned it. ;)  
   
   
 Piece of cake
I haven't been asked for a pic yet. I'm sure if I was I would be thinking "Damn, now she's gonna say no way" lol
kidding of coarse. well, kind of.

Then she should just say so.  Otherwise I don't see why she needs that info ahead of time.

I don't know why she wants the info, or what she does with it, specifically, but I don't see any cause for concern. She has a perfect right to ask for anything she needs to be comfortable, just as I have a perfect right to refuse information that makes me uncomfortable.

And, since I almost always rely on my P411 Profile to verify me, and since I put all that info in my Profile voluntarily, I'm comfortable with those requests.

+1.  If she needs that information as part of her initial screening process it tells me that she's more concerned with physical attributes than personality, etc.  if I'm screened out by that, fine. Then I'm glad she did.  If any lady doesn't want to see me just tell me that right up front.  Too many other choices and it spares me from what might have been a less than rewarding time.  

I have no problem providing a physical description after an initial check with references to see if I am safe, responsible, a gentleman, etc. That would tell me she's more concerned about having a good time and interpersonal chemistry than looking for a physical specimen.  At my age, the physical specimen no longer resembles that of a 20-40 year old.



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Posted By: xxxray31
+1.  If she needs that information as part of her initial screening process it tells me that she's more concerned with physical attributes than personality, etc.  if I'm screened out by that, fine. Then I'm glad she did.  If any lady doesn't want to see me just tell me that right up front.  Too many other choices and it spares me from what might have been a less than rewarding time.    
   
 I have no problem providing a physical description after an initial check with references to see if I am safe, responsible, a gentleman, etc. That would tell me she's more concerned about having a good time and interpersonal chemistry than looking for a physical specimen.  At my age, the physical specimen no longer resembles that of a 20-40 year old.  
   
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I think there are far too many MN men on this board that could use a shot of  
Confidence.......
I just want to say there has been a couple references toward the way ya'all  view yourselves- saying things like: you may get screened out due to your looks ....or feeling not so good looking, and worse yet -actually thinking your looks are a reason to use the whole pay for play motto.....

The fact is I've seen roughly 60 some guys since taking a dip into hobby world & honestly only ONE time have I ever thought to myself 'now I understand why he pays for it'.........& that had nothing to do with looks it was a horrible nervousness and lack of rhythm that made me think this.
          Sure maybe a gal of the age or upkeep you end up paying for isn't someone you would just strike up a conversation with in public, but could it be attributed to lack of confidence and not having a defined outline agreement of time & expectations?
I find myself seeing men in a whole new light since discovering hobby land....sexuality doesn't turn off because of age or weight....it's an integral part of who we are as people & how we see ourselves....  

Since discovering hobby land-
I no longer wonder why some guy might stare too long in public & I'm flattered rather then annoyed by it.....I find myself wondering who would be willing to spend some time with me and what they are all about..

I've been with the elderly (with a rocking high sex drive & capacity for pleasure)  
I've been with many a good looking wealthy men who claim lust on their own terms...(seems to be the majority)  
And I've been with the down to earth 'saving to see me' guys who are all very,very awesome.
short, tall, bald, fluffy, extra fluffy, they all have there unique smile's, way of touching & pleasing.....and the look in their eye that is unique to them..... I've never think of the MN Men as a group or TER men as certain type...though I've heard some described this way, I refuse to lump everyone into the same description.  

Basically I really just wanted to say  
To all the men & women that might read this.....it is not our looks that define us -but how we treat each other......and with winter upon us its a perfect time to remind ourselves  we all have some very fine attributes that set us apart & make us irreplaceable in someone's eyes.  
Smile more,
~M


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Mindy, what a great response.  I don't have to pay for play, but I am not in a monogamous relationship (redundant observation), and I really like the majority of women I meet in this hobby.  There are exceptions to the rule. They usually come when I haven't done my own screening, and usually I'm screening to find what Dan Savage calls GGG -- good, giving, game.  That, along with a real love for and fascination with women, is what I try to bring too.  4 out of 5 times it makes for a thrilling encounter!  (I'm just running some of the best of them through my mind as I write.  So horny.)

what it is i thought was unique--i'm the ONE, i know!!!!!!!!!  and you know why i have to pay for it!!!!!

He doesn't have a TER membership and I've never seen him again... Hey maybe he was shaking cause he didn't like my dimensions ;) who knows, life goes on  

Posted By: narcisserotoid
what it is i thought was unique--i'm the ONE, i know!!!!!!!!!  and you know why i have to pay for it!!!!!
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deep and darkly wonderful sexuality and eros can intimidate certain folks, i guess.  i just wish i were reveling in it, right now!  the warmth of your flesh vs the cold of the air?  easy winner, there!

You are well spoken and thoughtful and thoughtful when you share.

I appreciate your understanding, I do understand why some guy's wouldn't want to send out that information. I feel for guy's who don't have enough confidence to do so. We are all human, you should feel comfortable with the provider of your choice. We are not judgemental. We love and care for our friend's and that's speaking for most providers. We don't want you to feel low, we want to help pick you up and be that amazing man you are inside and out!

 I understand there are thing's you fellas do to help you feel more comfortable with the provider of your choice, ie read reviews, check P411 ask questions etc. We have to feel comfortable as well, there's no fun if someone is not at ease in a meeting. Sure, we may always be on gaurd but at the end of the day we have thing's we like to know to feel more at ease.  

Posted By: minn4evr
I don't know why she wants the info, or what she does with it, specifically, but I don't see any cause for concern. She has a perfect right to ask for anything she needs to be comfortable, just as I have a perfect right to refuse information that makes me uncomfortable.  
   
 And, since I almost always rely on my P411 Profile to verify me, and since I put all that info in my Profile voluntarily, I'm comfortable with those requests.

I'm pretty sure in the above statement I clearly said asking for a description is for my saftey, if something where to go south my safe call already has a description. All information is always destroyed after our meeting.  

 
And misterrrrr Thumpnutz though I don't ask for a image, I've had gents voluntarily just send it... ctfu sometimes as if you know everything ;)

 
If anyone doesn't want to see me because I ask for a simple description can kiss my exotic caramel ass, It doesn't interfere with the way my day goes lol . There are plently of gents who could care less about providing that information. And some that have sent it with out me asking.

 
AGAIN, sense aparently I didn't make myself clear enough the first time. I could care less what you look like, as long as we treat each other right then we are A1..  

 
Now hopefully some of you aren't stupid enough that I will have to explain myself again.. riiight??

Opportunity to kiss your "exotic caramel ass".  Why didn't you say that in the first place.  Now you have my interest

Well I would say she is trying to find those who are appealing to her right or wrong I'm not saying.

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She is not hard up.
She has bodily preferences

I did not ask for height and weight when I first started in this hobby, but I do now. Height because I probably won't wear 6" heels if a gentleman is only 5'2". Weight because one of my very first clients was a larger man and broke a chair and the slats on the bed. I was renting a furnished condo at the time and had to pay for the damages.

Love to break a few slats on the bed with you.  ;-)

I know a gal who now asks for weight and refuses to see anyone who is more than 50 lbs overweight unless they can give her a doctors note that says their heart is healthy!!   But, that's only because one of her favorite clients who was obese had a heart attack and fell on top of her and trapped her with his full weight.  She is teeny tiny and had to really struggle to get out from under him.   She called 911 and hotel security.  He survived but it left her traumatized.

Posted By: jillianthemilf
I did not ask for height and weight when I first started in this hobby, but I do now. Height because I probably won't wear 6" heels if a gentleman is only 5'2". Weight because one of my very first clients was a larger man and broke a chair and the slats on the bed. I was renting a furnished condo at the time and had to pay for the damages.

Edited after I read above comment again to which I replied about perspective. EOM

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she needs it to give to LE so they know who to look for...lol

I chose to see people with pictures because I want to see the height, weight and body type.  I also read her reviews so that I have some idea what type of experience to expect.  If I am contacting a lady who likes a different type of guy I would want to know that up front.  She only want to know who she is seeing... what's the buzz

I realize this says "Gal's, what do you think"   But as a person,  I want to answer with my thoughts.

   Maybe..... She doesn't like to Fuck fat old white guys?   Do you like Fucking fat old green women?  Even though you want pay her,  it doesn't mean she wants to take you as a client.   If you are in business,  did you ever pass on a job or a sale because you didn't feel the reward was worth the effort.  Maybe she is sick of getting smothered by overweight, out of shape, bad breathed, heavy panting Romeo's.  If she wants to cull the herd it is her right.   Put yourself in there shoes.  Not so pretty then.  

Posted By: thumper6969
She wanted this information as part of her screening:  
   
 Age,  
 height,  
 weight  
 ethnicity:  
   
 If you are a guy thinking about seeing this one, what would you think about giving her this info, and why would she need it or want it.    
   
 Gals- this seems unusual- what do you think?

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So such people won't try to contact her in the first place.  Well, at least some of them won't.

I happen to like teddy and mini bear men but my preference is for Asian men if I thought it was practical, I'd advertise that but there's just not enough around here to bother so, All are welcome in my book .
If I screened that way then I'd probably ask for physical descriptions too.
 I wouldn't read too much into it...which is what I think most have done on this particular thread.  

Posted By: rdon
I realize this says "Gal's, what do you think"   But as a person,  I want to answer with my thoughts.  
   
    Maybe..... She doesn't like to Fuck fat old white guys?   Do you like Fucking fat old green women?  Even though you want pay her,  it doesn't mean she wants to take you as a client.   If you are in business,  did you ever pass on a job or a sale because you didn't feel the reward was worth the effort.  Maybe she is sick of getting smothered by overweight, out of shape, bad breathed, heavy panting Romeo's.  If she wants to cull the herd it is her right.   Put yourself in there shoes.  Not so pretty then.    
   
Posted By: thumper6969
She wanted this information as part of her screening:  
     
  Age,    
  height,    
  weight  
  ethnicity:  
     
  If you are a guy thinking about seeing this one, what would you think about giving her this info, and why would she need it or want it.    
     
  Gals- this seems unusual- what do you think?  
   
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Provider doesn't list weight and measurements on P411 profile, yet wants that sort of info from client, hmmm....???

First of all, I tried to list all of that. On p411 if you try to list your breast size you then NEED to enter waiste and hips. I have never measured either sooo it's not there. And for the record I'm 5"5 178.3 I have no shame in my sexy game ;).  

Why ooooh why must I have to say AGAIN I do nooooooot care about looks? Yall are just fking with me correct?? This conversation is sooooo over. I have better things to do (like fk the fking shit out of my 280lbs 56 year old client who is sooooo charming) then to sit on this board and keep explaining myself (Flips hair and walks away switching my succulent caramel ass). Asking for a description is for my safety lol nothing more nothing less. Yall are reading wayyyyy to much into it! It's kinda sad actually.  
 
1.) No I do not have a type of client I like to see, just be a gentlemen.
2.) For the record two of my favorite regular boyfriends are amazing and guess what?! One is 56 280 lbs and I love it when he rocks my world!! The other 34 very shy and I LOVE his geeky personality and when he sucks on my toes! Heyyy lover's ;)  

Anyways back to the regular program! ;)  
Just a little reality check for that ass.
Some of you boy's need a SPANKING! Come bend over my lap and take it like a MAN.  

Posted By: handytohave60
Provider doesn't list weight and measurements on P411 profile, yet wants that sort of info from client, hmmm....???

Posted By: RaynaParis
First of all, I tried to list all of that. On p411 if you try to list your breast size you then NEED to enter waiste and hips. I have never measured either sooo it's not there. And for the record I'm 5"5 178.3 I have no shame in my sexy game ;).  
   
 Why ooooh why must I have to say AGAIN I do nooooooot care about looks? Yall are just fking with me correct?? This conversation is sooooo over. I have better things to do (like fk the fking shit out of my 280lbs 56 year old client who is sooooo charming) then to sit on this board and keep explaining myself (Flips hair and walks away switching my succulent caramel ass). Asking for a description is for my safety lol nothing more nothing less. Yall are reading wayyyyy to much into it! It's kinda sad actually.  
   
 1.) No I do not have a type of client I like to see, just be a gentlemen.  
 2.) For the record two of my favorite regular boyfriends are amazing and guess what?! One is 56 280 lbs and I love it when he rocks my world!! The other 34 very shy and I LOVE his geeky personality and when he sucks on my toes! Heyyy lover's ;)  
   
 Anyways back to the regular program! ;)  
 Just a little reality check for that ass.  
 Some of you boy's need a SPANKING! Come bend over my lap and take it like a MAN.  
   
Posted By: handytohave60
Provider doesn't list weight and measurements on P411 profile, yet wants that sort of info from client, hmmm....???

We post photos of ourselves on P411. Gentlemen also have the option to post photos of themselves on P411, but rarely do.

Giving out this information wouldn't bother me.  Name, occupation/employer, would.

Posted By: thumper6969
She wanted this information as part of her screening:  
   
 Age,  
 height,  
 weight  
 ethnicity:  
   
 If you are a guy thinking about seeing this one, what would you think about giving her this info, and why would she need it or want it.    
   
 Gals- this seems unusual- what do you think?

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