I would try and be a BFE but would probably get bad reviews
Hi folks,
If I was provided a service, had to ask for certain things that were refused or done so reluctantly, then by reading other reviews find that others had a better result, so very much YMMV, is it tacky to email the provider and let her know why I won't be returning or should I just let it go and move on?
I would'nt hesitate to let her know. Her response or lack of it will tell you volumes.
What do you hope to gain by confronting her? If she wasn't for you, move on to someone else and if you feel so inclined write a review. You might also consider that if most others got better service than you there may have been something about you that caused her YMMV to kick in.
I get the idea of YMMV in cases where there is a hygiene issue or something, but otherwise, it does bother me a little given my money is just as good as anyone's and I was very courteous and respectful. But certainly maybe she just didn't like me much. No worries, I just honestly wanted to let her know that some hobbyist take issue with significant YMMV since she is fairly new and because I told her at the session I would be back, but not now I won't.
I can't blame you for feeling you didn't get your money's worth. If it's answers your looking for, even if you get a response, don't expect to get the answers you're looking for.
If you want to give her unsolicited advice on how to run her business, don't expect to be welcomed with open arms either.
If you already wrote a review of this encounter, what happened after you wrote it to make you want to change it now? If your review is from a previous visit you can write a new review about this one.
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it serves no purpose to rag on her for doing something she did for others that she evidently didn't do for you. I know it can gnaw on your ego- but there are probably one or two(or more) providers who will suit your needs.
Also I already wrote a review, so doesn't seem fair to go back and change it (if that even were an option?)
It's a bit tacky IMO .
I'd expect YMMV for a massage lady but not so much a gfe provider however, there's many reasons as to why that happened maybe it was something that had nothing to do with you at all.
Anyway, I wouldn't be dwelling on it so much. It will drive you crazy.
Some ladies don't like having orders barked at them through the entire session either because it takes the "romance" out of a GFE.
I'm not saying that you did that but to me if a gent seems high maintenance i;e constantly telling me to do this or that, it kinda stresses me out like as if nothing I do is good enough thus affects the sessions outcome.
We can't please everyone but we can sure try right !? 
Also, I personally offer massages and Ultimate GFE massages, given my reviews, if someone comes in asking for a plain old massage but expecting GFE treatment they may be disappointed. I have no desire to disappoint anyone, but communication beforehand, if at all possible, might help to clear up confusion about what's actually on the menu.
You can tell in many, many provider reviews who expected to get full service GFE at a massage rate ...what I'm saying is don't be the guy who eats almost the whole entree then complains about it after trying to get the meal comped, no one likes that guy .
Ladies control what they do with their bodies, who they do it with, how often they do it and why they choose to do certain things with certain clients and why they won't do those same things with others. It may have everything to do with you and it may have absolutely nothing to do with you.
In simpler terms, Drop it and move on.
You asked.
She said no.
You feel cheated.
YMMV
She felt uncomfortable with you, the way you asked etc.
Now you are whining.
She is not your slave.
Move on. With BB on this one
I'm not saying that's what you want to do or will do but that might be how its perceived.
Some times we just don't click and that's life, some times our daily lives get in the way ... Everyone no matter what job does not give 100% every day all the time. Yes it is a service but unfortunately it is a very personal, subject service that relies on chemistry and has some risks involved. There is no true menu, we aren't mcdonalds. We, as in most of us, try to make everyone happy but there are times it just isn't going to happen.
You already wrote the review, there is nothing more to say. Keep shopping; I'm sure you will find a wonderful provider who you click with and means your needs and expectations.
Yours is only specific email I'd like to address. Actually, I would appreciate an email from a provider telling me what "I did wrong" if presented respectfully as I would have done. I don't hobby a lot, so I may need some pointers to be the best hobbyist I can be (I believe hobbyists have responsibilities in these..arrangements, just as much as providers).
Good answer ... Most anything can be said respectfully.
Yes we men are sensitive and why didn't you do to us what you did to that other guy. Reviews are helpful and all we have sometimes but not always packed with the truth. Like MsDynamite said its probably more with the massage girls but every day is different. Go back and your experience could be different, could be better, the same or worse, Reading reviews and every session varies. That's what makes it interesting
YMMV can suck but your next encounter may find you getting more than some other guys. Than what. But I think most girls really try. And we have no idea what kind of day she had or kind of men walk in the door
This is why being low volume is so practical.
Spend more time to give them the full attention they need vs being booked back to back, worn out mentally & physically.
Good point and one i've thought of myself. Maybe us guys should become male escorts for a while and well besides going broke, it sounds fun at first but as the weeks went on, who knows
How likely is it that the women who call are anyone you'd actually like to be with. At least for me, the reality is that I probably couldn't perform much if I wasn't attracted to her. Hats off to the ladies for being able to do what they do cause I know I'd never cut it.
I would try and be a BFE but would probably get bad reviews
It's supposed to be fun, I think a lot of people forget that !
Odds are if she replied to such an email, you wouldn't be happy with the response anyway. Best to focus your efforts on finding providers who do provide you what you want.
Although I would agree with the general premise of "what's the point you should move on", I would be pissed as well if I was you. I'd like some specifics about what you didn't receive that others did. If all her reviews and/or menu options said that she would provide certain things and she didn't that's not right. The excuse of YMMV is weak at best. That term should be used for subjective issues and the concept of general connection not menu option. If she says BBBJ or DFK she should provide that to everyone who walks through the door. If she wants to make a judgment call then she should make that known ahead of time on her profile. False advertising in any field is unprofessional. That being said if you are completely grotesque with a cheese dick and haven't seen the inside of a shower in four days then I'm changing my answer to "get your act together if you want the best out of this hobby world".
Quote: "If she says BBBJ or DFK she should provide that to everyone who walks through the door. If she wants to make a judgment call then she should make that known ahead of time on her profile. "
Why should a gal need to point out that arrogant, conceited, self-righteous, entitled, stinky, dirty, foul breathed, demanding men need not apply? Should that not be a given and understood before even joining the hobby?????
The vast majority of hobbyists are clean, decent, respectful gentlemen but as in everything there are
exceptions to that rule.
By the way, there are more reasons to deny a bbbj or dfk than just stinky breath and cheese dick.
Maybe the lady has a cavity and has not made it to the dentist before the appt. Or maybe she bit her tongue just prior to the appt? Who knows.
Ultimately, it's the ladies choice because it is her body
First encounters can be awkward for anyone (even in the civvie world). Sometimes return visits to providers yield better results as you get to know one another and build a connection.
Thanks for all the replies, folks. Not sure why some replies seemed almost angry at me (white knight syndrome, I suppose), I'm just asking a question to try to follow good "etiquette", but thank you for those with reasoned responses! I'm just gonna drop it and move on.