Especially on a first date. I think that can flip a switch in their mind and make it stressful/analytical, instead of a free for all fun date.

I have a policy nowadays where I ask the guys to please not discuss P411 OK's or Whitelists until at least 24 hours after our date. Back in the day, guys would short me money after I whitelisted them during the date. Made things very awkward. (This was before I required the envelope at the beginning.)

I think it kind of ruins the date - at least for me - depending on the relationship. I just think it's better as a follow up... but again, that's just me.

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Chances are I am going to review regardless, unless it was such a horrible experience then I would opt not to unless it was a safety issue.  I have had providers ask me not to review after a session due to the fact they are trying to keep a low profile.  If a girl is new to the hobby and asks me to review her in order to get her name known I have no problem with that, but preferably after the session.

A friendly "would you mind..." at the end of the session or an e-mail is fine. I actually don't write reviews unless I'm asked to.

For writing reviews, I generally just do it.  Reviews, praising or critical, are something that comes with the territory of being a TER-listed provider.  So it's free advertising for her if she deserves it, or a cautionary tale to stay away if she doesn't.  The one time I deliberately would not write a review, is when the session was just plain bad, and she or her agent/scheduler set off red flags in my head somehow (rude, mechanical, etc).  This never happened, though, and hopefully, never will.

Whitelist referrals, on the other hand, I feel awkward asking for.  I find that comparable to asking a civvie: "was it good for you too?"  I just realize that not all providers give whitelist referrals or use them for verification, and act accordingly.

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