Dear Tabu,
I can see that this email was a source of irritation to you. In analyzing the content, it seems he is coming at you from a submissive angle; aside from being bitter, his self-esteem has absolutely tanked and he thinks degrading himself might actually become exciting. He could also have been royally soused (or stoned, who knows) when he penned this sad communication. I would ignore it and relegate it to the recycling bin as soon as possible.
Take care of yourself and have a good week,
the Love Goddess
I would really like your opinion on this email. Is it for real? Does he really expect a provider to have unprotected sex for him to enjoy later? Or do you think it's a big chuckle for him to send this email out to well-established ladies, hoping for a response?
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Dear Goddess,
I am a 36 yr old inferior white boy in a world ruled by superior women such as yourself. I understand and accept my role in this world, that my job is to satisfy a woman in many ways, one not being sexually. I mean, how can a 4.5" penis that shoots in 90 seconds accomplish such a feat.
Why am I telling you this? I am a cuckold. One who accepts his inadequacies in life by accepting his female's infidelity. I'm wondering if I could schedule a session directly after well-hung client of your's possibly. No cleaning up or anything by you from this session. I will get the deserving leftover seconds and constantly reminded of how real men do the job??
Hope this is something you may be able to accommodate Goddess.
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I suppose it could be meant to break your chops but I would not be shocked to know that he is really trying to satisfy a deep secret fantasy. One provider that I know told me about a guy who offered her big $ for the chance to complete BBFS. The kicker was that his reason for the request was so that he could immediately DATY after he was done, i.e. cream pie. Your nutcase may have a similar fantasy with an added twist. Good God, the books you fine ladies could write....
Dear Tabu,
I can see that this email was a source of irritation to you. In analyzing the content, it seems he is coming at you from a submissive angle; aside from being bitter, his self-esteem has absolutely tanked and he thinks degrading himself might actually become exciting. He could also have been royally soused (or stoned, who knows) when he penned this sad communication. I would ignore it and relegate it to the recycling bin as soon as possible.
Take care of yourself and have a good week,
the Love Goddess
I get a lot of stupid/sicko stuff, that, like this, I ignore. This one just seemed extra-odd nad I saved it merely to send on to you. Now's it headed for the sad-sack trash.
thanks for your input!
It is likely that this is genuine. Cuckolding is a whole world in the fetish arena. The sensual humiliation of a woman taking control and erotically exerting power is intoxicating to these subs. Note how his email says no cleaning "this session" it is something on his mind for the future.
When you are involved in the bdsm and fetish world...anything is possible.
This is actually something quite common. A cuckold thrives on humilation...the more the better. There are endless senerios.
If you offer bdsm or fetish possibilities, you already know the types of client you will be dealing with and screen, refer out or delete the email of the undesireables.
If you DO NOT offer these services, it can be quite a surprise to receive these kind of emails. Most should just be ignored, if you do not desire to get involed at all. Otherwise, I suggest seeking out fetish providers and learn from them...or better yet...choose your favorite and refer to them. I know many fetish queens get providers calls mixed in as well and trading seems a great solution. Mixing the two can be very tricky.
I have been in the alternative lifestyle for more then 10 years now. I actually started there...way before providing. I am a bi-switch so I am able to go all ways, but I am not the norm...thats for sure.
YES, this guy is probably for real and is going about things in the wrong approach. Normally a cuckold is with one person...not always. To be humiliated by a complete stranger is another level. You never know for sure what someone is thinking until they tell you.
Cream pies are very common. Usually it is done safely with people you know are clean and it would be a mutual consentual senerio. YES guys still think we should risk going without a condom...however he did not suggest this.
See being a GODDESS, you have to be SMARTER then average. Most excutive types are looking for major mental release as well. GODDESSES are always creatively exploring life on all levels...unaffraid.
Here is another possibility...how would he know??? If you saved a few leftover used condoms and collected a large amount of cum and then just poured it all over yourself, how would he know?
I am not saying lie as much as I am suggesting a compromise. It's something we do regulary to deal with these type of requests. I hope this does not freak out to many people, but we are all adults here right? Unless you are in this realm, you would never realize the amazing things happening every day!!!
Exploring is a great thing...ABUSE IS NOT...there is a big difference and we choose to play...not abuse. Once again everything is consentual and not forced. We have our rules and guidelines and have to be educated as well. It's a long process thats constantly changing. So that was why I suggested referring it over to another proffessional...it usually turns out to be more of a win/win situation that way.
There is always an alternative solution to everything, however it's nice to go with the WISEST CHOICE.
Mistress CANE
Had Tabu been a BDSM provider, she probably would not have posted this email for clarification...
Always great to have a panel of experts available,
the Love Goddess
The name "Tabu" probably caught his eye. It could also be that there is a fetish specialist who also goes by that name.
He also wrote of "accepting his female's infidelity." She may have been providing him with these fetishes before - I'd have to guess milder fetishes - and, if they broke up, might have suffered a degree of emotional breakdown; that could be why he's going down this route now.
has sent this identical email to several other non-BDSM providers. He really is barking up the wrong tree here.
However, many thanks for your very lucid and elightening post!
He doesn't exactly say that he expects BBFS right before his session, just that the client immediately before is well-hung (and presumably very good) and don't clean up (ie. shower/brush teeth/etc) before his session.
Obviously, this is an unusual request and no one knows what's going on in his head but him, so it's best to go with one's best judgement.