To read your post and I myself through the years have enjoyed wonderful experiences. I value the human aspect more than the holes and there are many wonderful ladies in this career that love what they do. I wish there were more openess about this and I hope one day this is going to be legal to enjoy it at iit's fulness.
I am cutting back my role on this discussion board. Once upon a time, I was a frequent poster, for the last six months, I have been cutting back. I have deleted all of my aliases. I will continue to post some shills and reviews
The decade on TER has been a good time. I enjoy sex now more than I did before I came here and hope that the women I have met have had a good time too.
I genuinely like almost of all of the TER women that I have met. A few have been at least interesting." A couple others are 'flawed' but still human. The screening and trolls is the most irksome part of this. The guarded hostility of some women is sometimes annoying, mostly understandable.
Being in this for a while, I appreciate the difficult choices facing many of the providers who are not supported by ex husbands, working low wage jobs on the side, saddled with unsupported child care costs. You should never be condemned for it.
I have glimpsed at how self body-image affects men and women differently. Women seem to worry more about a couple extra pound, a mole, a sag, an old tattoo. Those things say nothing about who you are. They really do not matter that much. A good time in bed rarely is related to that old scar.
The best providers that I have seen talk about what they like. Too many providers seem constrained by the "transaction " "The guy is the customer--the women is the product. Tell me what you want," Good sex does not happen that way for women or for men. All it does it let unimaginative guys do 40
seconds of mish [switch] 40 seconds doggy [switch].... There is no music or dance in that. It is just a workout.
Best to all of the providers that I have met.. I would thank each of you personally but you know who you are and some of you are UTR and unreachable although you still monitor the board for news
To read your post and I myself through the years have enjoyed wonderful experiences. I value the human aspect more than the holes and there are many wonderful ladies in this career that love what they do. I wish there were more openess about this and I hope one day this is going to be legal to enjoy it at iit's fulness.
The statement "I have deleted all my aliases" indicates that you had multiple log on ID as we have only one alias per log on.
Ones alias can change multiple times over that many years. HOW it is used is so much more important than how MANY are used, IMO. Something to think about. This board will now be missing one of the good ones.
In hobby land there are few we can trust; we are all aware of the reasons why. 'Nuff said.
Peace,
Astri
OP wrote "I have deleted all of my aliases." When TER restricted us to 1 alias any others were deleted for us. If he is in fact cutting back and as he said "deleted all of my aliases" the only conclusion is that he had multiple sign on personas each with the now allowed 1 alias. He didn't say he had multiple aliases over the years which you imply, he said he's cutting back and "I have deleted all of my aliases." It it really very straight forward.
I do agree that there are only a few we can trust, that why I use my alias.
I've been in this hobby less than a year just thinking i'd get something out of my system after a divorce but it's addicting.
And the ladies are great. Iv'e never had a bad experience. Oh a couple where i didn't have the so called connection but it was still good and they were all gorgeous and fun to be with and talk to and touch so what's not to like
I'd like to thank em to, past and future and maybe i'll post a list
You kindly provided advice to me. Though (I don't believe) we've ever met, the fact that you reached out to a newbie was much appreciated!
That I find what you said about scars not being important in comparison to how good we are in bed absolutely commendable. It took me a lot of time to get used to every single part of my body being scrutinized. It's refreshing when I see guys who care about the ladies that they meet as human beings, instead of barbie dolls.
That is all. 