It is a small reason why I would not recommend. I would feel horrible if I recommended him to another provider friend and he wrote a review that that about her. Just wanted to make that clear!

That might be a good first step--er, second step--ask some providers you know and trust what they would do in your place. Maybe you've already done that. If not, in hindsight I think it would have been better to use the back channel for this discussion than a public forum. But, it's public now so...

IMO the action that went way over the line was continuing to contact you when you told him to not contact you any more.  The other biggie was the frequent last minute cancellations. Providers need to be warned of these behaviors, in some way other than not whitelisting him--which isn't very effective since many reputable hobbyists have no whitelists.

If I acted in that way, I think a provider would be justified in blacklisting me. No provider should have to put up with that kind of behavior.

I have used call blocking on a couple of occasions, not hard to do the same with E-mail. Sometimes the simplest answers are overlooked.
Steel

...make up bad shit about him. I think posting this on the board is a very smart and appropriate move. He will see this thread and know it's about him and other Providers will PM you and ask you who it is. I agree it falls short of Blacklisting but you have every right to try and thwart any guy who doesn't know how to act appropriately.

Stalking is as stalking does.

1. He calls and repeatedly wastes your time (=money) with cancels.
2. He plays double message with you (see also 1)
3. See 1 and 2.  
4. He is rude (and abuses his power 1,2,3)
5. He somehow makes you feel like his abuses are your fault.
6.  You have given him more chances than you should and feel guilted into giving him more.

 
1) he has canceled on me more times last minute then I have actually seen him (I tried being understanding in the beginning because he was going through divorce and the cancellations were due to his ex supposedly not picking up the kids)
 
2) once I sent him a "Merry Christmas" message and he responded with "don't contact me again" ... He later apologized and said that he was on a date when he got that text (not sure why a simple two word text like that is if concern as he is single) ... I felt it was okay to send him the Merry Christmas text due to the fact that he and I message back-and-forth a few times before that.  
 
3) he also double booked with me and another provider then canceled on me (I told him at that time to not contact me any further and he cannot use me as a reference yet he still does ... Asking for appointments and asking for references) he just doesn't get it!
 
4) maybe this isn't a valid reason but his review for me although it wasn't horrible he did state a few things in it that were rude and I've even had other regulars email me or in person tell me how upset they were regarding his review.  
 
5) last but not least I have not seen him in many, many months and have not heard good things about him from others. I am embarrassed by his behavior and the fact that I told him about TER.  
 
I've given him more chances than I should have I don't feel that he should be blacklisted as a time waster but I will pass on this information to whomever requests it ... Just tired of getting used as a reference.

To even worry about blacklisting a bad client. The only references you could give is exactly what you have posted here. After a few bad references he will stop

Every time he uses you as a reference is an opportunity to warn others about his behavior. Blocking or simply never responding to his messages should eventually get rid of him. For your own personal safety always remember he's still out there.

he's deluded, desperate and therefore ...trying to think of a 'd' word meaning unsafe... a little  dangerous.

Just be honest and tell him I wish not to see you anymore and then he will leave you alone. I wish girls would do that to me when I email them and nothing back.

He pushes your boundaries, is a chronic timewaster and does not respect your decision.  IMO, any of those by themselves makes him a candidate for a blacklist.   I would note all of these things in any reference request.

that you were contacting him on a personal level via non-date texts.  You open a can of worms when you go beyond provider/hobbyist relationship.  IMO

If you had booked his calls and sent bad references that should have been enough for you.  I don't think blasting him here was worth yours our our time.  

Based on your previous posting history, this was, to me, out-of-charactr for you.

What a Jerk, call your phone co. and Have all calls and text blocked..

And can't you block him
On your email also?
He will eventually get a clue!!
Some People!!!

He did find this and read it. Apparently he does not remember getting either the email or the text message about no contact but I did send them. That may explain why he continued the contact and using me as a reference, however because I value my integrity and stand by my references when I give them as not only being safe but respectful, I still will not give him my seal of approval.  I am confident that he will not contact me any farther and not use me as a reference thus he "got the message" as I had hoped.  

Long story short ... He is not an asshole, douche bag, or stalker ... He has used BP until recently and IMHO needs to utilize the TER newbie board to get accustomed to what the TER ladies expect if these are the ladies he wants to see.  

I will add he was quite respectful when contacting me regarding this issue and I wish him well. I try to see the best in people and always hope we can learn and improve; he is no exception to this and I'm sure all will be good in the end.