I found during my "hostess" term, there is a SMALL minority that fit the description you described. Before that, I was the 100% HAPPY HOOKER...LOL, everything was always ROSY! Then, when I was put in a position (that, yes, I VOLUNTEERED FOR) I found there were, JUST A FEW, who did not think a lady should speak her mind. The Good Ole' Boys' Club, I like to call them. It was, at first, a hard pill to swallow. A very kind hobbyist that I adore helped explain it to me. This place (TER) was originated as a "FUCK BOARD" where the guys could go and help each other out since we own all the pussy and 52% of everything else, they wanted their place. And NOW, here we go, wanting to be treated "RIGHT" on here, too. lol!!! Anyway, I am not saying one person is right or one is wrong. But, it helped me UNDERSTAND when that gentleman was kind enough to explain it to me WHY those "Good Ole' Boys" might feel the way they do. There is always two sides to everything.
A good, close friend sent me a quote a few weeks ago...
"Say what you feel, those who matter don't mind and those who mind don't matter." (something like that) Dr. Suess
Anyway, hope it helps. Keep doing you, you seem like a sweetheart! Anyone sensitive enough to care, can't be all bad.