. . . humdrum of having sex with a complete stranger. Even if the sex was mind-blowing, establishing a connection beforehand (or after) can certainly enhance the rendezvous. Most impotantly, we both end up having a memorable experiece.  

Personally, I dearly enjoy encounters that are mentally stimulating in addition to being sexually gratifying. Even though I have an insatiable appetite for sex, there is nothing like a gentleman who stimulates the brain - I am a sapiosexual.  

Nonetheless, I believe that the experiece that you are looking for begins with mutual chemistry.  Which, you can always gauge the compatibility by perusing a providers's personal website, following her on social media, and/or subscribing to her blog if she has one.  

What are her interests? What is her personality like on the boards? What does she retweet on Twitter? Can you guys talk about some of the same things?  

Of course, the most mutual chemistry is found when you chose a provider who is close to you in age, but that's not always the case. A lot of my clients are 3X my age at a tender 23. However, I am mature and intelligent beyond my years thanks to older parents and higher education.

Which in closing, as a highly reviewed and rated provider, I do consider myself to a professional 'matress actress'. However, I love getting a feel for the men who seek my company. There is only so much acting you can do when you are meeting a complete stranger - I refuse to deny this.  

Nevertheless, this is for the gentlemen who enjoy a little more than the "Bam, Bam, Thank-You Ma'am".  

Have a Happy New Year!  

Adrienne Baptiste

Being mentally locked-in with your partner, be it for a few hours or for far longer, makes the experiences you share together that much more memorable and that much more exciting.  Being able to discuss your wine's tasting notes, share stories, laugh together, and be mentally enthralled by a well-written verse, and then channeling that mental build-up into a physical experience? That's the stuff that memories are made of.  

I've met quite a few of the ladies listed, and those on that list would all be excellent choices; I'm personally fond of Ms. Parker.  I've had marvelously fun and exciting conversations with Ms. Baptiste as well; she'd make an excellent partner for your escapade too.

While I'm definitely an acquired taste and may fall outside of the boundaries of your own personal tastes, I love the types of experiences you're talking about. Mental connection makes even the lightest touches turn electric.  Plus, I clean up nicely.

Whoever you decide on, I'm sure you'll have a wonderful time.

There is something sexy about a nice sexy mind fuck(for lack of a better word) before getting to the naughty.  The well appointed outfit that hints at sensuality in a way a woman dresses for a 1st date, getting to know the other and discussing things that turn each other on in a intellectual way.  Hence the mind fuck, getting you ready for what is to follow.  

The hot roaming hands, the tongues that seem to crave one another.  Stoking each others bodies through the clothing and even being so excited that fully clothed bodies are unable to wait till unclothed before rubbing one another....  The hurried jaunt to the bedroom that takes far to long as the heat continues down the hall and almost ending several times on the hallway floor....  Finding that soft bed and melding.....  Yum...

I agree with many others that there is something more to be said about a great conversation with someone who has an opinion and can share further knowledge with me.  It is sexy and draws in the sexual energy.  

However, these can be tricky.  Sometimes no matter how you try there just is not connection.  Perhaps before trying to have an encounter like this where it really does count on a longer visit, maybe do a shorter one just to gage if you can truely get that connection going.  Or a phone conversation at least just to make sure that you are both on the same wave length to be able to get there?   There is nothing better then sitting down with a guy who rocks your mind 1st, and then your body 2nd.  Makes a woman feel like a tigress and you will get her all.  Though there is almost nothing worse then trying to have a conversation with another person who is pushy, grabby and you feel nothing for.  Sure a woman can muddle through it and if she is a good enough actress you will never have any idea she didn't care for you.  These are uncommon, most guys at least have a few good redeeming qualities that make them easy to be with.  

So read through your prospective ladies websites, see who has a true flair for wording that trips your trigger and then speak with her just to make sure that wording is her and she is truly the woman behind the mask.  There are ad writers and site writers that are sometimes hired to word things, so it can be benificial to make sure who you are with.  I have met a few who were really well worded on their sites, but then you meet in person and they can barely hold a conversation.  Again few and far but it happens.

Most of all, good luck to you.  I hope you find what you are looking for as there are many fine ladies in the Chicagoland area who I am sure fit your desires to a tee.  Perhaps look up  few ladies that trip your trigger and see if there are a few guys who have reviewed all of them.  Reach out to them and ask them if there is a woman they have met that might be a true intellectual as well as rocking it in bed.  

If I might make a suggestion.  BebeDoll, she is highly intelligent and can hold conversations that would blow your intellectual mind.  As far as looks she is a smaller frame, but still sturdy enough for the things that matter without seeming she might break.  Kinda the older MILF type that you would never suspect has a sexy and truly naughty secret....  She is great but certainly not the typical fare.  I might be a bit on the thick side for you but have done many of these types of dates.  I love the tease in conversation and enjoy the mind fuck....  Certainly an acquired taste.

I am the college educated Mom next door.

This is too planned for me. My style and preference in a client is one who comes with no expectations or order of events. Especially if it's going to be a returning gent. (Though I completely validate the OP's request, and wish him well, it would be staged in my case.)

A story from the other day: I said to him, let's throw out the acronyms and just bang like horny college kids. Though the list of activities was short, the satisfaction was best out of our eight visits. The rest of the night we drank and sorted out the problems in western religion. I left discovering things I never thought about. Then we grabbed our guitars and jammed, drank, and laughed.

Over time, the dates I have with lovely gentlemen i see (they're sexy AF) are becoming more real, more passionate, and less of a performance. So we both leave satisfied.

So though certain guys have a list of "to-do's", and that's great, I'm trying to veer away from that. In the end, even more happens. It's more fun, and DATY, bj, positions happen as we both want it, as opposed to accountability to the group think mindset iand standards of competition here.

I am looking to abandon these on first, second, third visit. I enjoy figuring a man out, teaching him about me, and just going with it. Over time, staged visits become more natural, and planning to try something and say " I just want you to do this or that this time" feels more natural.

I am still waiting to practice a specific request on a certain individual I've thoroughly enjoyed multiple visits with. At this point, it would be more natural, now that we've tested the waters and felt each other out.

Oh the perks of long lasting, mysterious friendships.

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