People have a choice whom to associate with or not when it comes to their private lives. Civil rights, feelings of equality and what not doesn’t really matter, when it comes to personal choice. Moreover, even if they see you, what fun are you going to have. There are many racial stigma attached to many races, who the fuck cares?
Manipulating anyone to do anything they don't want to or enjoy is nothing more than imposing your will on them, call it whatever the fuck you want to call.
Note: I am not white or Black or oriental, or latino, or european, or hispanic! Have never run into this problem and I tell the provider ahead of time what racial classification I belong to. I am very well aware of the stereo typing of my ethnicity.
"Remember this: You can only exercise your freedom as long as your right to exercising yours doesn't interfere from others exercising theirs”. Fundamental tenants of a free society and it appears everyone has forgotten this simple contract between people.