Thanks. Yeah, if it was just a typical NCNS I wouldn't have posted. It's just really odd not to hear ANYTHING after almost 2 weeks, especially after leaving her messages explaining that I understand if she doesn't want to see me anymore...I just want to know that she is ok. But, like I said, I've done pretty much all I can do at this point so like others have said, time to move on.
Hey everyone,
So, I'm a bit concerned about Bailey. I have been one of her regulars for a while now...we really connected and usually see her once every couple of weeks.
Anyway, I had an appointment with her on Aug. 7th and up until a few hours before we were to meet we were in contact. Then, when I texted her to let her know I was on my way... no response. And I still haven't heard from her after 10 days!
I'm a little worried that something might have happened. I didn't have ANY indication that she didn't want to see me anymore so I'm kind of at a loss as to why I haven't heard from her.
If anyone has seen or heard from her, could you let me know? At this point, just knowing that she is ok is enough for me...I would really appreciate it. Thx!
... I have learned the hard way that these feelings of concern are misplaced. More than once, a provider has NCNS'd me, with no contact afterwards for many days (in one case) and never (in another case). In the first case, the provider eventually called me to apologize and offered to "make things right." I accepted her apology and saw her again. Later I found out she had a history of NCNSes, and I found out why. In the other case, I had a text confirmation from the provider a couple of hours before the session and she seemed excited about seeing me. I had seen her before and thought that session went well. But when I arrived at her incall, she was a no-show with no response to my texts, calls, and email. I was concerned about her until I saw one of her ads a few days later. Then I found out she too has a history of NCNSes, which was not at all evident from her reviews or chatter on the boards.
Hopefully one of Bailey's other clients will contact you to let you know they saw her recently, so you know she's ok, and then (if I were you) move on
This is not your job. We have to presume that she has her own social support system that is looking out for her.
An unfortunate number of women wind up being stalked by regular clients. None of us have any idea of the nature of your relationship with her. She has not whitelisted you.
You have a nice trackrecord on the board but this is not a problem to solve here. If she has mentioned women who are her friends and who you know, you might ask them to inquire but do not expect them to answer back.
Yeah, that's a good point. I knew that my posting might come across as a bit weird...maybe a little stalker-ish, which I'm not, but as you said, no way for anyone to know that for sure. It was pretty much my last resort and, as I said, at this point I am just hoping she is ok...if she doesn't want to contact me or see me again, I'm actually ok with that. Just would like to know that everything is ok
Pretty sure most people took it as "Hmm, Mrs Mocha latte didn't show for her regular today."
Not a major concern but a noticeable absence. Then again I've been in the service industry for way too long...
Don't feel too bad about asking though but you should know people tend make mountains out of mole hills here.
Thanks. Yeah, if it was just a typical NCNS I wouldn't have posted. It's just really odd not to hear ANYTHING after almost 2 weeks, especially after leaving her messages explaining that I understand if she doesn't want to see me anymore...I just want to know that she is ok. But, like I said, I've done pretty much all I can do at this point so like others have said, time to move on.
What it boils down to is he asked if she was OK. Answering that question is hardly enabling a stalker although I certainly wouldn't give up any personal info about her assuming I knew any.
..they are providers. They are not your friend. Ever just go hang out with her or have a beer or dinner & music where no money was exchanged or "contact" involved? Ever just call for no reason to chat? Didn't think so. Keep things in perspective.
Well, actually, yeah...we have hung out a couple of times, no money exchange and no services given. We also have talked on the phone and texted, just to say hello.
But, ultimately, you are right...above all else, it's a buisness arrangement and I get that, really I do! Like I said, at this point, I would just like to know that she is ok, regardless of any future arrangements. And I understand that all you guys are hearing is my perspective, which is impossible to trust. But, this was pretty much my last resort, so I took a chance. Time to move on!
...give a shit about you like that if you NCNS? Bet she'd just be pissed you didn't show up. Get over it Romeo. Obviously SHE wasn't as connected as you thought. Money only buys the "connection" for a specified amount of time regardless what you desire. Money runs out... Time is up. It's a business. It's that simple. Sorry to break the news/
Sad but more than likely true
for another human being. I applaud your compassion. There are plenty of people I know that gain financially by my existence and if any of them up and disappeared I would be concerned as well. Hope you find out what became of her.