We all know or should know the risks associated with being an escort or a hobbyist. For me its a calculated risk; I greatly enjoy the time I spend with the ladies I see but at the same time I don't go crazy and just see woman after woman without regard to the risks, including financial, of doing so. Of course we are a minority. Nothing unusual about that. But I say the problem is with the majority who are unwilling to accept that what we do should be perfectly fine so long as all parties are consenting adults.
Being involved in this hobby as a provider and client has many inherent risks that could easily lead to negative repercussions. If my friends and family knew I was involved with P4P they would be shocked, disgusted, and undoubtedly curious. So why do we take the chance when so many others wouldn't. Are we wired differently than the rest of the population. Are we desperate or lonely. Are we sex addicts. What about the women. It's income driven but there are plenty of women that need to support themselves that would never turn to escorting. Are providers just more open minded sexually, do they enjoy the adoration they receive by being a provider, or is it something else. We come to believe this hobby world is "normal" after being involved for a while and we find like minded individuals here that enforce that perception but I would argue that we are in the minority with that thinking. Addict; "a person who is addicted to a particular substance" or "an enthusiastic devotee of a specified thing or activity". The second definition fits me well but I wonder if the first does as well.
My loose definition of an addict would include being involved in a certain behavior(s) that allows the person to function “normally” on a daily basis. Again this is my loose definition. Speaking for me, being in the hobby actually brings actually less stress to my life. For me, being in the hobby is easier than dating. I’m attracted to the open communication that occurs between myself and the other person. I try to set-up my experiences so there are no unsaid things, both of us know what our expectations of our time together are, and we can enjoy our company. Given my current life and everything involved with it, and my past life experiences, the hobby brings a less complicated feel to my life. For me, that’s it……..
Sex addict…… No. Do I like sex…? Absolutely!
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The secks is starting to lose the appeal to me. I've only met one lady who was really good at it anyway, mostly because she was dripping all over my crotch. Most of it feels forced and half the time I'm rolling my eyes.
I still do it just for the thrills and to meet new people. I recently met a lady who I thought would have been a great buddy just to hang out and BS with, alas she's too busy to make room for new people in her life. It was kind of creepy how she said everything I was thinking though; she felt almost like a older sister figure.
That just goes to show how much misconception is still out there. It's a shame there is such close minded ness in American society, still in 2014.
There are too many untrue thoughts about the hobby to list.
Personally I see it as no different then real life, most everyone has sex, the difference is a lot of people use some form of drug or chemical to lose inhibitions & this life the inhibitions don't exist, the meetings cut out a lot of the other stuff and IMHO get down to the real fun stuff. Hobby-ing is one of the most rare, real, adult , sexy fun activities one could ever
partake in and those that condemn should really take a closer look and maybe be a little more honest about the realities of real life. What about Internet dating? what about picking people up at bars? what about marrying rich? The activities we enjoy doesn't define us as people (or addicts) and to love caffeine or chocolate or shopping can be dramatically refereed to as being addicted,but personally I leave the drama out of my thoughts and words and let it slip into the activities I enjoy, like sex (think passion a close cousin to drama)
IMHO anything you enjoy- you will always, always pay,
For one way or another.
How do massage providers fit into this along with your previous thread on orgasms? Are they addicts? The majority are in business just to get men off and don't want any reciprocity. They are a large part of this hobby and I am interested in their thoughts.
An addiction is an out of control behavior that interferes with normal function, not something with potentially bad consequences.
I budget
I screen carefully for security and to decrease the chance of seeing a person who is being exploited.
My hobby life is happy and not escalating out of control.
Lots of activities have terrible potential consequences (down hill skiing, car racing, parachuting, etc) the potential for a disaster does not define an addiction.
Lots of activities disgust other people: eating meat, voting for a particular political party, being a mortician, etc. Others disgust does not define addiction.
Monogamy is the aberrant turn in human sexuality. See “Sex at Dawn”
I would not feel like an addict for tipping back some brew during prohibition either
We all know or should know the risks associated with being an escort or a hobbyist. For me its a calculated risk; I greatly enjoy the time I spend with the ladies I see but at the same time I don't go crazy and just see woman after woman without regard to the risks, including financial, of doing so. Of course we are a minority. Nothing unusual about that. But I say the problem is with the majority who are unwilling to accept that what we do should be perfectly fine so long as all parties are consenting adults.
Your an addict the moment you started to question yourself about it. I'll say it again you're a sex addict.
Never understood how something so good could be suppressed in so many women ... I think you are either born with it or not ... My mother said she had a hard time changing my diaper because I found my sweet spot so entertaining ... I still do 
i thought you were talking about me then i read the post LOL ! I would consider myself as an addict but in a good way if that makes sense.