The Erotic Highway
To this, I can only add my female perspective, Vekell:
It's not in the size whatsoever. PLEASE don't think of it for a moment. In fact, some women prefer smaller penises, due to their own tinier vaginas. Yes, yes, yes, we all know it can expand to accommodate a baby, but seriously, there are some women who prefer a tiny banana to a bigger plantain. Also, it strikes me as very unprofessional by a provider to discuss her preferential penis size, unless it is so big that it looks abnormal..or so small she can't find it! Your size as you described it is nothing out of the ordinary, so rest assured there will be no remarks..unless you paint it or hang little ornaments from it 
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As to getting "busted.." I'm not one to offer legal advice (I leave that to the folks at the Legal Corner board) but it would stand to reason that a provider would not engage in entrapment if she has pages of consistent, solid reviews which are recent. Also, a good way of being safe is being with a provider who screens very carefully. Yes, you may have to come up with some information such as work phone number (don't worry, providers are very discreet when they call to verify, if that's what they do,) or she may want to see your driver's license when you show up. But rest assured, the more they screen, the less chance for you to get into trouble. At least you'll know that she's not engaging in entrapment, because she will have screened her previous clients and avoided getting into such a compromising situation.
Also, I may be a little biased here, but if you choose a provider with some "experience," (euphemism for on the slightly "maturer" side,) you may wish to disclose to her that it's your first time. I would bet that she'd be extremely flattered that you chose her to be your very first one. She may take extra care not to be "mechanical" as NDGeekboy described it, or be sure to provide cuddles, hugs and kisses inbetween the other stuff.
As to getting addicted to providers in general after your first time..well, I suppose it's easy to fall into anything that doesn't require so much "work," other than paying money and getting exactly what you want. But it does seem to me that you want this first experience over and done with, and that you have decided to go this route. After you've enjoyed yourself and feel more relaxed about it, perhaps it will be easier for you to pursue dating in the civvie world. It's a thought and a theory, anyway.
Good luck and let us know,
the Love Goddess
Im new around here and first off wanted to say this is a great site and i've read the forums and you have always been a kind and informative person! Since your a therapist, thought I might as you something.
I'm a virgin, 26 yr old, and am interested in possibly trying out a provider. I know you probably get this alot but i'm concerned about two things.
First off, i'm not as big as I would like. Only 4in erect and 5in girth. Have you ever heard of a provider rejecting someone or laughing when they got there?
Second, i'm worried about getting busted by the cops. I have read the forums and I know nothing is for certain but honestly i'm more concerned about the cops that I am of my size. I'm not sure if I will ever get up enough courage to chance it because of this. I'm just tired of being ignored because i'm not 7+ inches.
Thanks!
Hey Vekell
My first time was with a provider too. My worry at the time wasn't about size (although admittedly I'm a bit on the smaller side as well); my worry was with that worn-out story of falling for the first person I had sex with. That didn't happen though; I think between my own nervousness and the detachment and mechanicalness of the provider's technique, that "potential for infatuation" didn't have a chance. My problem came with the "adventure" of it. Soon, I was making frequent trips to meet different providers in different cities and spending lots of money that I really couldn't afford to spend.
Do I regret following this path, giving it up to a provider and not making it a "special moment"? Some days, yes; some, no. But then, considering my dating history (or lack thereof), I really don't think that "special person" ever would have availed herself for that "special moment."
As for my size, no provider's commented on it (at least not to my face). If she's a true and consummate professionaly, she won't. [It really isn't the way to encourage repeat business after all 
]
The fear of getting busted is a legitimate one. If you opt to go the provider route, there really is no escaping that chance. But if you do some research and find a very good, very reputable lady, you can probably minimize it.
Before you do choose this, do some serious thinking about it. Make sure this is the choice you really want to make, and can live with.
I have had several gentlemen in the past tell me they are virgins and ask to see me. I won't do it because I believe the first time should be special, with someone you care about. I don't want to be responsible for any guilt he may feel later. It is just sex afterall, if you do it with someone you don't know and don't have any attachment to.
Now, maybe that is more important for the females of the world, but I think it's special to men as well. In relationships I've been in we've talked about our first time. Mine wasn't consensual, so perhaps that's why I think it should be more special.
As for your size, no one will laugh at you. Chances are that you are bigger than you think, sweetie. I've been with men who we women would consider huge and they don't realize they are. They think they are smaller than or at least average and they're far larger than average. And I've been with men who are average. RARELY does it ever happen that you come across someone who is less than average, so I'm going to guess that you are at least average and probably larger than. Afterall, to what do you have to compare? Either way, it's a provider's job to accept all who see us and enjoy what each has to offer. If you're with a lady, any lady, provider or not, who makes fun of you in any way, that is abusive. It is not what this hobby is all about.
Rest easy, my friend. If you choose to make your first time with a provider, the pro is that she's a professional and knows what she's doing. She will also be gentler in showing you the ropes if she's aware that you're a virgin. If you don't tell her, it may even be more fun for you because then you'll get the treatment everyone else gets and you can just lie back and relax. Believe me, we're happy to take the lead and show you a good time. However, if you do decide to tell her you're a virgin, she may take it more slowly so you enjoy the whole experience from start to finish. In other words, she'll make it even MORE special for you than perhaps a seasoned man.
The choice is of course yours. Just be sure to consider any regrets you may have. And sweetheart, get out there in the world and start having fun. You're a 26 year old guy, this should be some of the best times of your life. The time when you can be a little reckless and before you grow into your mature 30's. Maybe your provider friend can take you out on the town off the clock, show you a good time and build up your confidence. It might be fun!
Love,
Andi
PS In order to completely minimize your potential for seeing a cop, use the reviews on this website and choose a lady who has several good ones. If a lady is well reviews, meaning a page or more by known reviewers, you can be fairly to 100% certain she is NOT LE.
To this, I can only add my female perspective, Vekell:
It's not in the size whatsoever. PLEASE don't think of it for a moment. In fact, some women prefer smaller penises, due to their own tinier vaginas. Yes, yes, yes, we all know it can expand to accommodate a baby, but seriously, there are some women who prefer a tiny banana to a bigger plantain. Also, it strikes me as very unprofessional by a provider to discuss her preferential penis size, unless it is so big that it looks abnormal..or so small she can't find it! Your size as you described it is nothing out of the ordinary, so rest assured there will be no remarks..unless you paint it or hang little ornaments from it .
As to getting "busted.." I'm not one to offer legal advice (I leave that to the folks at the Legal Corner board) but it would stand to reason that a provider would not engage in entrapment if she has pages of consistent, solid reviews which are recent. Also, a good way of being safe is being with a provider who screens very carefully. Yes, you may have to come up with some information such as work phone number (don't worry, providers are very discreet when they call to verify, if that's what they do,) or she may want to see your driver's license when you show up. But rest assured, the more they screen, the less chance for you to get into trouble. At least you'll know that she's not engaging in entrapment, because she will have screened her previous clients and avoided getting into such a compromising situation.
Also, I may be a little biased here, but if you choose a provider with some "experience," (euphemism for on the slightly "maturer" side,) you may wish to disclose to her that it's your first time. I would bet that she'd be extremely flattered that you chose her to be your very first one. She may take extra care not to be "mechanical" as NDGeekboy described it, or be sure to provide cuddles, hugs and kisses inbetween the other stuff.
As to getting addicted to providers in general after your first time..well, I suppose it's easy to fall into anything that doesn't require so much "work," other than paying money and getting exactly what you want. But it does seem to me that you want this first experience over and done with, and that you have decided to go this route. After you've enjoyed yourself and feel more relaxed about it, perhaps it will be easier for you to pursue dating in the civvie world. It's a thought and a theory, anyway.
Good luck and let us know,
the Love Goddess