Really, if she decided against seeing you, obviously it's her body - but if she can't live up to the agreement, it's not her money if you considered the money toward a deposit to a service she promised to deliver.
Here, promises are a little different. If a woman decides not to use her body a certain way, you can't really hold what she does with her body over her head - but the money, sure. One thing I suggest is to request a refund for the "deposit" since she backed out of the agreement. When you request this deposit, make it very clear how you want the money returned, and stick to it. Do it at the top of the email, and put in the subject line "Please return my deposit via xxxxxx". First line in the email, (not jumbled up in a dramatic three page letter that she won't read,) and very clear. She has the choice as to whether or not she will return the money. If she never intended to, consider it a loss and forget about it. The amount of time spent worrying about it is just extra stress. But be clear about how she can get your deposit back to you - no smoke clouds. Some guys like smoke clouds just so they can keep stirring up drama and keep their keyboard sticky.ok I need sum help here. I been in the hobby for 5 years or so,have seen a lot of providers good and bad. that being said I see just a couple of ladys I met from day 1. in the spring of this year I was working out of town my atf called crying how nobody will help her not even her family.how she has feelings for me and that's not supposed to happen etc.you get the picture. so I sent $700.00 under the assumption when I got in town we would have an overniter and I would pay the difference then. no time or date was set nothing in stone. well im back in town and my funds are very limited. so I asked her since I don't have the balance of that fee just square up with me on an individual basis which she said no. since then when I want to see her I have paid her hourly rate. am I wrong for suggesting for her to make good on a few different outcalls from her ? i mean really what gives her the right to keep my money,also 1 of her first visits at my place when i was back in town we had a pretty heated discussion about the whole situation. she went as far as tearing up my donation for that 1 hour appt. SERIOUSLY !! is it me ? i would like to hear from both you hobbyists,providers. thanx
You'll find yourself disappointed a lot less often that way.
Of course you are in the right, but what does that have to do with it?
and I guess you now know just what kind of feelings she has for you. Don't blame her, blame yourself, You should have known better.
but please explain how she "tore up" your donation for that 1 hour appointment, If you mean you got it for free, then you are at least part way to being even.
Glad to see you are filled with so much empathy!
I hope that someday you are down on your luck and you need someone to help you and not a fu**ing person lends you a hand. And if you were down on your luck and needed help, would you maintain the same position and blame yourself for being in such a situation? I think not! You could use a lesson in compassion, because you sure are one cold fish!
If your going to loan money to an escort, don't plan on ever getting it back.
One thing I would do is stop seeing her.
Also one other thing to remember is that since you loaned her money, if she ever gets into this problem again, guess who she is going to call first? Yup it's going to be you.
Cut your losses and run, save yourself a lot of time, money and aggravation.
Just my thought on it.
P.S. When she was short on money, you helped her out.
When you were short on money, she told you to take a hike.
Kinda tells you what kind of a person she is
If you both were in agreement about the money you sent her and the overnight session and she did not hold up her end of the deal, she was wrong. You r guilt in this situation is trusting the wrong person. It happends sometimes.
Cut her lose since she is suffering from amnesia about the agreement, she will need your help again. The damsel in distress females are always in need of something, everyone is always against them. In her case, now you see why her family refused to help her, they knew her MO
Really, if she decided against seeing you, obviously it's her body - but if she can't live up to the agreement, it's not her money if you considered the money toward a deposit to a service she promised to deliver.
Here, promises are a little different. If a woman decides not to use her body a certain way, you can't really hold what she does with her body over her head - but the money, sure. One thing I suggest is to request a refund for the "deposit" since she backed out of the agreement.
When you request this deposit, make it very clear how you want the money returned, and stick to it. Do it at the top of the email, and put in the subject line "Please return my deposit via xxxxxx". First line in the email, (not jumbled up in a dramatic three page letter that she won't read,) and very clear.
She has the choice as to whether or not she will return the money. If she never intended to, consider it a loss and forget about it. The amount of time spent worrying about it is just extra stress. But be clear about how she can get your deposit back to you - no smoke clouds. Some guys like smoke clouds just so they can keep stirring up drama and keep their keyboard sticky.
Hey, I've made moves of this type in my life, so this is no finger-pointing or judging but really, I say cut her loose.
She not only lied to you, imo, about how she has feelings for you but she seems to have no intention of paying back your money.
Explain to me why she isn't just giving you sessions in kind until the loan is paid.
She sounds like a real user.....and I'd say shine her on and kiss your $700 goodbye.
I feel for you. I just wrote a post yesterday about a similar situation. What I learned from writing my post is to never post anything bad about a provider. Believe me, I am in your corner and she should make good with you because that would be just plain old common courtesy. However, just because you exercise common sense and believe in fair play many of the people that will respond to your post are going to rip you a new one, call you a fool to give her the money and that she doesn't owe you diddly squat. I have noticed there are not a lot of people on this board that do not exude much empathy.