I found a provider who has a number of mutually shared interests. I've posted before as to how we spent a lot of extra time off the clock discussing these interests. I'm considering asking her to a nice dinner place, all expenses paid by me, of course, just for talk, nothing else required of her. I thought that this is better than just paying her for a chat! That just seems tacky. I'm not looking for a relationship, but this woman just fascinates me to no end. Is this appropriate?
However, you may want to offer to pay her $100 simply for the time she's spending with you. After all, you met her as an escort and we are paid for our time. She may decline to take the $100 but at least you've offered and aren't assuming she wants to spend time off the clock with a client.
A nice dinner is always lovely with someone you click. But you are still a client and she is still a professional. I rarely go to dinner with clients because I lead a life outside of work and if I'm not being compensated for my time, it becomes a date or at least dinner with a friend and I know very few of my clients on that level. After all, 99% of them are married.
So, in conclusion my answer is to absolutely ask her to dinner if you've seen her several times and the two of you click and the feeling of fascination is mutual. However, be sure to at least OFFER to compensate her for her time. She may decline or she may accept, either way, it's the right thing to do as she is your paid companion, not a personal friend.
Love,
Andi
Good heavens, YES, infomike,
she is an "escort," correct? So that's what she'll be doing...escorting you to a dinner and being a wonderful dinner partner!
Just one little detail here: She may have a lowered or different rate structure for "platonic companionship." Or, she may feel that she is so scintillating that her normal hourly fee applies, whether she is having dinner or doing the macarena. I don't think that it would be fair for you to just pay her transportation and dinner cost. "Time and Companionship" is what she's selling, so when you take her off the clock where she could potentially be compensated, remember to make it worthwhile for her...even if she's having fun too.
Savor every bite of life,
the Love Goddess
and find it very enjoyable.
Of course, I always pay for the time, but in one case, the provider felt I was being "too generous" and return a portion of her donation that covered that time.
Is life great or what?
There's nothing wrong with going out for dinner with a provider. But do you pay for her time? That depends. As other posters said, that's what she does for a living -- escorting. So she probably expects to be compensated. However, if you've developed a great friendship with her, she may tell you not to pay her.
I'm not cheap and can afford to pay most escorts their regular rate to go out with them. But I'd get the feeling of going out on a regular rate with a nice girl without thinking that I'm paying for her time. I could pay her more tips or just more money when I see her for play time to compensate her for the time that she spent with me for that dinner date. I've had such experience with a provider whom to this day remains a very dear friend of mine.
Two months after I met my ATF I got her a gift for her birthday and booked extra hours to take her out to dinner. Since then (10 months later) I see her 4 to 6 times a week, I cook for her, and we go shopping together; so are like friends so I do not compensate her for taking her out for lunch anymore. Of course, we go out only when she has no appointments.