so I reached out to a highly reputable provider in Chicago with excellent reviews using her online booking form. I entered all the required info very carefully after reading her whole website and was very polite and respectful in my message. I even sent her a gift card since there was a link on her website that allowed you to do so thinking that will prob get her attention. After submitting the form it tells you you will hear from me in 48 hours. So I waited four days without a response, so I figured I will email instead just in case the form didn't go through and still with no response.
So my question is if you think that this client is not a good match for whatever reason, would you just ignore his email or would you send a polite reply saying that we are not a good match and decline the gift?
Do you think that ignoring the request is a more polite way of saying "No I don't want to see you"
I doubt someone very professional with a good reputation would just ignore you. She might be away. Have you seen her post anywhere here recently? Is there anything on her calendar that could be a clue?
I always respond to polite inquiries no matter what. I don't respond to vulgar emails or one-liners (usually). But if I don't think we will be compatible, I'd probably just say so, or perhaps just say I haven't availability.
Yes she actually just posted an Ad on TER one week ago just a few days after my emails. I also made sure she has availability on the day I requested since her calendar is on her website. I thought of everything before I reached out and was extra polite. I don't know maybe the gift I sent freaked her out or something, but she obviously used it or whoever answers her emails since there is a 0 balance on it. The gift is the least of my concerns, I just want to know what's the reason for the no response.
It's an online booking form and all the info was provided, even the optional fields were filled.
As far as a provider etiquette goes, there is really no hand book. You just have to move on. If you see below, there was someone who got a reply 8 months later lol.
Most of us manage our own emails, travel, etc. A lot have jobs and are doing this on the side. But not all have had admin assistant roles in the past, so answering every single email, especially if someone seems like they will be wanting to spend hours of chit chat via email, isn't a priority.
Maybe she just likes booking dates, having the date, and doesn't want to start email banter back and forth. Some girls just aren't into tmi?
You just don't know, and probably never will. If you take it too.personally, you'll drive yourself nuts. Wasted energy to me.
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Your absolutely right. I guess I just wanted to know if it's common practice to just ignore someone if they thought they were not a match, since I made sure to fallow her rules of engagement to the book. I will still give her the benefit of the doubt, but I will for sure move on. Even tho the mystery is just killing me lol.
There have been times that it has taken me longer than normal because I may be considering something about it, but I always make sure to at least respond. I try to be very "customer service" minded, and I feel that not responding at all is beyond rude. I think the only time that I have not answered is when I have answered multiple times and the person I am corresponding with is just not getting it, usually those instances are lost causes though.
I'm glad that you think that way, after all this is a business and customer service is very important. You don't know how many times I judged people the wrong way but I ended up being so dead wrong, so I learned to always give people a chance.
There really is no excuse not to check your message systems if you give a crap about your business. Far to many ladies don't. I get it, your busy but so are we. I'm going to change my policy of how long I'll wait to hear from providers. Soon its going to be 2 hours. I get it, sometimes people are busy but waking in the morning without a date, when you have little free time, Sucks.
I think 2 hours is way too extreme, but if you say you will respond within 48 hours then I will be expecting 48 hours. I would even double that, but the key is responding in a timely manner. Even if its just an email with a subject line "No match sorry" just anything that indicates you received my communication.
Personally, if I were a guy, with the hundreds of great providers in the area, the initial insult would have me moving on. Why go on a date with a bad taste in your mouth?
I have emails I don't answer. But they're the ones I know are not serious, and are likely emailing 10 other ladies. You can tell.
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Yeah I was responding to him too. I replied to a reply lol sorry.
I usually give lots of time as I normally schedule far in advance.
I mentioned 2 hours because I recently got a cancellation leaving me with little time to schedule someone else. As the time approached there is a need to cut the time down... I had a need that was fulfilled with a little referral/search help from a cool guy right here in the thread...
I guess that can be an issue too. 
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lol good point.... but I did request 90 min and the fee was 4 digits. Even a company like apple is willing to except less then that.
the reference services like RS2K and P411. I have found the norm is a 60-70% response rate through those services and even less through actual website forms. I just figure 30-40% have some reason why they fail to respond. It could be they don't want to see me but most likely its some other issue. I wait 24 hours for a response and then move on unless the contact info says a specific time to respond.
My experience has been, those who are good communicators and appear organized almost always provide the best experience overall.
I'd send a polite email reminder and if you hear nothing in a day just scratch her off the list and move on.
but every one is different. It could be a myriad of reasons she hasn't responded. It could just be she simply hasn't gotten to your message yet and will still respond. Unfortunately you may just never know why she hasn't gotten back to you. But at this point I would take her non response as a "no thank you".
I personally will respond politely if I didn't think we're a good match. However that's only to those who have filled out everything completely and were respectful in their initial message to me. In the end, as fun as it is, this is a business and I try to treat it as such.
This is interesting, It seems like the worst thing for a provider is an incomplete form or email. I think even with an incomplete you should at least let me know and point out the mistakes. This is just my opinion.
A lot of us state very clearly that we need our entire contact form filled out, and some forms won't even send unless all the required fields are entered. While I reply to all inquiries in a very timely manner (i'm one of those people who can't stand to have the little red "notice" numbers next to phone apps), i've noticed a pattern about those seeking my services who are unwilling or unable to provide certain information. If you don't fill in the "last name" box on purpose and have also neglected to send along references and/or usernames for verification websites, there's little chance that I'm going to get the information i need from you, and therefore won't be able to see you.
Mind you, I understood that this is what you did. I get that you filled out the form completely. That's you doing your due diligence as a client, and in all honesty, it makes it easier for me to do my job. But a lot of people don't do that.
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Yeah... I see where your coming from.
It doesn't matter if she doesn't want to see you or is too busy to respond. Forget it and move on.
Thank you Tomthecat for stoping by, but the conversation wasn't about weather I should move on or not. It was just a question weather this kind of thing is common amongst providers. I reached your conclusion long time ago. Thank you again.
next time I would save your gift for when you actually meet the lady in person. I'm so sorry she never responded. Some ladies are like that. But as others have said, you guys have plenty of lovely ladies there! Find someone else wonderful to enjoy your time with. 
Oh! One more thing- there is a possibility she knows you from RL, and that may be why you received no response. It could have sufficiently freaked her out enough to just not respond...
Thank you SoftlySarah for your kind input. I agree with you 100%. As for the gift I know it was a really dumb thing to do and I put most of the blame on the little guy down there, what a stupid idiot he can be sometimes.
Anyways...you should come visit us in Chicago one of these days.
I'd love to!! Perhaps early fall. I adore Chicago!
No lady is worth this much time and effort.