“Can I lick your pussy?”
“Sure, how do you want me? How about like this? That way I can watch you lick my pussy. I love to watch.”
Tina props up the pillows and lies against the headboard with her legs spread out and smiles at me. I get between her thin, firm thighs and go to work. In no time she starts rocking and then she grabs for my hair to pull me in, but ha-ha! The joke’s on her because my hair is too short for her to get a grip. The short haircut works! Tina keeps pawing at my head trying to get a hold. I intentionally back off and lick her as lightly as I possibly can. The teasing is driving her crazy. I am so proud of myself for protecting my remaining hair. Wait! Oh shit, she’s got me by the back of my skull and she’s squishing my face against her pubic bone with the strength of a woman deep in the throes of orgasm. Her thighs grab my cranium like a walnut in a nutcracker. If she twists her hips sharply sideways then she’ll snap my neck like a bread-stick. I can’t breathe. Is this how I’m going to die? How will the Coroner report the cause of death, ‘vaginal suffocation’?
John gives me great head. I have a screaming orgasm and go limp.
Tina releases me and I gasp for air.
“That felt sooo good. Let’s have sex now.”
I love to lick and suck too!, it gives me great pleasure in giving to a woman, that is open to receiving.
I start off with light kissing, then moving on to DFK, and while we are doing that, I am caressing her pussy outside.
Then working my fingers just between her lips, to feel her wetness, I ease my way down, and begin to lick, suck, and taste. then its time to really turn the slow cooking up a notch to the way to a full boil!
I have a technique, which I will keep to myself, that usually works very well in my pursuit in getting my partner off, and often more than once if she capable of multiple O's.
After a half hour or 45 minutes of activity with her as the center of attention, and her fulfilled, I then make my way back up to her for more DFK, and enter her for some rocking sex! and then if she is a giving person, that is when she
performs and gives me the time of my life!
And to answer the question, my partners, prefer Both! 
Thanks, guys. But, A lot of guys think their technique is great because they THINK the lady is having a good time. I want to hear from the ladies! Ladies, please tell us guys what YOU like. Wouldn't you like it if some of the guys who don't know what they're doing learned a thing or two so you could enjoy them more? I think I have a good technique but I would like to be great in the oral department.
Nobody here is going to be able to tell you why your wife doesn't want oral sex from you. People can postulate and provide insight, but only she knows the real reason.
As far as technique goes, that is a loaded question as well. In my experience there is a HUGE range of what women prefer. There are some basics like, wetness is better than dryness, and gentle at the beginning. Other than that, every woman seems to have certain things she prefers and some things she hates.
What one woman will beg for, another might slap you if you tried it. Like gently nibbling with your teeth or sucking hard on the clit. Some women love for fingers to be involved and can't orgasm without it; others find it uncomfortable and an unwanted distraction. Some like a stiff tongue directly on the clit, others want a soft tongue all around the clit. Some women seem to want a constant rhythm, while others want variety or a building crescendo.
You have to ask for individual instructions, start slow, follow her pointers, and be aware of non-verbal clues (breathing/panting, moans, hip gyrations, increased lubrication, and maybe a scream or two). To top it off, what she might like in the heat of passion she might hate at the very beginning. They're women for gods sake, they change their mind a lot, LOL!
Either way, I hope you somehow work it out with your wife. I know that I would not want to be in a relationship with a woman that hated receiving oral sex. It certainly allows me to enjoy the overall sex experience if she is having fun and since I am no great shakes in the intercourse department, oral is my best chance at that
