ver the last few day's I have reached out to several providers to try and arrange a date.
All the one's I contacted claimed to provide what I was looking for in the ads or website. Understand that I want some
out of the box things.
So the trail of not understanding starts.
1st I am not verified on any service.
2nd Really only have one person that can verify me in the last year, but does not have web site.
That being said made it very clear was willing to provide whatever information needed to verify me.
2 answered me one said no thanks the other stopped talking to me
2 never responded
Am I up the creek without a paddle ? Or am I doing something that I don't understand that is making them
think we might have a issue.
Thanks very muc
1st I am not verified on any service.
2nd Really only have one person that can verify me in the last year, but does not have web site.
Right off the bat you are facing an uphill battle. Join P411 or RS2K, unless you plan to see newbie friendly providers [who will ask for employment details and other personal info].
Plus, I bet you are saying something in your communications that is scaring off ladies. It probably pertains to whatever "out of the box" activities you want. Ladies don't like to discuss services over the phone or e-mail. Get familiar with the term YMMV.
Thanks Jack I have no problem providing additional information to the ladies.
Since I am "out of the box" how do I explain what I am looking for ?
Try, discreetly, posting on this board an example of "out of the box" and perhaps you will have some one PM you and go from there. Or use the search engine provided on TER
I'm willing to discuss session details via email once a client has been verified. Considering you're looking for something very particular, it's not fair for you to show up for a date and pay for something that you might not end up getting.
Try phrasiing it like this:
Dear provider x,
While I am not a member of a verification service and my last reference is over a year old, I am happy to provide you with employment verification and other information.
I'm interested in a session that's on the unique side, and once you've verified me, I'm wondering if we can discuss that.
Thank you so much for your time,
CageAgain
"outside the box" tends to mean you're interested in a fetish or bdsm-based session. try looking providers who use the phrases "open-minded", "fetish friendly", or just let their freak flags fly via photos and other info on their websites.
Good luck!
Once again Erin you are right on the money.
Good advise !!
Instead of asking for it directly.
Prostitution is exchanging lewd or sexual acts from money so you shouldn't ask for that. But sometimes you can describe a fantasy that you had or something that you did one time and you're not negotiating to do that with the provider.
Personally I feel much more comfortable with that with a new person.
First get verified. Then describe your fantasy.
We don't tend to suggest things in our ads that we don't like, that would be a nightmare.
Seriously. I've had a couple of people send me stories that detailed what it was he was seeking.
Just a general greeting then, "here's a story I find very intriguing".... and then the body of the story... at the end, "if this is something which you are intrigued too, please respond".
It may sound cheesy, but since they put it in story-form, I replied to them... if they had baldly asked if I would do those things, I would not have responded at all.
Don't worry if you're not a creative writer by nature; just search the web for one that fits your desires. 
xoxoxoxoxoxo
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Thanks for the excellent advice
and Happy Friday
and Happy Friday
sorry for double post
Decided to just get verified with Room Service