I'm honest with my parents, they don't know how far it goes but they know I do it to pay for school. My sister, brother know as well. No one agrees with it but are supportive until I am done with school I will quit the business. As far as friends I don't have many do to the not-so-normal lifestyle I live. They couldn't keep up with my bar tab. Hahaha. I find being honest is best. Even worse if your family finds out I think.  

 
I do however worry about me getting older and having to deal with 'my past' since I am only 21.

 
Actually just past week at the Ribfest I went with my mother and some man was really looking at me (starring) pretty much. I tell my mother 'do you think he knows who I am?' she replies with I worry people look at you and they do know. But I was about 7 beers in so I could have just been drunk. Thats the most annoying part is you don't know if someone knows. I once seen an escort at Jewel Osco in line, I knew it was her 100% and I couldn't stop starring. Hence my situation.

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I agree...we are comfortable with what we do. But ladies should consider carefully...

When I first started I lived in fear of someone finding out.

Gradually over the first year I began to be honest with some people...doctors and nurses, were first, then hair stylists, then strangers in planes.  90% of people react very well.  They are curious and interested.  Not judgmental.

Now I'm honest with everyone, within reason.

I don't talk about it with family members, though.  But everyone does know.  I think I have my ex-husband to thank for that.

My concern is now, that if I ever want to go to work as a nurse again, that the ads and the movies will always be there.  Some people might recognize me.  I suppose I could move to a different city and that would seriously decrease that possibility, but still it could definitely happen.

I really am comfortable with what I do and I'm happy-in my little world.  But, you know other people do judge us.  Even some hobbyists look down on us.  I think I'd be extremely embarrassed if everyone at a "real world" job found out I'm a sex-worker.

Most of the ones I know who do this either have a family who knows, they don't care or they are simply not worried about who might discover them. I do not know anyone who would spend years in college just to toss that away by being oblivious, so those are the ones I usually have to laugh at unless their major was in a field related to sex work. No company I have ever worked for would put up with this, that is for sure... even if their CEO was seeing hookers. It simply does not look well to the conservatives who use their products and services to hire sex workers.. it is afterall, still illegal in most places.

I knew one (in a different city) who used her real name in her ads along with showing her face. And when I met her, she told me who her family was and everything. They were local big shots, involved in business and politics, and apparently they were huge a-holes and she hated their guts.

Chicago is a big city.  

Sort of.  

And Chicago is a big city.  

Not at all.  

Not a chance in hell I would ever show my face in ads and I think women who do show their faces are indiscreet at best and stupid at worst.

how Facial Recognition Technology (FRT) and also how the human eye recognizes people. (Interestingly, on the human side, different races and cultures actually tend to recognize different facial features more or less easily.) I happen to have a face that is in general low on the FRT scale. The particular shape of my face photographs in such a way that it looks like a very different face with only minor shifts in camera angle or lighting.  Growing up, this quirk was the bane of my family photograph experience! Now, though, it works really well in my favor.

Add to this a basic knowledge of angles and points on the face that FRT and the human eye use to recognize two photos as belonging to the same person, or else successfully identifying the correct person from a photo, and presto! You have the ability to show your face to a certain degree, while retaining relative anonymity. (Or, as much anonymity as any of us are granted in the interweb age. )

All of that said, I think any lady who chooses to engage in companionship-regardless of whether she shows or hides her face-should prepare herself for the possibility of being outed. It happens, and contemplating it in advance is as necessary as any other disaster prep, and will prevent you from hyperventilating into shock, or running around like a chicken with your head cut off in the event it happens.

Discretion is a 2-way street, and there's enough stigma involved with sex work to keep most fears about exposure at bay.  

I'm "out" in most aspects of my life. My family and friends know what I do, and I feel that my support system helps keep me safe, sane, and grounded should something negative arise. If someone wants to find me, they can. If someone wants to expose me, they can do that, but that also coincides with self exposure. Not too many people want to admit they're looking for or at hooker ads.

Being a fat, tattooed broad, my face and eyes are a huge selling-point. I'm comfortable with that.  

I fully understand why people would be hesitant to do things the way I do. That's fine. I do what's comfortable for me, and my clients have no issues with the way I advertise.  

To each their own

A lot of my family members know what I do. And, if they don't I wouldn't mind if they found out. I am not ashamed of what I do.

I'm more worried about LE and Uncle Sam. Just sayin'.