your friend's biggest mistake was walking out without waking her - at least that is what I surmise from your post. The service was delivered as promised, right? She is not obligated to "know" where he left the envelope unless they pre-discussed it.
So, he is liable for the full amount even though she failed to find the gift. My $0.02 for what it's worth...... who had a liaison with a young woman. They had a little too much to drink at dinner. When they retired to her room, they fooled around for a bit and fell asleep. He awoke a short time later and left the donation in a blue envelope on the tv stand. She woke up later and said she couldn't find it. She contacted my friend via text and demanded full restitution. She also threatened him with blacklist. My friend told her he left it on the tv stand. By this point, she had checked out and had no access to the room. My friend has offered to pay half the fee but she will have none of it. Both parties are respected in the hobby. He reached out to me and asked for advice. I think he did the right thing. Half is better than none. When I check out of a hotel, I always leave the tip for housekeeping on the tv stand. If she tipped the staff, I think she would have seen the blue envelope. Any thoughts and advice would be appreciated. Thanks.
your friend's biggest mistake was walking out without waking her - at least that is what I surmise from your post. The service was delivered as promised, right? She is not obligated to "know" where he left the envelope unless they pre-discussed it.
So, he is liable for the full amount even though she failed to find the gift. My $0.02 for what it's worth...
I agree. However, in most cases the donation is not be discussed. I always leave it on the tv stand before the session or on my way out the door.
and ask if they found the envelope.
It's just possible the maid was honest and turned it in.
As to ultimate fault, I would say it is his.
A good enough reason to always take care of business before the fun begins.
I would suspect when she woke up, she would look for the envelope and in not seeing it, call or text him immediately, before leaving the room.
My guess is that she woke up, got things together and left the hotel before thinking of the envelope. If that is what happened, then she is half responsible for not looking for it.
It is also possible the envelope slid off the tv and went behind it on the desk or floor behind whatever the tv rests on.
Whatever the case, tough situation and hope things work out for both of them
I do feel like both parties were a bit sloppy in terms of keeping things in order. I would assume that there was a great deal of trust between these two if they both drank until the point of passing out, and the donation was never worried about.
1.He should have woken her up before leaving, or given her the money before passing out.
2. She should have asked for the money before passing out, and she definitely should have done a thorough search as soon as she woke up/before leaving.
The issue here is that drinks stole the show. What was supposed to be black and white, became a foggy/gray issue because they were both on the irresponsible side. No one likes to lose money.The man needs to evaluate the value of their relationship outside of their newfound monetary conflict. If the woman is someone he enjoys and wants to see again, he will need to suck it up and pay. If not, that relationship is likely over (because it seems she is not interested in compromise).
Best of luck