Agreed, but only stupid guys would ask a provider who CLEARLY states she can't do it over and over again... unless, she hinted to regulars this was not the case. Nothing is more annoying than guys who do not READ and take note of what providers post constantly.
Not all providers do nothing but this. They are not all available 12 hours a day, every day including weekends or holidays. Asking a provider who posts she is available 24/7 is one thing, but asking one who mentions her limited play time in all caps with an exclamation mark, is a bit futile. The only time I have made exceptions to same day appts. are when I am already set up in a hotel and plan on doing nothing but providing for 2 days... at home, it's impossible. I can't even get dressed "in an hour" much less arrange an incall, secure a sitter, etc. FYI, this is why I ran an agency so long in addition to being LR... the agency gals took care of the late night, last minute bs.Ok, well lately I have been bombarded with gentlemen who want drive through pussy. What do I mean by that? Well, they are in the area and can be at my place in 10 minutes. Even had one call me at 1am last night? REALLY? LOL. I just have to respond that it is rare for me to ever get there in less then 1hr. Sometimes 30mins but man, that is really pushing it.
So what is it? Is it because they just get horny all of a sudden and think, well I am down the block from Sage so let me give her a call? I get the horny part but why does it have to be right now and not just a tiny bit later?
So guys fill me in on your thoughts. I really am at a loss with this drive through pussy thing. Have even had guys tell me that it is ok for me to come straight from the gym without showering because they find sweat sexy. Ummm, no, not from the gym sweat I think.
For a woman to get properly ready with shower/shave/made up it takes a little time. I can do it in about 45mins now if I don't have to wash my hair..... Would also like to get ladies thoughts on this new drive through pussy thing as I hear it is actually becoming more and more common now....
I've been seeing those drive-thru pussy posts here on TER, both before my hiatus and now. And I always wondered: how do they supposed to work? What about the screening? (RS2K, Whitelist, provider references, etc.) Don't those things take time? Unless, of course, the hobbyist is a pre-screened returning guest, but I guess even then, some level of verification is still necessary. Which, again, might take at least an hour, especially with providers or RS2K, for the call to be returned.
To reverse the equation, if a provider I didn't know told me she'd see me in 10 minutes, I'd be seeing a big honkin' red flag. I'd even wonder if LE was hiding somewhere. Perhaps I'm being too paranoid, but no one can blame me. Either way, I always scheduled the old-school way: a few days in advance, via their website, with my RS2K info.
Looking forward to finding out if this is how providers prefer it nowadays.
The ladies that require more screening than the other have managed to convince even the guys that "their" way is the only safe way to do things.
I schedule short notice all the time, and I can't be the only one because P411 even has an "available now" board on their site, apparently just for guys like me.
If a guy has dozens of okays, reviews, etc and is willing to jump through a couple of quick hoops for the lady's safety, most women are going to be okay with that. Conversely, if I see an "available now" ad, and it links with a sufficient number of glowing reviews, that's plenty for me to book a session.
and for the record, I am hardly a newbie, I've been doing this for over forty years and I have never had the cuffs put on me, not even the velvet kind.
Some providers can reach a comfort level quickly, just like some guys can do the same. I find it highly ironic when guys who spend hours poring over every review, and do research like they are looking for a cure to cancer and then still end up being disappointed time after time.
From when I first started til in the industry til now this has always gone on with my business from both newbies and repeats. This is why I have come to the conclusion that its one of two things. Theory #1, they got horny (a hard-on) and started dialing for relief OR Theory #2, they have a small pocket of unexpected time and want to see someone. Both theories are kinda the same thing but they happen to me and most providers I am in contact with all the time. We wish it wasn't like this! Please gents, help US, Help YOU!! We need proper notice to plan and prepare for the type of session you want and deserve!
Gents who have been seeing me for years do this often and 90% of the time I decline them because I am busy doing other things and can't or won't stop to see them. They always apologize after I remind them I am basically by appointment now. I thank them for thinking of me and hope to connect another time soon with more notice. Some get it, some don't, oh well...
This is very typical for the Chicago market. Most visiting ladies complain about this over anything else. As far as newbies, this doesn't leave nearly enough time for screening, let alone time for us to get ready and over to our In-call. My reply is always the same, leave time for screening and for me to plan and prepare to see you. This is to your own benefit!! The session will be so much better when I have advance notice!! I'm fairly low volume, by appointment and typically see only one guest per day then I'm done when I'm working from the city where I live. When I travel my time is more dedicated to staying and working where I visiting so I have a little more flexibility to see a few per day.
Hope this helps but there is really no way around it. You either decline the appointment trying to help them realize more notice is required OR you race like hell to meet them. Those sessions typically don't go well anyway so I just decline them all together and try to book them for a better time.
I usually accept a request with a minimum of 3 hours after screening is complete but prefer more time of course. I know most ladies like 6 hours minimum. Gents make note as replies come in, you will see what I have shared happens all the time. Most ladies decline or ignore the requests and are annoyed by them giving little or no notice!
Cheers to an Orgasmic week and a safe July 4th weekend to ALL!
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alcohol is playing a part in this sometimes?
rarely does an intoxicated individual call me - 90% of them have an itch the want scratched NOW
these are clients I've seen for years who are sweet professional guys, just with very limited time I guess.
for some reason it is this way in the windy city and surrounding burbs
we tend to think with newbies the are trying to bypass screening but it doesn't work anyhow
I am fortunate to come to know many providers and this is a huge issues that we all have in common and are always trying to fix to not much avail... mostly we just decline and try to share what we need from them to secure the booking next tim
. . . and have called you on a few hours' notice. But never less than that. Echoing what another poster has said, I don't really want it on a drive through basis. It would be a little creepy to me.
If I decide in the morning I want to skip lunch and go straight to dessert, most ladies are going to have to take a pass. But someone may say yes, and that is kind of fun.
yes you are one that provides plenty on notice to make sure you get the time you desire. Thank you for that!
They don't want to say "hey, I had plans to see someone else but they just canceled, so can you see me right now"?
Sometimes I can see someone in half an hour (if screening has been completed), so I preferred to say, "you can always ask, but it's best if you can give me two hours advance notice if possible".
If someone asks for an appointment on short notice all the time I might ask them to give me at least two hours advanced.
Or the blue pill is busy working . . .
Has happened to me a few times, the cancellation part.
Very frustrating when the ED meds are at full strength, but respect providers too much to try a drive by. Best to call an agency if that is what is needed (and I have only done that once).
IMHO
Yup. When someone gets NCNS'ed, their needs don't go anywhere. So they end up calling the next person they *think* can see them on a short notice. Sometimes they even have backup appointments in mind, not unlike school kids having backup dates for the dance (not the best behavior, but still). There is no real solution for this, except to get pre-screened if needed, see respectful providers who don't NCNS, and plan better when scheduling.
Common sense and politeness left this hobby long ago..
I think it is universally gone, right around the time no one wanted to talk on the phone anymore and texting became the norm for many(I am not saying every texter is a bone head but some of them just don't understand the value of a good conversation, connections can and do start there).
If there were not so many desperate hookers or ones with no other income, the stuff would not keep happening. It happens all the time, because so many say 'sure, come right over' all the time. How the hell can you get a reference to respond back to you in 2 hours? I have had some take 3 days. I can see RS2K and employment check, but a provider reference? LMAO. I do this often, but it's rare when I get the same.
Could be just a spontaneous, the work schedule changed and now have time thing too... I'm a planner but admit to attempting a fast scheduled meeting due to all of the above. Not while in the car however on my way to the location. It's worked a very low percentage of the time, since most quality ladies are booked out (but you never know if they've gotten a cancellation either).
But, the fast food mentality has likely encouraged us all too...
Never heard that Drive Thru Pussy term personally.
So there's lots of "women things" that we as men just can't embrace (30 pair of shoes?? are you kidding? And for most of you that's probably a minimum! ). Guys have this incredibly short attention span for things sexually related. View a couple hot images on the ad board and we can be " I want it now". This is also why our sex organ can go from Mr Limp to Sir Salute in a matter of seconds. Visual images actually travel at the speed light and our hormones are not much slower.
That said, there is some common sense to this all. And I encourage every woman to set the limits on what makes you comfortable. Only a comfortable lover makes a pleasurable love making experience.
I personally found very hot when I read an ad posted at 9, got verified by 10 and was in bed with her by 3.
That was fun. Spontaneous and a multi hour building of anticipation. Good balance / Great stuff.
We are also living in an age when everything g is immediate gratification.
So are we surprised when it impacts the second bAsic human instinct ?
So what is it? Is it because they just get horny all of a sudden and think, well I am down the block from Sage so let me give her a call? I get the horny part but why does it have to be right now and not just a tiny bit later?
So guys fill me in on your thoughts. I really am at a loss with this drive through pussy thing. Have even had guys tell me that it is ok for me to come straight from the gym without showering because they find sweat sexy. Ummm, no, not from the gym sweat I think.
For a woman to get properly ready with shower/shave/made up it takes a little time. I can do it in about 45mins now if I don't have to wash my hair..... Would also like to get ladies thoughts on this new drive through pussy thing as I hear it is actually becoming more and more common now....
on the line. I was more refering to the "I am in your area, when is the soonest you can be available" and then the honest "well I am not there right now so the soonest is an hour" that gets a return of, "well I was hoping for sooner, I guess this is not going to work unless you can get here in 10mins". To me, that is nuts especially for someone who is not staying/living at their location.
Thank you for being one of the ones that provides a bit of notice so we have time to make your desires happen!
It took me a while to "get it." Now I do.
We (the women) have to make how we present ourselves and everything else that guys observe before contacting us connect with how we'd like the booking behavior to work. Its a little bit of art.
First step is to recognize the male need for instant gratification (thank you for your description *wink*), understand it and know ourselves well enough that the process we create is a win-win on both ends
When guys think with their "little heads", they do some strange things. LOL That's about the only explanation I can think of for the "drive through pussy" thing.
I dunno, I've always been one of those guys who likes to plan well in advance. In all the years that I've been hobbying, I've never called a provider at the last minute to try and arrange a date
I really prefer if I am contacted the day before. I actually noticed a lot of this in the spring... Generally, I don't answer my phone and prefer to schedule via email so I probably miss a lot more than I know about because it seems like the guys who want to call don't always email.
If its a reg that I've met multiple times, they insist they don't care if I look like I just ran a marathon and I'm free - I'll go for it. In that event, its actually fun because its something new. For them, I assume that them saying they are 10 min away means that they can meet soon. I don't assume they mean that they want to meet in 10 minutes.
If its a new guy, I'll turn it down because I'll be too self conscious to be at my best. Especially if they have not pre-screened.
Other facts - it takes time to commute since I host at hotels. The drive thru thing hardly ever works for me for that reason.
Sage, by you having a private incall, they may think you live there and don't need to commute.
The short notice thing is becoming more common, however, I'm noticing an increase in the overall number of requests I receive. Both pre-books and same day. Could simply be that our industry is growing in popularity, so all of us are receiving more requests and by you having a private location the guys are excitedly reaching out with short notice when they are in your neck of the woods 
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It gives off the agency (ready now) feel to many guys, and yes they assume we are all just sitting in a hotel room with a fkin thong and heels on and have no other life. Not the boys of TER of course, but you get my meaning. Guys who email you don't bother you, because you don't know you have one at 1 am unless your phone is on and you get the beep, or you are really up at 1 am checking your email. If they can't pre-book, they can see a street walker. Agencies were created to service such guys... indies can do what the fk they want.
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I get the argument that expecting providers to drop everything and jump at our slightest whim is unrealistic and disrespectful. No one should expect it or be upset because you refuse to take a last minute request. BUT... from our side there are those special moments when something gets our hormones fired up and there is a sudden break in the calendar clouds, and we want to do it NOW! When we get in that mood I don't want you in makeup or lingerie. I want your hair a mess and wearing baggy shorts and a ripped t-shirt (preferably one you stole form an ex-boyfriend) and I just want to kick in the door, throw you on the bed, and go to it.
One of my favorite dates was a "drive through pussy" with a woman I had been with several times. I had an unplanned opening in my schedule and contacted her. At first she hesitated because a client had just left and she wouldn't have time to get ready for me. I assured her that it didn't matter and she told me to come over. She had literally just come out of the shower when I arrived and she opened the door in a towel, wet hair, no makeup. I closed the door, she dropped the towel and gave me this sexy grin and it was game on. She must have felt like she got tackled by Brian Urlacher. Best sex ever!
You all have made valid points against the "drive through pussy".
- You do need to be safe and have time to verify.
- You should not feel rushed or expected to drop everything for us at the last minute.
- We do appreciate the effort you ladies putting into looking your best (though I personally believe putting on the war paint and Victoria's Secret uniform is more about making you feel comfortable and sexy than it is about any need to further entice us).
HOWEVER...If we're "old friends" and you have time on your hands don't knock a drive through until you've tried it. You might find you like it almost as much as we do.
Everything you said. Love it.
Especially, don't knock it til you try it.
That's coming from a lady known for not being available with short notice. Your story is mockingly similar to the few times I served some drive through and I loved it.
It happens with repeats and it feels so good!
Unexpected, something new, with someone old.
On the flip side, not to weaken what you are saying at all because I completely feel you, but moreso to provide some insight....
When we really enjoy meeting a guy and we miss our chance to see him again because we aren't drivethru-able at that time...a little piece of us dies.
but a "decent" guy won't get pissy if you can't accommodate him.
Likewise a "decent" woman won't get all pissy if asked for a short notice appointment that she cannot oblige, a simple "sorry sweetie, I can't be ready that soon, I need _____ much time to be at my best for you" will certainly suffice.
I have a couple of local ladies on my to do list right now, I know I can't see them on an hours notice but they have both told me that they can do something more like 24 hours, which is about their minimum and about my maximum so that seems doable, to make things easier I have had both of them prescreen me to get that out of the way, and we have agreed that I will take my chances as far as scheduling goes. They have also had the opportunity to see that I have SEVERAL recent P411 okays, so they can see for themselves that I am not simply a time waster that will never actually book with them.
A little communication and mutual understanding goes a long ways, a lot further than both sides drawing a line in the sand and stating "my way or the highway"
Agreed, but only stupid guys would ask a provider who CLEARLY states she can't do it over and over again... unless, she hinted to regulars this was not the case. Nothing is more annoying than guys who do not READ and take note of what providers post constantly.
Not all providers do nothing but this. They are not all available 12 hours a day, every day including weekends or holidays. Asking a provider who posts she is available 24/7 is one thing, but asking one who mentions her limited play time in all caps with an exclamation mark, is a bit futile.
The only time I have made exceptions to same day appts. are when I am already set up in a hotel and plan on doing nothing but providing for 2 days... at home, it's impossible. I can't even get dressed "in an hour" much less arrange an incall, secure a sitter, etc.
FYI, this is why I ran an agency so long in addition to being LR... the agency gals took care of the late night, last minute bs.
Despite the fact that the most rational of men can fall into "thinking with the little head", the simple fact is that gentlemen know when they are being unreasonable. The reasons for this behavior have all been listed -- sudden holes in the calendar, canceled on by another provider, a chance meeting with a really hot civvie, etc.
But we know that the chances are slight with any one particular lady. I for one, hope it is flattering to be contacted on short notice, and I take zero offense in being turned down. Rules are rules and all providers should follow their system every time. Frankly, I would not see someone that didn't screen me at all.
I think the rash of ISO posts on local boards are an extremely efficient method of searching for instant gratification. The one time I used an ISO post (after being canceled just two hours before a date), I got responses from 5 providers and pms from three others. That's 8 women willing to make themselves available in a few hours. And half were not the "usual suspects" on that local board.
Anyway, "nos" are just a part of this hobby, and the shorter the notice, the more likely to get a "no". The men you actually want to see get that.
One explanation I've noticed in speaking with hobbyists and providers is that the drive thru pussy concept has come about from also the plethora of AMPs. Its very likely that you can call one of them (even reputable ones) and find out they have availability.. game on then... however this 'feature' gets translated to non AMP providers and you see the outcome.
As others have said, 'no' is part of the hobby. You can also chose not to answer your phone and let it go to vm and then check it to see if its a request for a later appointment (and call back) or if its for drive thru service.
So there are options.
So I see things differently. "Well reviewed TER providers" are the ones trying to change things not the other way around.
I almost never book even 24 hours in advance, my schedule is subject to change at a moments notice and I would hate to get the reputation of being a serial canceler. I almost always book same day, and it's a rare day that I can't find a quality lady to see me on short notice. I do realize that some ladies just can't do that and there are a few local ladies that I would love to see, but I know it's just not going to happen. I chalk it up to it being our mutual loss and move on. no biggie.
I don't mind that many women need time to do the screening that makes them feel comfortable, and I never run them down for it, but "their way" is NOT the only way and I have been very happy doing things my way for a lot longer than any of these women have been in the business.