...my mood and hers.  Thus, who leads in a session will change from time to time.  Also, I try to do enough homework ahead of time such that I have a good idea if she has a preference.  For me it goes back to the good old concept......chemistry match.

And what are your preferences Karley?

I much prefer the lady to take charge. In real life I make decisions, give direction and instructions every day. So, during my time with a woman I prefer to shed those responsibilities and let her initiate. It is very nice when with a woman when things just kind of flow.

I can't dance at all

so lead, follow--i have no clue what's happening!!!

This is interesting in my situation

I feel like my personality would naturally lend itself to being a leader in the bedroom because I feel like I'm a leader in most aspects of my life. However, because I'm in a wheelchair due to my physical limitations I often "feel like" a follower in the bedroom just because that's the way situation works out could the right provider teach me to be a leader in the bedroom, despite my physical limitations??? There are some special contraptions to help fix this problem but they're not cheap and to make it worth buying one. I would at least have to find a steady friend with benefits or something LOL .

It really all depends??

We like to feel, and if its a moment that we are feeling authoritative and dominant we like to take control, but Talia can be very submissive at times, so it all depends on moment to moment!

I am definitely a "follower" in this situation.  Lets be honest...

1.  Who is the experienced professional here?   Not me.   Why would I lead someone who knows what they are doing so much more than me?

2.  Yes, I'm there for the sex... but when you boil it all down, I'm also there to feel wanted even if it isn't 100% real.   It I take over and drive the session, it feels like she is "for sure" just going through the motions

I take control a bit ... I think its just me controlling my environment until I feel very comfortable and knowing what I like and doing what I'm know I love ... in no time ill be on my knees asking you to "make me your little sex slave" some of you know exactly what I'm talking about.

Being confident and expressing needs doesn't mean you dont  follow well

For the most part I figure she knows better than I do.  But I also have certain things I like which I manage to get across somehow.