Like everything in Life, sometimes we feel extremely dirty, aroused and horny, other times its nice to be romantic. I guess like everything else, Moderation and range is huge! I guess I like it mild to wild!
The post a few threads down raises an interesting question. Do providers like romantic and lovey-dovey or would you rather hear me talk about blowing a load on your face???
It seems to me that we're all just people first — and everyone is going to be different. I'll assume there's a real, live, human being on the other end of this time together; someone with feelings, opinions, joys and sorrows of their own — along with car payments, hobbies and friends. One size doesn't fit all.
The deal — as I see it — is what gets YOU off is the deal she's offering. If you want to channel your inner James Deen and pepper your prose with profanities — I guess I'd avoid those who advertise GFE service (or at least let them know what to expect). How the two of you get there is a negotiation — but it's also a dance. I'll bet you $$ most of the ladies will let you lead.
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Yes $$ buys you happiness here however many of us (most of us who frequent TER forums) have our limits and demand respect ... No amount of $$ is high enough to allow someone to demean me ...
That being said, a lil dirty talk (ok maybe alot) is exciting sometimes and encouraged!!
Thank you for a healthy perspective!
Like everything in Life, sometimes we feel extremely dirty, aroused and horny, other times its nice to be romantic. I guess like everything else, Moderation and range is huge! I guess I like it mild to wild!
And whose to say providers may not prefer one thing one time and something different another. People's sexual preferences are enormously varied.
I am not a provider, but, I assume that most of them, like me:
a. Have an unusually broad sexual spectrum full of diverse moods and desires
b. Are in the mood for different things at different times
c. Want a unique experience with each person... one that is driven almost entirely by the specific chemistry they have with that person, rather than by a mood. Sometimes I am in the mood for something primal and raw, but once I get in the door and I am in her spell, I start yearning for something very cuddly and soft... or vice-versa.
If you both consciously quiet yourself, hush your self talk, and just listen, intently... If you let them, your bodies will negotiate with each other without you even being aware of it, and if you let them, they will choose just the right amount of kink and just the right amount of tenderness to sate both parties. If you get out of their way and let them dance, your bodies always get it right.