Posted By: ziggy440
Retain a lawyer. Give him/her everything you have regarding this lady. If it is not enough personal info to ID her, then do some homework. Then have the lawyer contact her and explain quite gently, but firmly that you have retained him/her with the following instructions.

1. If the lady continues, report the matter to the police. He/she will also explain the severity of the crime.
2. Do everything possible to protect you and assure that she is punished for this severe crime.
3. Assure that she does not receive a dime for this.

Regardless of whether you go after her with the lawyer, I would retain a lawyer before going to the police.

Having worked through this scenario, I am pretty much in CCPA's camp - I would tell her to go ahead, offer her contact info. Then I would explain to her that doing this would surely cause me some personal difficulties, but nowhere near as bad as paying a blackmailer, so have at it. She may try a few tentative probes to see if you will squirm and give her some cash, but since outing you will do nothing positive for her and will be effectively creating evidence that she is committing a serious felony, it is very unlikely she does that unless she is just plain angry with you and crazy.

And get a very good story ready for the family about how you met this lady at a hotel bar late one night, got into a conversation, and while drinking too much seem to have revealed a lot of info about your personal life to her. And now she has turned out to be a combination stalker/blackmailer.

Honestly, the odds this turns into nothing are very high. She is testing to see if you are an easy mark - once it becomes clear you are not, she will look for the next easy score.

zig