BBBJ?  It seems that many guys make a point of observing in their reviews that the lady made steady eye contact while performing a BJ.  In fact, some guys consider it a sine qua non of a GFE.  

I'm not sure I understand this.  Personally, I have enough trouble keeping my eyes from rolling to the back of my head during a BJ to pay enough attention to where my lady friend's eyes are looking.  I start wondering:  Does she expect me to look down so I can see that she's looking up?  Do I have a wattle under my chin, and is she staring at it?  Is she looking up because she thinks I expect her to?  Maybe that's why I seldom CIM.

It can't be very attractive to either participant if the girl looks like she's playing the oboe while looking up at the ceiling, or like a female Kenny G (ugh, now try getting THAT image out of your head!), or if the guy looks like he's trying to watch his toes curl through his nostrils.  

Eye contact during coitus?  Now that's more like it.  Much more intimate.  It's one reason DS is not my favorite, even though most women rate it #1.  Not that there's anything wrong with that!

OK guys, and ladies too, discuss amongst yourselves.