When a provider has experience and knows what she is doing behind closed doors.
How could a guy not cum with her on a date? Why waste your time with a provider who cannot get the job done? LOL Sometimes repeat dates are even better than the first time!I read a post on a different TER board where the gent said some ladies had been upset that he could not finish. As if it reflected poorly on her skills. But assuming you are into the lady and enjoying the experience, do you always finish? I know that sometimes I can't manage to get "over the edge" and have an orgasm, even if the girl is a hottie and very willing to please. The thing is, that doesn't bother me since I've had lots of fun and the finish is not so important to me. If the provider is upset I always assure her it's just the way it is with me at this age, don't think anything of it. Gents, ladies, what do you think or say if you can't finish?
It generally doesn't reflect on her skills, though.
I don't mind if I had a good time, and if I think she came, there's a certain kind of closure. Counterintuitive, but I've left those sessions positively energized.
it makes ME happy!
A big +1!!!! Great description of my outlook as well.
What do I say when I can't, or don't finish?
Time to hop in the shower. See you next time.
so far so good.. it IS aggravating.. I have discovered that if I take 50 Mgs of Viagra.. it is really tough.. 25Mgs I'm OK.. Sometimes I have to get my self off because I can't seem to get enough pressure from the provider.. other times I get off quickly.. no rhyme or reason either.. and I use to curse myself for being so quick when I was younger..be careful what you wish for..
but it's certainly not for a lack of trying! I find that every year that I go past 60 feels like aging 5 years prior. I now schedule appointments around multiple days off and try to refrain from any self gratification at least a day prior.
... once was recently with an FBSM provider who has a limited menu on the first session. For some reason I didn't quite get there.
The other time, it was on an overnight with my atf a couple of years ago. We had a nice dinner out and went back to her place. I was really tired that night and couldn't get to the finish line. Funny thing was, she couldn't either--even with using some of her toys. But it didn't seem to bother her, and it didn't bother me. In fact one one the reasons she's my atf is she doesn't fake it, at least not with me.
We just cuddled for awhile and went to sleep. Then the next morning, refreshed, we had no problem getting to that finish line.
....two factors that impact results.
My sense of feeling in my penis has diminished over the years, combine that with a condom, can be very difficult while screwing. I get over the edge perhaps 20% in this case.
Good oral is a must so I can complete. CIM is not necessary, but a good BBBJ is essential. I get over the edge about 90% in this instance.
In both cases pleasuring her is essential......
HOWEVER, no mater how well the lady can screw or blow me, if I can tell her mind is not in it and she wants to be someplace else, orgasm at 0%. At the risk of being prejudice, the younger the provider the most likely this well happen. (30 years and below).
I'm not as good as I once was, but I'm as good once as I ever was.
I suppose that pretty much sums it up for me, though that finish line seems to be getting farther and farther away with time.
This topic has been discussed before and a good many of us found that the use of Viagra and other meds could delay or prevent orgasm. I had this problem for several years and last year I started on an experiment to find a solution.
I have been using Levitra and taking 10 mg one hour ahead and 10 mg as I arrive at the incall. This provides adequate hardness to start and an extra boost in the middle which ,with the proper stimulation can deliver orgasm. Using this regimen for over a year I have achieved an 85% success rate after averaging about 10% before.
Of course this was just my experience but if you take any ED meds and have experienced "retarded ejaculation" it might be helpful to try. YMMV
I have taken Levitra for several years and have had problems finishing. I will try your method and see how it works out.
It does seem that as each year goes by it does take longer. Most of the woman I have been with realize that us older guys will take longer and don't seem to be bothered by it.
and if the lady and I have the right chemistry I'll even get off a second and sometimes a third round in a two hr date or longer.
and while I may not shoot a load after round 1, I do get these crazy orgasmic sensations in follow up efforts. cumin dryly, if that makes any sense.
it's only on the second or third attempt. And, always, it's because of me and not the girl. Many factors enter into it and most all of them are mental on my part. I have never seen any slightest indication of a gal being "upset" though.
If things are taking a little longer than usual, the smallest of detail or thought can suddenly make it happen, or maybe not. We don't know what that is or will be, because we are not thinking too clearly, if at all. I give a lot of credit to the gals, because if we don't know what we need how do they?
And if it doesn't happen again, that's not an issue. I don't think anything of it. My time and connection with a lady is a lot more that.
I have found that, OFTEN times, the girl being a "hottie and very willing to please" is NOT what gets me over the edge. And what does, can often times be very simple.
But I have no regrets either way. It is the total experience and the intimacy that I cherish. I have had trouble finishing with some of the finest and highest rated providers in the hobby and then erupted like a volcano with providers with average ratings. Performance is a 2-way street but the truly erotic "connection" that I need to finish is often unpredictable. For me it is very much like golf -- somedays I play lousy, other days are fantastic. It is the latter that keeps me coming back with high expectations. Damn, i love this game!!
When a provider has experience and knows what she is doing behind closed doors.
How could a guy not cum with her on a date?
Why waste your time with a provider who cannot get the job done? LOL
Sometimes repeat dates are even better than the first time!
...nothing to do with the lady knowing what she's doing or how hot she is. Obviously you haven't experienced this and hopefully you won't but get a clue. Fortunately I haven't had this issue but age and/or disease gets to all of us eventually. I've read enough and talked to guys that do have these issues to know it's common and a statement like how could a guy not cum with a woman who has experience and knows what she's doing bcd is naive at best.
So calm down and relax.
If you have this problem okay.
I don't and that is why everybody is different.
Just thinking everybody has this problem like you is naive on your part!
...I clearly said I don't have the problem. I posted earlier in the thread that I have no trouble finishing. You asked in your post how could a guy not finish with a woman who knows what she's doing. That is the naive statement you made. There are many reasons (especially when we get older) that have nothing to do with the woman or her skills for a man to have difficulty finishing or not finish at all. You implied any guy can finish with the right woman. That isn't the case.
As for me being bitter. You couldn't be anymore off. I'm having the time of my life.
I'm wondering if you even read my post.
Just relax and start fucking more.
Then maybe you will start feeling better about yourself!
As for me being bitter. You couldn't be anymore off. I'm having the time of my life.
I'm wondering if you even read my post.
I have no problem getting and staying hard. But I can't finish in the last year or so. At least not vaginally. I just can't get enough speed and friction. Once I know it's futile I tell her it not working and we shift to a handjob which always seems to work. It's a bit disappointing, all of those years of coming too soon to not being able to at all. At least handjobs still work which I am grateful for.
I've has a great number of experiences with men who don't finish. And for many different reasons... blood pressure medication, performance anxiety, we stayed out partying too late (drunk dick) or they just feel like cuddling more than finishing. The first few times this happened to me I did take it personally until I had a boyfriend on blood pressure meds. He would say " It's just not gonna happen, I can tell", which I assure you is preferable to somebody fucking themselves into a dripping sweat trying for what might be physically impossible at that moment. I found it's better to take the pressure to finish completely off the table and suggest that if they know a sure fired way (a little dirty talk or they handle it themselves in a particular way) I'm on board, let me know!