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This was a major deterrent for me & why I decided to do everything myself
QuinnAdams 975 reads
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It is so funny you mention this because the other day I was thinking to myself that I should once again consider getting an assistant to help me with confirming appointments, managing my schedule, taking care of screening and verifying, etc.  

It seems that generally that the independent ladies who have assistants task these colleagues with pretty much everything they need to do that is client-facing, other than going to the actual appointment itself (haha). Of course the allocation of responsibilities differs from time to time and is a totally unique to the provider, based on her comfort level and willingness to trust these various activities to her partner.

In the end, when I actually came down to closely examining this division of labor, so to speak, so I could describe to potential assistants what I would need them to do in detail, I just wasn't comfortable entrusting my own safety and good-standing/positive reputation -- plus everything I had worked so hard for during my entire youth and adolescence (basically through the end of graduate school) at school and university, not to mention the successful career I had established for myself -- to somebody else I didn't know extremely well. I don't even think I would trust my best friend with what adds up to be basically my entire life.  

And, perhaps more importantly, as a very low-volume, high-quality, elite provider, I only see one client per day and almost only do appointments of two hours or more. About half of the dates I enjoy with my hobbyist friends are four-plus hours and I see the same small circle of friends on a frequent (regular) basis. And, because I have a higher price point than many of the providers in this area, I offer a more personal, authentic touch and really have built some amazing friendships with the men I know through this hobby.

Therefore, for me to pass off my communications with these friends to another person who has never even met any of these guys just seems like it would be a giant slap in the face to each one. I would also miss the conversation and think that there is something very special to be gained from the connection you can build as a provider with your favorite friends just from the correspondence you share between dates.  

I think it depends, but it just wasn't worth the risk to me that one of my close friends would experience something like you describe in your post. Ultimately, that would reflect poorly on me for choosing such a poorly equipped and questionable assistant to reflect the reputable persona I pride myself on being in my "second (private) life".
Posted By: Kennygmore
I am new to TER but not new to the hobbyist world. I pose a question from TER. Does the attitude of a young lady's assistant stop you from booking with her? I recently gave a young lady a call and her assistant was absolutely rude. The 'Who are you?" and the attitude when she realized it wasn't a call for her was just unbelievable. If her phone etiquette is horrible do you just skip to the next person on your "To-Do List"? Or deal with the nasty assistant? your thoughts are appreciated.  
   
 

Kennygmore1382 reads

I am new to TER but not new to the hobbyist world. I pose a question from TER. Does the attitude of a young lady's assistant stop you from booking with her? I recently gave a young lady a call and her assistant was absolutely rude. The 'Who are you?" and the attitude when she realized it wasn't a call for her was just unbelievable. If her phone etiquette is horrible do you just skip to the next person on your "To-Do List"? Or deal with the nasty assistant? your thoughts are appreciated

Do you mean a girl taking calls for herself and also for another girl?  Please clarify.

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Yes a bitchy assistant can make or break any girl's business.  Fortunately most assistants are good.

If you do encounter a rude assistant, you should definitely try let the provider know.

Kennygmore1217 reads

The assistant is also a provider. Once I told her who I was calling for her whole attitude changed.

It is so funny you mention this because the other day I was thinking to myself that I should once again consider getting an assistant to help me with confirming appointments, managing my schedule, taking care of screening and verifying, etc.  

It seems that generally that the independent ladies who have assistants task these colleagues with pretty much everything they need to do that is client-facing, other than going to the actual appointment itself (haha). Of course the allocation of responsibilities differs from time to time and is a totally unique to the provider, based on her comfort level and willingness to trust these various activities to her partner.

In the end, when I actually came down to closely examining this division of labor, so to speak, so I could describe to potential assistants what I would need them to do in detail, I just wasn't comfortable entrusting my own safety and good-standing/positive reputation -- plus everything I had worked so hard for during my entire youth and adolescence (basically through the end of graduate school) at school and university, not to mention the successful career I had established for myself -- to somebody else I didn't know extremely well. I don't even think I would trust my best friend with what adds up to be basically my entire life.  

And, perhaps more importantly, as a very low-volume, high-quality, elite provider, I only see one client per day and almost only do appointments of two hours or more. About half of the dates I enjoy with my hobbyist friends are four-plus hours and I see the same small circle of friends on a frequent (regular) basis. And, because I have a higher price point than many of the providers in this area, I offer a more personal, authentic touch and really have built some amazing friendships with the men I know through this hobby.

Therefore, for me to pass off my communications with these friends to another person who has never even met any of these guys just seems like it would be a giant slap in the face to each one. I would also miss the conversation and think that there is something very special to be gained from the connection you can build as a provider with your favorite friends just from the correspondence you share between dates.  

I think it depends, but it just wasn't worth the risk to me that one of my close friends would experience something like you describe in your post. Ultimately, that would reflect poorly on me for choosing such a poorly equipped and questionable assistant to reflect the reputable persona I pride myself on being in my "second (private) life".

Posted By: Kennygmore
I am new to TER but not new to the hobbyist world. I pose a question from TER. Does the attitude of a young lady's assistant stop you from booking with her? I recently gave a young lady a call and her assistant was absolutely rude. The 'Who are you?" and the attitude when she realized it wasn't a call for her was just unbelievable. If her phone etiquette is horrible do you just skip to the next person on your "To-Do List"? Or deal with the nasty assistant? your thoughts are appreciated.  
   
 

Yes. I believe even though a assistant is supposed to help involve your business and be the "bad guy" she should honor how you want your business ran. I think assistants are best for high volume providers or providers who are open to see "us last minute professionals". Sneaking off gets hard sometimes. lol Helpfully your testimony helps the provider I was looking to spend time with cause her assistant was awful. LOL

When your ego is so suffocating?  And I am sorry I should mention your ivy league education because you might have a cardiac event if it isn't mentioned.  BTW, if you have to charge more to be so affectionate then that is hilarious

Posted By: QuinnAdams
It is so funny you mention this because the other day I was thinking to myself that I should once again consider getting an assistant to help me with confirming appointments, managing my schedule, taking care of screening and verifying, etc.  
   
 It seems that generally that the independent ladies who have assistants task these colleagues with pretty much everything they need to do that is client-facing, other than going to the actual appointment itself (haha). Of course the allocation of responsibilities differs from time to time and is a totally unique to the provider, based on her comfort level and willingness to trust these various activities to her partner.  
   
 In the end, when I actually came down to closely examining this division of labor, so to speak, so I could describe to potential assistants what I would need them to do in detail, I just wasn't comfortable entrusting my own safety and good-standing/positive reputation -- plus everything I had worked so hard for during my entire youth and adolescence (basically through the end of graduate school) at school and university, not to mention the successful career I had established for myself -- to somebody else I didn't know extremely well. I don't even think I would trust my best friend with what adds up to be basically my entire life.  
   
 And, perhaps more importantly, as a very low-volume, high-quality, elite provider, I only see one client per day and almost only do appointments of two hours or more. About half of the dates I enjoy with my hobbyist friends are four-plus hours and I see the same small circle of friends on a frequent (regular) basis. And, because I have a higher price point than many of the providers in this area, I offer a more personal, authentic touch and really have built some amazing friendships with the men I know through this hobby.  
   
 Therefore, for me to pass off my communications with these friends to another person who has never even met any of these guys just seems like it would be a giant slap in the face to each one. I would also miss the conversation and think that there is something very special to be gained from the connection you can build as a provider with your favorite friends just from the correspondence you share between dates.  
   
 I think it depends, but it just wasn't worth the risk to me that one of my close friends would experience something like you describe in your post. Ultimately, that would reflect poorly on me for choosing such a poorly equipped and questionable assistant to reflect the reputable persona I pride myself on being in my "second (private) life".  
   
Posted By: Kennygmore
I am new to TER but not new to the hobbyist world. I pose a question from TER. Does the attitude of a young lady's assistant stop you from booking with her? I recently gave a young lady a call and her assistant was absolutely rude. The 'Who are you?" and the attitude when she realized it wasn't a call for her was just unbelievable. If her phone etiquette is horrible do you just skip to the next person on your "To-Do List"? Or deal with the nasty assistant? your thoughts are appreciated.    
     
 

Now Quinn...I have been here a very long time and my rep is pretty solid.
I have never stolen from anyone outed anyone lied about anyone...i dont do drugs
so that puts me leaps and bounds ahead of you on the rep meter.
I could only improve your standings.

Everyone loves a bandwagon dont they!!



get-a-life825 reads

Ain't nothing SWEET about her one of my worst sessions with a provider seems to think she is doing you a favor left the session early and very unhappy not sure what anyone likes about the ole maid lol

HonkeyPox829 reads

...and I had a virtually identical phone encounter with her. Not only did it dissuade me from wanting to book with the provider, but given that the assistant also is a well-known provider as well, my fortuitous taste of her snotty attitude led me to cross her off my list too. What a crappy way to treat potential clients.  I wonder if the provider who is being "assisted" has any idea how much business she loses.

I am guessing by the banter this is about me...

if you feel I am too short with you on the phone, well I can be abrupt.
My main concern is the ladies safety
I require a few things to take place to set up an appt.

My asking you *who is this*
sounds to me like you called and didnt introduce yourself. I am never going to have a conversation with someone I dont know who I am speaking to about the young lady or her whereabouts.
Many call and the first thing out of their mouths is *where are you located* no **hello this is so n so, Im calling about this young lady.**
So I ask *** Who am I speaking with*** and*** who are you calling for. ***
If you responded with *a paying client* instead of your name I am sure I gave your additude right back to you. Remember we are operating on the fringes here a straight shooter is the best policy to be screened.


If I dont know who you want to see I cant help you.
If I dont know who I am talking to I am not going to tell you where she is.

I take this business of safety very seriously.
I screen clients for more than just myself. I am all about her safety.

I have never been upset because the call was not for me. You are imagining that.
We are miles apart in personality and style the clients who see me are not the same clients who see the young lady.

Oh and Alias' grow some balls if you want to trash me...us your handle.
Im guessing you are on my DNS list...

So if you feel you want to see her without going through me, email her and set up an appt. You still will have to be screened so be ready to give her all your info.

I know I can come across abrupt. If you feel I was over the top Im sorry about that.

Nicole Kelly


If you are nice to me...Im nice.
But Im not a pushover.
So I guess it can rub someone the wrong way.

I can take something possitive out of this. Theres always a lesson and I will be more aware.

Maybe get some valume...lol (not really)...HMMMM maybe.

Happy Turkey day Benny!

Kisses!
Nicole

I've used Nicole as a reference and to book an appointment a few times  I've never had a problem

When a Gent calls to make an appt most expect to speak with the lady if shes indy.
I answer the phone and I hear the let down in their voice when finding out I am an assistant, and not the lady.
Their flirtatious tone fades and honestly I think they expect me to some degree to flirt with them when Im friendly but business they see me as cold.

Someone has to do the paperwork and Im just the assistant Im not going to flirt with you.
Yet if you call for me it may come off a little different we may be a bit more flirtatious.
Im not unfriendly Im just doing my job.

Some men are generally turned off by a lady who has an assistant they want to only deal with the lady. No matter how friendly she is.

I have been doing this for a very long time, I have talked with thousands upon thousands of clients, and not everyones gonna like you.

Im not trying to excuse your feelings,or discount them...
It just is what it is. Im just making a point.

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