Great topic. Thank you for bringing this up, Haley.
For many years, I advertised a phone number. It was not typically an issue, as gentlemen were respectable and provided appropriate information and introductions via telephone/text. Over the last few years however, I noticed a substantial increase of time wasters via phone/text, while serious inquiries were handled through email only. People would call just to chat or hear a voice. This was especially true as I began assisting other ladies. Not sure if newer ladies appeared inexperienced or as a target, but there was an increase of useless, time wasting calls/text. As such, I made the decision to use email only for the initial introductions/communications. Everything has been just fine for the most part. The majority of gentlemen, once they have been screened and do have a number, respect your time. That is the most important. Telephone/text communication has a way of being too invasive sometimes or people can get carried away with inappropriate and unnecessary chit chat throughout the entire day and night. Totally unacceptable. Email tends to weed out these time wasters from what I have noticed and allows you to timely check your correspondence when it is good for you without the constant interruption of a beeping/chirping/vibrating (although vibrating can be fun) cel phone. Often when you are out or with family/friends, that is coincidentally when your phone will go off or you will receive these time wasting calls. Gentlemen, just to be clear, I am certainly not complaining about the phone calls/texts. This only applies when the calls/texts are outside of the scope of setting an appointment, confirming an appointment, or other relationship. When we get a text from a new number/unknown number saying "what's up" or "hey" repeatedly, or even on a daily basis from a known gent saying "hi, just wanted to chat" this can be invasive and unacceptable, especially at 6:30am! If everyone decided to do that, all of our time would be spent on the phone/texting. Again though, if you have a date set or a known client and every week they text "just checking in hope all is well" or something, that is fine depending upon your relationship with that person. But some people do get carried away and can text constantly for twelve hours a day every day. Totally inappropriate! Others just want additional pictures or information without being screened first, again, totally inappropriate. In today's technological society, everyone has an email, and in fact, many! They have a work email, a personal email and most have a play email or two. I do not feel any appointments are lost by being "email only." On the contrary though, I do have an older client in his 70s whom I have known for over 15 years. He is old school and will not email whatsoever. He won't even use his GPS to get to ladies' locations because he likes to limit any tracking as much as possible. He enlists my services to meet new ladies, and I often wonder how he would otherwise. But he is really an isolated or very rare example. Again, thanks for bringing this up. I am curious to see the other responses. Always Sexy ~Ton
and then giving out my phone number for a get acquainted phone conversation. I advertise in a number of places and so many times it's a wasted call from someone who hasn't read my ad or gone to my website. Makes me frustrated and then the next calls go unanswered. Not a good solution even when my voice mail says send me an introductory email
Gentlemen : do you mind sending that introductory email first ? If no phone number is listed will that deter you from contacting a lady ? Perhaps you are unable to converse via email all the time or even at all
Ladies : Do you require email first ? If so do you feel when you started email first or email only you lost many inquiries ?
Thanks much for your info and help
Kisses Haley
... and so I have no problem either way although I like the personal touch of a call first myself. However, that doesn't deter me from the other route.
If you decide to go to E-Mail introductions you'll probably still get many "tire kickers" who'll waste your time anyway. I think it is a job liability.
Great topic. Thank you for bringing this up, Haley.
For many years, I advertised a phone number. It was not typically an issue, as gentlemen were respectable and provided appropriate information and introductions via telephone/text. Over the last few years however, I noticed a substantial increase of time wasters via phone/text, while serious inquiries were handled through email only. People would call just to chat or hear a voice. This was especially true as I began assisting other ladies. Not sure if newer ladies appeared inexperienced or as a target, but there was an increase of useless, time wasting calls/text. As such, I made the decision to use email only for the initial introductions/communications.
Everything has been just fine for the most part. The majority of gentlemen, once they have been screened and do have a number, respect your time. That is the most important. Telephone/text communication has a way of being too invasive sometimes or people can get carried away with inappropriate and unnecessary chit chat throughout the entire day and night. Totally unacceptable. Email tends to weed out these time wasters from what I have noticed and allows you to timely check your correspondence when it is good for you without the constant interruption of a beeping/chirping/vibrating (although vibrating can be fun) cel phone. Often when you are out or with family/friends, that is coincidentally when your phone will go off or you will receive these time wasting calls.
Gentlemen, just to be clear, I am certainly not complaining about the phone calls/texts. This only applies when the calls/texts are outside of the scope of setting an appointment, confirming an appointment, or other relationship. When we get a text from a new number/unknown number saying "what's up" or "hey" repeatedly, or even on a daily basis from a known gent saying "hi, just wanted to chat" this can be invasive and unacceptable, especially at 6:30am! If everyone decided to do that, all of our time would be spent on the phone/texting. Again though, if you have a date set or a known client and every week they text "just checking in hope all is well" or something, that is fine depending upon your relationship with that person. But some people do get carried away and can text constantly for twelve hours a day every day. Totally inappropriate! Others just want additional pictures or information without being screened first, again, totally inappropriate.
In today's technological society, everyone has an email, and in fact, many! They have a work email, a personal email and most have a play email or two. I do not feel any appointments are lost by being "email only." On the contrary though, I do have an older client in his 70s whom I have known for over 15 years. He is old school and will not email whatsoever. He won't even use his GPS to get to ladies' locations because he likes to limit any tracking as much as possible. He enlists my services to meet new ladies, and I often wonder how he would otherwise. But he is really an isolated or very rare example.
Again, thanks for bringing this up. I am curious to see the other responses.
Always Sexy ~
Ton
This conversation is immensely helpful to me!
I always reach out via text or email first. How do I know if someone is in the middle of something, or able to have a proper intro conversation? Email let's her check me out on here, read my reviews, see my white listings, etc. It allows her to decide if I'm her type.
the lady can read it when convenient. I usually give the provider 48-72 hrs. (unless over a holiday period) to respond. If no response, I go to plan B. I usually plan ahead since I have limited opportunities to P4P
I agree wholeheartedly... Email gives me a chance to put words and thoughts down correctly. I even include a picture of myself.. Can be read when convenient. Does not put the lady "on the spot". Give the same time frame for the first response if any and move on if needed.. As appointment time nears then text and call as needed....
+1
I believe there was a thread previously on this topic. Maybe on GD board but it seemed that overwhelming choice by ladies was email first, then TER pm. Bottom of list for initial contact was phone. Makes perfect sense to me and seems it would,be SOP.
For just this reason. While I occasionally received a legit phone call, 90% of phone call initiated contacts ended up being time wasters, or guys who were not willing to screen. Although I have removed my number from all legit sites, I am still getting occasional texts, as some not so legit sites that steal information from other sites still have it posted.
For the most part once I tell the person calling or texting to fill out my contact form, I never hear from them again. On the contrary, while I receive an occasional BS email, most email initiated contacts are respectful and insightful, and start the communication off on a positive note.
i always email first unless the lady requests otherwise.
Nothing at all wrong with going this route. Feel like more times than not it's the preferred way on both ends.
I prefer an introductory email and then a phone call.
I have a web site
a appoint form to complete
and a FQS page if they have any questions
I have no idea how a provider can be SANE answering phones all day!!!
just my 2 cents!!
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