When you have been in the hobby as long he and I, you will be touched, both good and bad. Of course they are real, with real feelings, real emotions. I have met some amazing women in the hobby, even have dated a few and a loved one. But sadly, far too many are in this world because of lack of choices or opportunity. Many see us as ATMs and many of us see them as objects, to be purchased and discharged.
Its great to hear a provider made you feel this way, just keep a level head. I remind myself that many of the providers I have seen, would not be seen with me in public, unless I paid them. Or I remember posts some of them make, like one that went on a rant about tricks staying over their time, even by a few minutes. She drew the analogy, what if your boss asked you to stay past your shift without paying overtime. Such comments help me stay focused.
Well, here's the story...
I am a widower of three years, I lost my love on christmas night 2009. She died of brain cancer in my arms in our home. Due to a lengthy battle with cancer (3 plus years) I have been without a ladies intimate touch for almost six years. When I weathered the emotional storm during the holiday this year I realized that she would not want me to continue on in my state of depression. So my new years resolution was to get up, and live. I've lost almost twenty pounds and am becomming more active. Step 2 Didn't know if I was ready for intimacy or even if the plumbing still worked right. (yes I can satify myself but, that is different) I called a lady that I found on backpage that was reviewed here on TER. We set up a 90 min date, I didn't want to rush and we met, talked some and she was gentle and slow with me (I had told her a little about my loss). I left mesmerized satisfied and calm. I was scared to death at first emotionally and physically as this was my first time with a provider. We had a lunch and fun date a week later and I really enjoyed it and she said she did too. Now this is where things get really rich, a week later we set up a dinner date, I got a nice room and we spent the afternoon and evening together, nice dinner and some fun. After she came to the room we sat and had a drink a talked awhile. I talked too much and ended up telling her about my unfortunate loss and, she listened with caring and attentiveness that one would only expect from a lifelong friend. I noticed her gorgeous blue eyes were beginnig to wellup, some silence then she broke out into tears and honestly wept, at that point, I lost it too and we sat on the bed holding each other and crying. The rest of the evening was astonishing and I have made a new true friend!!! Now, listen guys, these LADIES are REAL LADIES. My heart has forever been touched by this wonderful woman, and I'll never forget her compashion and caring touch and ear. Sure good sex is awsome, but this experience was PRICELESS... I am forever indebted to her for going the "extra 1000 miles"
But I also feel compelled to express a certain reservation not to read too much into the situation with the gal you were with.
It is certainly true that we all develop friendships with certain people we meet in the hobby world over time; and it is certainly possible to have real emotional reactions to certain of life's situations, especially of the type you endured.
However, you must remember that the gal you are with is a professional, and the bottom line is that you are paying for her company and beyond her services for that period of time, there is no obligation, i.e., strings, that come with these encounters.
That certain times we go beyond that is also true, and those times often have unhappy (and occasionally happy) repurcussions.
Here's hoping that you can enjoy her sympathies and friendship without any unfortuate circumstances.
I appreciate your statement and concern, but,I don't think you are following me. I have no ulterior motives here, I am simply stating that these women actually have emotion and feelings. That they are true people and not the hard cold ladies that they are often stereotyped as. My hat's off to all you first class ladies. And Sandy thank you for your compassion I hope to see you again...
Only to warn others who come up against similar situations to be wary of where their hearts leads them.
Believe me, I speak from experience, and not all of them very happy ones.
I am very appreciative of your concerns / warning. I do understand that someone could get "caught -up" in the moment. "Sandy" and I do have a active freindship now, but that's as far as it goes. Buisness is business. I will have to say that I've benn truly "touched" by the "hobby".
When you have been in the hobby as long he and I, you will be touched, both good and bad. Of course they are real, with real feelings, real emotions. I have met some amazing women in the hobby, even have dated a few and a loved one. But sadly, far too many are in this world because of lack of choices or opportunity. Many see us as ATMs and many of us see them as objects, to be purchased and discharged.
Its great to hear a provider made you feel this way, just keep a level head. I remind myself that many of the providers I have seen, would not be seen with me in public, unless I paid them. Or I remember posts some of them make, like one that went on a rant about tricks staying over their time, even by a few minutes. She drew the analogy, what if your boss asked you to stay past your shift without paying overtime. Such comments help me stay focused.
a very touching story, I am very sorry for your loss as it's hard to imagine what you went through.
It is easy to get caught up in the friendship that you two now share, please heed the warnings of the gentlemen that have posted ahead of me. I know first hand that these ladies have caring hearts and are not the stone cold persona's displayed on the board. I could not be happier that you have gathered the strength to venture out of the house and start to live again. More power to you buddy, and good luck with future "friends". It is amazing how many new friends you can make.
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Good for you! In reading the replies, I could not help but think how fortunate it is that you posted it to THIS board as opposed to the GB or any other. Mr. Fisher is a good guy and a gentleman; imagine some of the responses from those who are anything but gentlemen.
Absolutely moving and indeed spot on.
Bendygirl ~*~