I've only seen 3 girls in my hobby days so I still consider myself a bit of a rookie.. So here's my question to all you long time hobbyists.
Some escorts are so beautiful... Have you ever been with an escort and had that "Pretty Woman" feeling.. It's the only way I can describe it.. And that is you meet with a cute young escort.. And you start to think come and let me take you away from this business.. You are too beautiful.. That thought ever run through your minds.. It happened to me today with a provider.. A totally beautiful Asian beauty... I feel silly even asking this.. But has this happend before or has been asked..
Regards,
Richard Gere 
Don't do it.
I have the feeling ALL the time, especially when she's hot and I'm getting a blow job from her or having sex for an hour or two.
Then I take a shower and it's back to reality...
RH
It happened to me with a dancer. She was a stunner, but what got me was how well we hit it off personally: lots in common, intelligent, funny, about my age (but looked like she was 22, and what a body!) We had some FS private dances that was a bit outside her normal deal, one time she said she wished she could take me home and go all day. I got her number, but never called- big no-no for a married guy, right? I saw her about 2 more times, then she wasn't FS anymore, said she had a boyfriend (SP's rules, you know, everything but...)now. Funny thing is it really broke my heart, and I couldn't see her anymore, but I still think about her all the time. I feel your pain, brother. Hang tough, but you gotta be smart, too.
Just keep in mind that unless you've become involved in underaged girls, traffiking and the like, most of these ladies are doing this because they want to, not because they have to. If you find yourself in this position often, you may want to research your way to someone who also has a day job, who has an education under her belt, basically, somebody with other options available to her.
Kate
I tend to agree with this: "most of these ladies are doing this because they want to, not because they have to." If this is the case, and you did become involved, then you could potentially get into the scenario where she stops working because you want her to and not because she really wants to, which could lead to resentment from both parties.
You go to a provider and have sex with her. Then you think "oh my gawd I want to sweep her away from this life of prostitution." So, if you think prostitution is so bad that you need to rescue someone from it, why do you engage in it, in the first place?
Having been in this biz for a little while, I have had my share of clients that become attached (*or had a desire to take things further*) ……..... maintaining a professional relationship helps gentlemen understand that an encounter is a walk away from the ordinary and a break from their normal routine. It isn’t however a true reflection of reality.
In an encounter, a hobbyist (*as well as a provider*) will only be exposed to the best of each individual. The dreaded day to day routine doesn’t enter into the picture. Once you step outside her walls and exit back into the “real” world, reality should come back into focus.
A true professional can help you work through such an event. I have gone above and beyond what many might consider expectations of the time spent with a client. I have a strong belief that the dedication a provider has to the client both before, during and after the encounter is all considered her profession. Because the bottom line is….. any woman can lay down with a man. It is what happens before during as well as afterwards that separates the real professionals from the “quick money” grabbing women who capitalize on uniformed Hobbyist.
Many of the establish providers that I know and associate with have (*on more than one occasion*) helped a client work through situations that might have aroused after the encounter. I guess the answer to your question is YES, it happens often. The behavior of the provider is what prevents the situation from becoming a nightmare for the hobbyist.
My wish your way is serenity……...
Happy Hobbying Know your provider (*and her reputation) kisses...... ~Tori
all I can say -I was weak. I had to pull out of the hobby for just this very reason. I still enjoy reading about it- but I am staying true to my convictions.
I will say this- I have looked into some providers worlds- and SOME are living in a world you don't want to have any part of. So the fantasy that you are experiencing is just that. Who this woman is in your home may be very different from what she really is. Not to say they are not wonderful, intelligent and sweet- because all of the ones I met were pretty much all of that. But what you see in your limited encounter may be just a small piece of whom or what she really is.
Best of luck- and remind yourself what the hobby is really about. If you can’t play the game like it is meant to be played then I suggest you take a hard look at what you are really looking for in life.
You are neither weak in character nor in discipline. I was told once upon a time that a weak character is one who does not recognize their vulnerability.
Just in my humble opinion, you both recognized your vulnerability as well as stepped back and decided you needed to govern yourself. I wouldn’t call you weak at all. (*I also applaud you for stepping up and posting what many are not strong enough to but that others will definitely benefit from*) You are by no means weak in my book…. Kisses ~T
It happens to me every time - not at all unusual. But I try to wait it out, and it always passes.
Good luck!
Well....hmmmm.
First problem I see is your criteria for wanting to take a lady away from this business is that she is "cute" and "beautiful"...nothing about the person, just the packaging...wonder how long you would want to support beautiful? Hell, you used the word "beauty" or some form of it 4 times in your post and cute once. In one paragraph and a sentace you made mention of her appearance 5 times, but said nothing else of her.
Second, is the idea that ladies in this business want to be rescued or taken away. Most ladies choose this line of work. Many are in relationships, perhaps even married, and have no need for a client that thinks she is "too beautiful", to take her away from anything. Also, many ladies have "day jobs" and do this for both fun and extra income, they don't need to be rescued. She may really like her work and her clients and not want to change a thing.
Then there is the issue of what exactly would you do with her once you "rescued" her?
Would you pay her to see only you, so she wouldn't have to see any other clients? If so how is that rescuing and not just an exclusive arrangement? She would still be a provider, you'd still be a client...it would just be you would be her only client. How do you know she doesn't like her other clients and wouldn't want to keep seeing them?
Would it be more of a dating scenario you would be thinking of? If it would be, it would need to be entered into with the full knowledge that a provider as a girlfriend is a girlfriend. The realtionship doesn't get to be all about the boyfriend in the way that a session is all about the client. The sex isn't the same as it is also not him getting what he paid her for but a give and take like any other romantic relationship. Then there would be the question of if the lady would even want to date a client, former client, anyone...
As for the notion of her being "too beautiful" for this business? How beautiful is a lady to be to be in this business? What is the defining characteristic that puts her beauty over the top? Is being too beautiful anything like being too good for this business? and if so what exactly is wrong with this business, that you benefit from (in what you get from sessions, that this lady is above it?
Also, were the other two ladies you have seen just ugly enough to be providers?
You had a good session with a lady you were attracted to...that is ideally what should happen. It doesn't mean she wants or needs rescued, or that she is "too beautiful" to be in the business...sounds like if she made you think that much of her and your session she is just about perfect for this business. *grin*
Biggest problem with wanting to rescue someone...it is far more about the one wanting to do the rescuing, and almost nothing about the one that he wants to rescue.
First a recap. She's a physically beautiful provider. Somebody seems to think a rescue is in order. Webbie brilliantly points out, as usual, that perhaps all is not as it seems.
So, here's the fix. Are ya sittin down? I'll "allow myself" to be rescued by this lovely damsel. That way, she can continue the line of work that she loves, support herself (and me if she'll feel better about that), keep spending time with those great friends she's met in the business, and fulfill herself emotionally by having little ole me to have & hold.
I know that she's been described as "too beautiful", but I promise not to hold that against her.
OK Webbie, your serve...
Yes. But after a shower the next morning, my head (the big one) gets screwed on right.
Web--you've definitely got something between those ears and everyone else TOO for that matter. I am older now, so my looks aren't what they used to be, though "the smile's the same" i'm told (among the laugh lines) *grin*.
I left the profession not once, but twice, and b/c i CARE about my guys, really missed them (though even after many yrs, STILL keep in touch w/ several).
the MOST impt thing web & T said: you're seeing them and they're seeing you under the BEST of circumstances and BEST of behaviors. AND, it was also pointed out, you definitely have a weakness for a pretty face.
i'm not saying anything here really, except, NOW i understand why i've heard this before--very enlightening and i appreciate having a totally NEW something to think about! *smile*
also: since, as pointed out, you DO REALLY have that fondness for a pretty face AND would like to see her/rescue her, THEN, honey, make sure you either have or get a good education AND a good-paying job, then ... become a sugar daddy and can have that pretty face and always-there-for-you whenever you like! *wink*
[people: if this is a dumb post, forgive me ... lol]