I used to see a provider a few years ago who was crazy sensitive. When she first told me, I thought, "Sure," but once when I was licking her pussy, I slid a finger in and licked at her clit. Her pussy throbbed around my finger and I've been hooked on trying to give women pleasure that way ever since.

The OP is right: the same thing doesn't work with every woman. I also used to see a provider who took quite a bit to come. Oral plus fingers or a strong vibrator. The most awesome way to get her off was fisting her, and the first time, she asked me!

But they do want to come. It may be a job, it may be a transaction, but a little effort can make it seem less like work for them.

Kevin that was a really good thread you posted.

The best sex is always, when the woman cums first!

Posted By: KevinRoby

I just think this point perhaps needs to be said in its own thread.  I saw a minor pornstarlet yesterday and had the same experience happen to me that has now happened I cant count how many times.  Before out date started the woman confided in me that she does not really cum with men.  If you ask, a lot of women will tell you that.  I see 18 to 20 year olds mostly, and many of them will confess they have never cum with a man, or cum more than once or twice in a session, and some will say they have cum maybe only a handful of times in any context ever.  I always make those girls who say they do not cum end up coming and least a half dozen times, often more than a dozen.  
   
 A very long time ago a provider told me she was dazed that virtually no one she saw EVER tried to -- or worked to -- get her off.    
   
 I vowed to be different.  
   
 Long story short, the girl I saw yesterday came 15 times.  I made her ask Daddys permission before cumming. which is how I keep count, and girls love having to ask permission.  Were they real Orgasms?  Oh yes.  Frothy real.  Toe curling, muscle contracting. Wet pussy walls real.  
   
 Anyway guys, take the time to learn how to finger a g-spot and bring a nice vibrator.  Your date will enter a new realm and she will remember you as the guy who cared enough to make her cum.  Repeatedly.  
   
 I do not need hater responses to this post from guys who have never really asked girls about this.  I am just trying to be helpful to guys might think these girls just want you to do your business and go.  When in fact all girls WANT TO CUM if you care enough to build a little trust and listen to their bodies and help them.  

For ME, it's VERY important that I do my absolute BEST to make the pornstar I'm with cum, and I'd say, with very few exceptions, they DO cum, and lots of times, multiple times. I'm not bragging or anything at all, but I really enjoy making the woman cum, and it's a huge turn on for me when they do. I love when I can make them cum when I'm fucking them, but if it doesn't happen that way, not to toot my own horn or anything, but I'm REALLY, REALLY good at oral sex and I almost ALWAYS can make a woman cum that way if it doesn't happen while fucking. I'm not going to name name's here because I'm sure no one really cares, but one porn star that I was with came SO hard that she nearly passed out and we had to take a little break. Several of them I could always give multiple orgasms to with no problem at all. One woman, who isn't a pornstar, squirts SO often in an hour session that all I have to do is TELL her that I'm going to put my dick in her and she squirts! So for me, it's VERY important to make sure that a woman cums during a session, and most of the time I'll make sure I ASK THEM before they even touch ME, what turns them on, what positions THEY like, and how exactly they like for me to go down on them, and as a result, 99% of the time I'm very well rewarded....

I always always always want my partner to cum (PS or otherwise).  Oral is my favorite way to reach this goal and thankfully most ladies I've been with enjoy that.  I know I do...  

One PS who I ended up seeing multiple times over the years had little issue cumming, and most of the time it was effortless (like our sessions in general).  Squirting, multiple Os, all of the above made our sessions so so so much fun.  Wish she'd come back into the hobbying world as I'd rush to see her again.

I think the effort to please your partner is rewarded and I personally find it to be a huge turn on to keep my partner happy.  I could spend most of any session with my tongue wet and if DATY isn't on the list of approved activities, I look elsewhere.

Great post...

BL

Well I'm quite sure you're a lothario of the highest order, you do know that these girls are actresses right?

I've done the vibrator thing a thousand times. Investing in a good one is worth the investment. Also just take your time with her and explore her body. Orgasm is definitely more mental with women. Once she gets excited she will take care of you so don't worry. Also I have found as I have practiced, I have started over time to get extremely turned on myself when I can satisfy her.

You can't actually "make" any woman cum? You can help them to achieve orgasm but you can't make them cum.