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I have a client that wants me to work for his company the offer as far as compensation is a great deal and so are the benefits the only thing is I'm not too sure about taking him up on this offer. I don't know if mixing business with pleasure is a good idea. What do guys think I should?.

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Compensation package, benefits, commute, job description...??

Are your sexual services being bartered as part of the compensation package?

If so, then I think it may be a bad idea for both of you.

On the other hand, if this is a legit business transaction, the job is the right fit for you, and you have faith in this person's ethics, etc., then why not?

You seem to be hesitant, so I think you should listen to that voice.

If the inner voice is telling you something then you already know the answer.  Sometimes we have to walk away good or bad.

Yeah, more potential downsides than upsides. If you trust the guy and it isn't just a BJ's at his desk fantasy thing, then why not, but a lot of potential wierdness there. Knowing your real ID etc.

 

Posted By: KimbellaxOxO
I have a client that wants me to work for his company the offer as far as compensation is a great deal and so are the benefits the only thing is I'm not too sure about taking him up on this offer. I don't know if mixing business with pleasure is a good idea. What do guys think I should?.

It could be a good deal for you if it allows you to get out of this business and you are able to make the same amount or more money. You have to think about your future. This of course assumes that A. He doesn't expect you to give him free sex on an ongoing basis and B. You really think he will not tell ANYONE which is a huge IF and a big risk.

Frankly though I think that HE is crazy to do this for you. I am not insulting you in saying this since I have no idea who you are or anything about you. But I seriously question HIS judgement in bringing you into his office given how he met you and how he knows you. If anyone finds out he is fucked and it could easily happen. You get a sales guy who happens to have seen you, he tells one person,  and it's all over.  So consider that too - it's an enormous risk he's taking or he's either crazy or not that bright.

If you are hesitating there is a reason!

Even though we discussed the details of the relationship(s) I think I'm not going to except the offer there are way too many risks!

risks that would surely outweigh the benefits.

After all-- if you really do have the qualifications, education, and inclination to pursue this job-- why not take those same attributes and pursue it in a neutral location?  

Having a boss/colleague with intimate knowledge of my "other career" would give me an ulcer, personally. The opportunities for blackmail, outing, indiscretion, and just plain creepiness abound.

Just say no

There are a few ladies that I've known take up offers like this, and the one or two that I still keep up with seem to have done well with it. Myself though, I have never had the guts to actually go to work for a client, so to speak :) The offers have been attractive, and somewhere I even have a regret or two for not taking the risk... but I had my reasons for declining, not the least of which being that I make a terrible employee and I'd hate to make one of my wonderful gentlemen fire me for riding a rolly chair through the halls and suggesting a "Topless Tuesday" policy at every project meeting.  

A few points for you to consider - how well suited are you for this job? Are you certain that you have the motivation and skill set required to really excel at it? If you take the job, you'll be putting *two* sides of your reputation on the line, and you don't want to make any aspect of you look less than awesome or you risk losing this man as both a boyfriend and a boss. I'm sure he thinks the world of you, but there's fantasy and then there's reality as always.  

Also, how close of a friend is he? Depending on your current relationship with him, are you sure that you want him to have access to your career life? Work is a pretty all encompassing part of people's lives these days, and many of us spend more time with our coworkers than our immediate family. Do you think you two would tire of each other after so much exposure? That answer may differ between you two, so it's extra important that you set clear expectations before you go into this. Lunchtime quickies are fun, but maybe not for everyone, every day if you're also being required to meet civie-style deadlines as well.  

Lastly, how good is the job? Research the industry standard for the position offered, and make sure that you're getting what you deserve here... making sure to account for any extra duties added to the job description.

Too many scenarios to point out here where you lose . Privacy money potential future opportunities when you decide you've had enough of this business and want to move on. And recruiting a potential hire while being intimate under discreet circumstances! Are you sure he's making good business choices and I'm sure this is not the first time he's Made these type offers.

Your a great gal with a unlimited future so keep this portion of your life private and separate.  

Just my $0.02

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