Am posting this as one who has spent nearly 30-plus years in "the hobby." My interests have run virtually the entire sexual gamut, including strippers, escorts, massage parlors, streetwalkers, transsexuals, and, of late, "amateur" utr types.
Sadly, about 9 years ago, one of these amateur girls and I became involved in a long-term "arrangement". We met on a routine basis of at least 1-3 times per week. In addition, there were "extras" around holidays, special events etc. She is married, with a modest income, and a husband who, I'm certain, knew about her arrangement with me.
Other long-time hobbyists will, of course, already know the sad end to my story..... Recently this woman has begun to find excuses not to meet up as we did in the past. She still calls and texts frequently, and we now have started meeting about every couple of weeks or so. And, as you can expect, at these infrequent meetings, I am also asked for a larger "donation" than in our former arrangement.
As I stare my 50th birthday in the face, let me say that I am a realist about the hobby......I know that providers.....even those with whom we develop long-term friendships.....come and go & virtually ALL relationships have an expiration date in this hobby. (Sometimes it's an hour; sometimes a decade or more).
I suppose my "lament" is not so much over the loss of this particular "relationship" so much as it is over the fact that, at nearly fifty yrs old, the chances of developing amything approaching the sexual heat that I have had with this woman (in or out of the hobby) are virtually nil.
Finally, I would say that perhaps I'm simply curious as to how some of my other fellow hobbyists have extricated themselves from these types of arrangements. I genuinely like this woman (not love lol); however, I'm pretty much an ATM for her and her family at this point...and little else. And, honestly, I'm growing a little tired myself of handing large sums of cash to what has become an infrequent (and kinda reluctant) sexual partner.
In short, I know that it's time to close my wallet after 9 yrs and move on, but am unsure as to the best way to do it. In addition, I'm thinking that this would a good time for a nice little hiatus from "hobbying" for a while. I know I'll probably never "retire" from it completely; but this seems like a pretty good time to put the brakes on the whole endeavor...........
Just my two cents, as they say.